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Why your 'first love' shapes you until today

Thu, 30 Apr 2026 08:07:42 GMT

How past hurts keep us trapped from attracting healthy new relationships

Over the years I’ve done a lot of subconscious mind work. If you’re interested in manifesting, that’s a mandatory aspect to rewire the subconscious mind and free yourself from old hurt, beliefs, and any pain you may still hold onto consciously or unconsciously.

When you wish to attract a new partner or new relationships in particular, no matter if in terms of business, leisure, or in a more romantic setting, it’s paramount to look at the old partners.

And what I came to realize, which quite shocked me, was how much our first loves can have influenced how we act still today, even if it’s years or decades later. In my case, I’m vulnerable enough to share two points here. I remember how I was always interested in spirituality. Not that I loved specific practices or it was ever my goal to become a meditative guru in India, but I could feel deep down there was more to life. It sparked my curiosity, and so I started reading spiritual books.

Since it was my first relationship and I didn’t have any previous experience, I told my first boyfriend about it. And his reaction was not what I expected. He rolled his eyes, put a rather ridiculous smile on, and said something along the lines of “omg spirituality." And I could feel he wasn’t convinced, and in fact, he gave me the feeling as if I were somehow crazy. In that moment I laughed it off, pretending that all was well but what I didn’t realize was how much this reaction impacted me years later without me being aware. I can thoroughly understand his reaction; after all, we were both 17 or 18 years old, and it is more common for people our age to party than to read spiritual books.

What happened? After his reaction, I shut off. I developed patterns. That is a common response when one has experienced pain or has been vulnerable enough to share something personal, only to feel misunderstood. I learned it wasn’t safe to speak my truth or follow my true hobbies. Deep down, I felt ridiculed. Although I’m sure that this man’s reaction wasn’t nearly as bad because he didn’t break up with me; quite the contrary, he’d sometimes make some silly jokes my subconscious mind was listening to. And it was constantly sending out the signal "danger." I didn’t feel safe to be myself.

What was the consequence? Back then, I was not aware of that subconscious block. Instead, it resulted in an unconscious pattern where I hid my spiritual aspect for years, if not decades. In the following years, I wouldn’t tell anyone, romantic prospect or friend, about my spiritual curiosity. I was in fact hiding my spiritual books under my bed whenever someone was coming over. Sounds odd? Yes, absolutely. But unconsciously, I felt terrified of another ridiculous smile or judgment. This behavior was primarily an unconscious pattern resulting from a trauma response. So what I came to understand over the years is trauma isn’t just related to sexual misuse or anything really bad. Trauma can be things and experiences we wouldn’t even think of as traumatic in the first place, but they now simply hinder us from being our true selves.

Now years later I remember more of my previous life, so I can see that a lot of our trauma has its roots in previous lives, but that would be too much to go into right now. What were the consequences of that incident when I was 17 years old? I did not pursue my spiritual curiosity. I kept it to myself. It resulted in hiding. I felt almost ashamed because I was naturally drawn to a topic that is highly misunderstood and questioned by society. My subconscious mind picked up the belief. “Spirituality isn’t safe. It makes you sound and look like a fool.” I had experienced exactly the same aspect in a previous life.

So at some stage I realized how I couldn’t be my true self. I was constantly hiding or "performing." I was trying to play that good girl, only saying things the others approved of. Let me tell you, over the years I developed such an inner misalignment. I stayed single for longer than I anticipated because every time I got to meet someone, I lost myself. I tried to adapt, people please, and accustom my interests.

I felt much clearer, happier, and more aligned when I was on my own. I could read spiritual books and journal about deeper topics without fearing to receive any negative looks. However, I failed to recognize that I was trapped in that situation. I was hiding my true self. I attracted the wrong people because I wasn't really myself. My pattern played out here.

Years later, when I found out, I had to heal that aspect. And it was the first time I recognized how this old hurt was lingering in my subconscious mind. How that belief that formed around that experience was saved in my subconscious mind as "dangerous."

So later, when I healed that aspect, I had to learn to claim my spirituality. And two decades later it has become my mission to make the internal world and subconscious mind clearer to others.

Now I started to claim my spiritual aspect; something odd happened. I’m sure it might have repelled certain types of people, such as those who are skeptical of spirituality or prefer more conventional approaches to life. In the past I couldn’t have dealt with it well. Today? Something has shifted after my subconscious healing. I’m no longer concerned in the same way I used to be. Someone laughs about spirituality? I no longer feel the need to conform. I’m not proposing any of my opinions on others. They don’t have to follow me or read any of my personal findings. I no longer diminish myself to conform. Yes, at times I may still feel somewhat awkward but not in the same way I have before. I now let my love for my hobby rule my reality instead of that fear. If they don’t like it for who I am, they can leave. Something I wouldn’t have done earlier but something that comes with more experience.

And now the absolute miraculous result? I’ve started to attract different types of people and opportunities. People who get me or have a similar interest but almost a similar awkwardness. And that’s what I learned.

1) Old hurt from past relationships lingers in the subconscious mind and shapes a lot of your patterns and behaviors more than we may sometimes think. It can hold you back from attracting a healthy relationship as your behaviors influence your new reality.

2) Whenever you start "performing," you’re prone to disappointment. You attract people who never really meet the true version of you. They often meet a surface-level version. But true intimacy often comes with vulnerability and a deeper emotional connection. What really happens is you hold yourself back from attracting a healthy new relationship because the “right” people that would understand you can’t even find you when you’re not yourself or hiding your true interests.

3) I never laugh at other people nor judge their hobbies or fields of interest. Because I experienced how awful it can be. If the other one has a field of interest I can’t stand or agree with, I leave or distance myself. Silently. No judgment. No ridiculing. I understand that we’re all different and we can have all sorts of interests and hobbies. Today I'd rather be myself and allow myself to connect with like-minded people, even if it’s a small circle, rather than accommodate other people’s interests, looks, or needs.

4) I learned to stick to myself. Don’t change for another one. Losing yourself is one of the most painful experiences. And people often realize this years later because it’s often not obvious. It’s very subtle.

The conclusion? If you wish to attract a healthy partner, you most likely need to heal subconscious blocks or hurt you may have still stored from past relationships, especially the first ones. Why? Because with the first love, we’re without judgment or previous pain. We’re still vulnerable. Of course this is not a generalization that may apply to each single one of us, of course, but overall, it’s the fun part about being young. There’s a certain naivety, or let’s say carelessness almost, which isn’t meant in a bad way. What I talk about is more like the vulnerability to do or say things, as in that moment you don't even feel something may be wrong with it.

But their reactions or things you experienced may still linger in your subconscious mind and influence your behaviors in certain situations even today, more than you might think. That can be applied to any topic or pattern. If you were cheated, you may always be vigilant. You may never fully trust someone or shut off early. That’s a trauma response too. It’s your subconscious mind screaming, "It's not safe. You might get hurt again.” This isn’t necessarily true, as the new person may not be a cheater, but that subconscious block coming from a previous experience may hinder you from trusting.

So attracting new love is more than just going on dating apps. It often means looking deep within yourself first to ensure you’re mentally, emotionally, and energetically prepared; otherwise, you may just repeat the same patterns, and years later you ask yourself, "Why do I always attract the same type of men?" or worse, "Why can I not attract the right men or act weird around men?"

And those subconscious blocks can be the reason why.

Sometimes healing from old pain or retraining the subconscious mind is draining and uncomfortable. But the good part? It makes you feel so much more like yourself. And it can have positive outcomes. In my case, starting a blog has led to a healthier relationship with myself and other people. I feel truer to who I really am. My spiritual interest turned into my purpose later. This was an unexpected turn of events. You never know what opportunities it may present, so remain receptive.

I’m glad I didn’t give up on my spiritual aspect because today I get to help people understand their internal world and find answers they may not discover in regular books or learn at school. So in case you’re interested in spirituality or any “weirdness”—your weirdness may one day become your uniqueness.

Allow yourself to pursue that field of interest or passion no matter how odd or ridiculous it may seem to some.

Where Is Home? A reflection after spending time abroad

Tue, 28 Apr 2026 07:35:42 GMT

How to navigate the irritating question "Where's home?" after spending time abroad

Where’s home? Ever asked yourself that question? So did I. More than once.

Recently I returned from a two-month stay in Southeast Asia. While it initially took me some time to adjust to the new environment, you kind of get used to the new culture, different ways of being, and their daily life. When I came back to what I refer to as my hometown, as in my "birthplace" where I grew up, it felt random. Yes, there was a sense of home of course. It felt familiar. And yet, you realize you’re not the old version of yourself. That can feel stressing.

And there are two major possibilities that often happen. You either fall into the old traps or you feel like you need to move again or at least change something. You feel you can’t continue your life the way you did before you left it. This is mainly because you’re not the same version of yourself, you often feel the need of adjusting on the outside. What I realized in particular was how old clothes or even furniture no longer aligned. But it didn’t feel like a happy moment. Letting go of old versions of yourself feels like dying. You leave some old part of you behind. And while that moment can be disturbing or even challenging, you see how it has to happen. It’s part of life. You need to make room for the new.

The only constant is change.

I personally find this is an ongoing process. Not a one-time event. We undergo continuous changes, and with certain changes, the past cannot accompany us. In fact it binds us. It keeps us trapped in a way. Therefore, I have discovered that the only effective approach is to embrace the sadness. Allow the grief. Grieving old versions of ourselves can be a real thing.

I remember when I was a young kid and I grieved that I outgrew my favorite trousers. It felt heartbreaking. And after you allow that sadness and give honor to your path and all your past selves that led you to where you are today, you come to a point where you find gratitude and a new lightness. Even if the path is not yet clear. Even if you have no idea where to head next, you know most likely you can’t continue the same way you always have. It just no longer feels aligned. I feel it doesn’t only happen in our individual lives but collectively too. Cultures and towns are changing, which requires adjustment. There’s a different time and different opportunities, but the old is gone. You can feel it in the air as if the ancestors' spirits echo.

So after living or spending time abroad, you suddenly ask yourself, "Where's home?” When you move abroad, you're a foreigner in that new country. But after a longer stay abroad, you now even feel like a stranger in your home country. As much as many of us like travelling and spending time abroad, there can come a time you feel like settling down. But for people traveling and exploring the world, this can be frightening. Not because of staying in one particular place, but rather, to be confronted with the question: where is my home now ?

I believe there’s not a right or wrong way when it comes to settling down or thinking about it. There’s only the way that works for you. And as with all in life, you sometimes have to try what works for you in particular. That can be different for each single one of us.

What I’ve found for myself is this.

Home is in the heart

When you feel good with yourself, no matter where you go, you carry that warmth. You know how to be comfy even if your body temporarily feels uncomfy in the new environment. In the moment I wonder, "Where's my home?" without having a direct answer. I center within myself. I ground myself even deeper.

Feeling the energy of a place

Secondly, what I feel makes you come closer to the answer to that question is to perceive the energy of a place. Places carry energy too. That’s why some places feel light and others feel heavy. Some feel inspirational; others feel dull. So the atmosphere of an apartment can have a great impact on how you feel.

Engage with the surrounding

Thirdly, home is what you make out of it. It’s the people that make a place special. If you engage in life, initiate something, or open yourself up, your home takes on a new meaning.

Stay where it feels good right now, it doesn't have to be forever

Fourthly, it’s good to embrace a place as your home without feeling this has to be your forever place. This takes out the pressure. There can be such pressure of making the right or wrong decisions. Sometimes we’re pulled towards places, and they’re exactly where we need to be or what can teach us valuable lessons.

Let your heart choose where it takes you next

In times of social media and AI, there’s an increasing amount of loneliness arising. People mingle less. They meet less. There’s less art. While AI can have a lot of benefits for making our lives easier, it’s important not to lose our connection to ourselves. Not to lose the creativity. This is what shapes us. It’s not Alexa answering questions; it’s asking our heart the question: what feels good next? The more heart-aligned we are, the more we feel drawn to places, activities, and people that can give us a sense of belonging.

Remind yourself you're a temporary visitor

Yet, "Where's home?” sometimes remains almost a mystical question. Because on a deeper level, we’re here on Planet Earth temporarily. It’s not our true home. Some souls originate from other star systems or, in the end, from the ether. The nonphysical. That’s why on some days when I feel confused and ask myself, "Where's home?” I remind myself it’s deep in my heart. I’m reminded that I’m a temporary visitor, and instead of being sad or going into over-doubt, I try to remind myself to make the most out of the moment as long as I’m here. Planet Earth is my temporary home now. There’s something beautiful dissolving underneath. The attachment to a specific culture, identity, or place. You realize you’re neither this nor that. On a larger scale this helps you detach a little more from the strong human role and connect a little more to the soul that isn’t bound to a specific place or identity.

Allow yourself to experience different versions of yourself

Lastly, I remind myself of why I’m here. To experience different versions and identities of myself. I came here for the experience. And so I don’t have to stay the same all my life. It’s ok to let go of past versions. Even if sometimes it feels easier, sometimes it feels more hurtful. I always imagine how trees go through the same dying process each autumn. They drop their leaves. It made me become aware of how nature is so used to the dying process and letting go of the old. Only we humans sometimes hold on to so many things: old memories, old identities, old structures. Imagine nature would resist change the way a lot of humans do; we wouldn’t even have food.

Focus on being more, not just doing more

Being home reminds me to focus on being more instead of doing more. What people used to call “fear of missing out," referring to a phenomenon to engage in the latest trend, now has slowly turned into an emerging concept of “the joy of missing out." The question of being home reminds us it’s not always about exciting highs and moments that fill you with immense adrenaline; it can be a calm evening at home filled with nice music and candles knowing you're exactly at the right time at the right place.

So if you’re currently also going through a period where you ask yourself, "Where's home?” Allow yourself to access deeper layers of yourself. While the grieving and dying process can be hurtful, most likely this process brings you to new realizations or a shift in the way you do, think, and perceive things.

Every time I feel off in a place, I make myself become aware that it’s a perfect moment to anchor deeper. To connect a little deeper to my soul instead of my human identity. One day, this whole life fades in the blink of an eye, and all there is is the memory. So let’s fill it with rich experiences and memories and appreciate that each year has its memories.

Did you ever experience déjà vu in another country? Like you felt you had been there before? That’s not random. There can be past life connections. I share more about how traveling made me remember my past lives in various countries. And that can contribute to the fact that you may feel so inspirational in some countries and so dull in other towns. Stay tuned.

Why healing diseases requires an energetic shift from within

Fri, 24 Apr 2026 08:16:15 GMT

Healing isn’t just about treating symptoms; it involves addressing the deeper causes of illness and supporting meaningful internal changes

Today I want to give you a deeper perspective on the deeper meaning behind diseases and how you can rewire your subconscious mind to kind of heal the root cause of diseases. What's happening these days is that a lot of people, when they are faced with a disease or they get a diagnosis, get into fear and panic. And this is a normal reaction. And what is happening on planet Earth is that a lot of people are treating the symptoms. And they're just looking at one main question: How can I get rid of the disease? And they treat the symptoms, which is not a bad thing, obviously. But a lot of people miss the deeper meaning, what it actually caused. They miss the valuable question: What caused the disease?

If you kind of miss the deeper meaning, there are many different things that can happen. There’s a higher likelihood that the disease will return a couple of years later or that you may develop another disease because it can shift to another organ or body part if it is not eliminated subconsciously. Sometimes, you face the consequences of a surgery that left you unhappy, and you're dealing with the consequences if it went wrong or resulted in a lower quality of life. Many people are unhappy with their surgery or treatment. That's why I want to share what I have learned during my journey with diseases, especially for those like me who are seeking deeper answers.

A disease is not bad luck. It's basically your body talking to you. Your body is signaling that something is at dis-ease, not at ease. And today I want to show you that from an energetic perspective. We have to understand that everything in this universe works in energy. This is not esoteric, it's physics.

Understanding this concept can help you a lot when dealing with diseases. So from my personal understanding, diseases only exist in a certain level of consciousness, on a certain energy vibration. Let's say your reality is a bit like a radio sender or a TV sender. You know, when you switch on the TV, you watch a special movie, or you're presented a reality. It doesn't mean that this is the only reality, the only movie, but you are tuned into the frequency right now.

If you don't like what you're seeing, you need to switch the sender to have another experience, let’s say, watch a different movie. Like let's say you want to watch a comedy, which means you want to have more fun in life or you want to experience health. That's why the true healing is not treating the symptoms but the root cause. It’s linked to energy. You need to look at what caused it. And it's usually old patterns. It's something like trauma. It's low energy. It's some inner stuff you haven't processed. And that keeps you in that reality, in that vibration where diseases are possible. If you switch your energy to a higher vibration, let's say you rewire your subconscious mind and you kind of neutralize the trauma and the emotions from within, and you move into a state of joy and following your heart and reconnecting with yourself, well, guess what? Your body or your cells, which are the transmitters for consciousness, adjust to your new vibration, and they can actually kind of recover more quickly. And this is what happens when you sometimes see people who heal overnight, and it seems like a miracle. But in truth, they might have such a deep energetic shift, like something like an identity shift, or where they release something, that suddenly when they release this old pain and trauma, the body kind of recovers so quickly that the symptoms fade.

And this phenomenon is the kind of thing I would not even say it's magic; it’s the result of shifting energies within you. Sometimes when you shed old trauma or emotions, it can feel very dark. It's not that you feel good. It can feel like you're moving through hell internally. But that is the true healing or how you can actually really treat the root cause. Because if you treat the root cause, then you might even get the surgery to have that thing removed. It doesn't matter, or at least it doesn't mean you can't get surgery. But if you know the root cause, at least it doesn't come back because it's kind of neutralized. The lesson is learned. Otherwise, if you only treat the symptoms without addressing the underlying energetic patterns that led to your experience, you may still have energetic resonance points, as everything operates on energy. So later, this trauma kind of haunts you like, you know, it's not gone.

This is because the subconscious mind works a bit like a computer. If you have some old beliefs, it's just like some old files on a computer. You might not see them. You might forget about these old files. You might not think about the past or go like, "Oh, I have emotional trauma.” That's not how it works. It's not conscious, but it's running in the background, so to speak.

And this can cause you to repeat the experience and the lessons. Sometimes you see people that after a couple of months, they have another disease, or let's say they first had problems with their legs, and then they treated the symptoms. And then later they have problems with the heart because the trauma or the deeper meaning was not healed. You know what I mean?

That's why it's really important, or what I personally see as a big opportunity for humanity, to look a bit deeper and to go into energetic healing, which doesn't mean you can never make use of school medicine. Of course you can. But to really treat the root cause of the disease, look a bit deeper and become curious about what your body is trying to teach you.

Because otherwise, if you just treat the symptoms and then you go back to your old reality, please be aware that your old reality where you are right now brought you to that disease. So obviously you cannot go back in there because you risk having another disease, you know? So you need to change. Remember that example that I mentioned with the radio or the TV? You need to kind of shift the sender. In other words, you need to shift your energy from within so that in the future it might not happen again. And when you do that, you can actually experience the true healing from within.

That’s the kind of beauty about it. And also sometimes what's unknown to society, which is kind of kept secret, because obviously some entities have interests that are not in the best interest of society. There are some people on Planet Earth who make a lot of money from surgery, pills, and that kind of stuff. And you know what? Changing your energy from within is free.

Like, you have to imagine that it's free. You can do this right here and right now. You can start right here and right now. And you basically, if you know some of the tools, you don't even need someone outside. You don't even need to spend thousands of Euros. You know what I mean? Like, this is why sometimes it's not known to the masses.

I’m aware some people are doubting energy work. Some people might say that it's not working and it's all made up. However, it is important to note that science has confirmed that everything in this universe is made up of energy. So it's not even esoteric. It's physics. It's already proved by science. And secondly, people can't see electricity. You can't see electricity. So you can't basically see electricity, which gives you a picture on your TV, but you're not doubting it because you see the image on TV. And that's what I always say. You don't have to believe me or believe anyone. You just try it out. Try changing your energy and observe how your external circumstances actually change. Because that's the only way you can know. Like, a lot of people don't believe it, or some believe it and others don't. But believing is not knowing. How can you truly know if something works for you? You need to try it out and see the results for yourself. And as soon as you have like first successes, you realize, oh, this is kind of interesting. And that's why I always say don't believe in anything like that. Just try it out.

If you're currently going through a disease, learn to change your energy from within and just see what happens. This is not a guarantee to heal your disease straight away, although nothing is impossible. When you change your energy from within, you feel and see things differently than when you're in complete fear or just treating the symptoms. And that's a message I wanted to share and just raise some awareness that there are in fact other possibilities.

Why do good people turn ill? A soul perspective

Fri, 24 Apr 2026 07:40:15 GMT

A soul perspective

Have you ever asked yourself the question, why do so many good people turn ill?

Maybe you are affected personally, or you know someone who was affected, and you were kind of lost for answers.

I spent years trying to understand the subconscious mind and reconnecting with the intuition and was really curious to find out the deeper meaning of life. Today, I want to share some of the things I've come to understand over the years about diseases and what my spirit guides told me about that, and I want to share them with you to invite you to see a disease from a different angle than it is maybe commonly known on Planet Earth.

Firstly, what my spirit guides shared with me and what I came to understand is that good people, like us, need to understand that we are more than just our human selves.

We are more than just our human selves

Many of us here today have spent many lifetimes. We also refer to these as previous lives. And not all previous lives were so good. It doesn't mean we're bad. It's not judgment. But everything comes back. And sometimes a disease is a consequence of past actions or energies that still linger in our subconscious mind.

The second point I came to understand, and I was told by my spirit guides:

For the soul nothing is good or bad.

For example, we as humans might label certain experiences as "good" or "bad." It's usually our mind judging, "Oh, this experience is good and this is bad." But for the soul, there is no good or bad. It's an experience. And a disease is simply a different experience. It's similar to choosing to watch a horror movie instead of a comedy; you wouldn't label the person watching the horror movie as bad. You know what I mean? The person is simply going through a different experience. If you omit the judgment of good and bad, well, guess what? All that remains is an experience.

The third thing I came to realize is that being good is an illusion.

Being "good" is an illusion

Actually, when we refer to "good people," I was also part of that group. Good people are often people pleasers. They are not always themselves. They are not always their true selves. They often play a role. They put on a mask. They smile; even deep down, they might feel miserable. And that's sometimes the consequence of playing good. What is being good in the first place? It's so subjective. To on e person, this is good. To the other person, it's not good; it's impossible to have a general idea of what is good. So the real question is not about good people; it's about being real . And the answer is what the disease can show you, like where you're not real, where you're not your true self. And so the experience can be a very, very big learning lesson for these people.

The fourth point I came to understand is this:

For the soul, it's not always about what we define as good experiences and happiness.

Some people ask, "Oh, why does a higher force allow something bad to happen?" And such moments are when we understand the larger picture that it's just an experience and the soul is here f or the experience and for growth. Sometimes, growth doesn't occur in your comfort zone, especially when you repeatedly engage in the same activities, stick to your habits, or remain in the same job. You know what I mean? It happens when something, when you most likely ignore the signs or you fear change or you're not listening to your heart or whatever it is. And sometimes a disease has to wake you up. It has to shake you. And so the disease can actually become a wake-up call. I f you see it from those perspectives, suddenly you don't say, "Oh, why does that good person have a disease?" Y ou don't just see the human being. You see the soul playing a role.

Imagine we play chess. You know, I'm Laura. When I play chess, I choose like to play a character in a chess game. Imagine for the soul, the human is more like a chess game character. It' s a temporary experience you make, and you're here for the experience, for the growth; you're learning something, and you might release some old beliefs, and a disease can help you have new insights, new perspectives, or that person, even if it's such a bad position to be in, they can actually have such a deep realization on a soul level that you say, like, the consequence of moving through that disease can bring them so much growth that when they get out of there, it becomes so beautiful. Now some people might say, "Oh, but if you die," and that's the next point:

For the soul, there's no real death.

It's somewhat analogous to playing a game; for instance, in chess, your character may be eliminated. But you're still there. You are no longer actively participating in the game, but this does not directly affect who you are on a deeper level. You know what I mean? So most likely the person, this is based on free, if they choose to reincarnate or have a future life, well, guess what? That life most likely is going to be much easier, because they have had realizations right now. Other people may have had similar realizations in their previous lives. And now they have had their realizations, which allows them to approach life with a new perspective and greater understanding of themselves and others.

And that helps you understand that from a deeper perspective. It doesn't mean to not have compassion for people who are going through a sickness. I think it's very beautiful to have compassion and offer some help. But this is to understand that on a deeper level,

The soul kind of chooses that, or it agrees to the experience of having a disease.

It agress to the experience in order to have some deeper realizations, or to grow, to expand, or to release something old. There can be so many different reasons. But it shows that while it might be so hard to lose someone or observe a person suffering tempoarily, however, the consequence of that, the growth they're going through on a soul level can be massive. And that's why they agree to it from my personal understanding because, you know, you have to imagine that souls are eternal. When I speak of soul, I mean, like, it's energy.

Energy can't die; it can only transcend.

It can only change forms, and energy is eternal, so the human incarnation is just like when you play chess. It's like, "Oh, you spend like an evening playing chess out of a whole lifetime." So for a soul, it's just like a small bit of existence, you know, to have this temporary human experience. And so for the souls who cannot really suffer, t hey can only experience suffering through the human experience or the human being . It's not that hazardous. We perceive "bad" or "good" through our human experience, often through our limited mind. But when we see it through our hearts, we realize it's just a temporary experience. And then we can look at it from a different perspective and realize that

The disease is not punishment. It can be a gift in disguise.

It can help the person grow. And that can be the toughest thing to understand for the mind who says, "Oh, b ut it's so terrible." But we have to understand. We experience duality here on Planet Earth. We experience light and darkness, health and disease. We experience opposites. And occasionally we move through diseases to really appreciate who we are. We appreciate health, which we maybe take for granted. And you see that on a larger scale, on a soul level, beyond the human existence, duality that does not even exist anymore. So right here, right now, we experience duality, we experience the opposites so we can experience or have different experiences and make us realize a lot of things, such as the value of unity and interconnectedness in our lives. This experience can be profound; it can trigger a deep awakening within you, revealing your true self beyond your human existence.

Those perspectives are my personal views based on my current level of understanding. They serve as inspiration only. Take what resonates, leave what doesn't.

10 deeper spiritual meanings of diseases

Wed, 22 Apr 2026 09:14:06 GMT

Insights into understanding the deeper meanings of diseases

I am aware this is a very sensitive topic. Every journey is different so this serves as inspiration only for all who are seeking for deeper answers. This is not a generalisation that applies to all nor a general answer. It serves as inspiration for you to reflect deeper how it may apply to your own life or can help you enhance or even support your healing journey.

I channel texts and write intuitive books. What does that mean? My spirit guides give me topics to talk about. I simply write down the topics as they are revealed to me. This week the topic was about diseases. I wrote down 10 points. I felt guided to share those points.

In the past I didn’t always feel comfortable sharing the guidance from my intuition, as I am aware that those are highly sensitive topics.

But this time I just trust that some of you may be reminded or can get some inspiration from it just like I did. I've also recorded this in a 30-minute session. There's a link to the recording at the end of this article if you prefer listening rather than reading. This is a 30-minute session focused on exploring the deeper meanings of a disease and its true spiritual message that came through.

Connecting back to yourself. To your soul blueprint. To who you truly are.

That was the key message I perceived in those intuitive messages. Please note my work doesn’t replace any medical treatment or consultation with a doctor. It rather provides insights on the root cause and the emotional as well as subconscious and spiritual messages, which can support your healing journey. As I spent years understanding, learning, and navigating the subconscious mind, I found great healing in it myself, and I'm learning each day.

Everything I share comes directly through my intuition. This approach serves as inspiration to look at diseases from a different perspective. When I first did, the way I now deal with diseases has entirely changed. I no longer see them as a curse; I see them as a way to release and expand and explore deeper layers of myself. That’s what I invite you to do as well. Go within yourself and explore yourself and different facets. That is—if you ask me—where the true healing starts.

I encourage people to activate their self-healing power from within and give them journal prompts to reflect upon so they can start rewiring their own subconscious minds. So far I have done a lot of self-reflection and journaling on different life categories, challenges, or disbalances that have appeared in my life, which brought me healing, clarity & balance.

Here are the 10 deeper meanings

The path you‘re currently on doesn‘t make you feel at ease

When I say “the path“ doesn‘t mean it‘s wrong. But the thoughts, emotions and patterns don‘t reflect who you are. This is not judgment. This is your body speaking. Your body is signaling something to you. The body signals to you something is not in alignment.

So healing a disease is not just treating symptoms. That can be one aspect and obvisouly is part of the healing journey. But what caused it? Either the path you‘re on is no longer exciting you. Or you‘re on a path that excites you but you have old thoughts and emotions that don‘t suit it.

The disease teaches you to remember who you are

Sometimes a disease reminds us who we are when we forget, especially during times when we get too busy with life and often overwhelmed by stress and struggle. A disease can teach you if you forgot who you truly are: A powerful energetic being co-creating worlds. Imagine yourself as a pure energy being. This is your unique soul blue print. Throughout lifetimes, you may have picked up beliefs, trauma or emotions that are not true. You consider them true. They overshadow your light, your original soul blueprint. Your body mirrors that.

A disease can mirror your shadow aspects

Sometimes a disease can show us shadow aspects, patterns, trauma and anything old. Things we hide. Things we suppress. Things we wish no one would note. Things we don‘t want to deal with. It can be our own emotions, our own dissatisfaction, our negative thinking patterns, our habits that are long outdated etc. It can sometimes be karmic. Many souls are not here for the first time. This is not punishment. It‘s the energetic law of resonance. Everything you send out you get back. So the clear message is, don't look away. Face your own shadows.

Healing a disease can trigger a reality shift = an identity shift

It‘s not that you have to become someone new or someone you‘re not, but that you become a little more of who you truly are.

This journey can mean different things to different people:

Maybe if you have a heavy past and deal with pain and regret, it may mean making a little more peace with the past. Turn regret and pain into wisdom. To others, i t can mean you finally move out of your daily dull routines and do more of what brings you joy.

To others, it can mean you finally give up the pattern of being angry at the world all the time and start seeing the beauty that is all around you. If you focus on the ugly, you will find a lot of ugly things. If you focus on the beauty, you will find a lot of beauty.

Remind yourself of who you truly are

For a moment, close your eyes and focus on your breath: Ask yourself: Who am I beyond my disease, my roles, my identity, my thoughts, my worries, my fears, my doubts? Come back to your awareness and ask yourself: Who do I choose to be right now moving forward?

That alone can be healing. Do this exercise for a longer time or repeat it each day and you‘ll be surprised how your perspectives can shift.

Expand and don‘t make your worthiness dependent on it

See the disease as an experience that makes you realize something, that makes you expand. Even if it‘s uncomfortable, every challenge can teach us valuable lessons. Don‘t identify with the disease in the sense of feeling like a miserable person. See it as a temporary experience. That‘s how you can move forward with more ease. Ask yourself: How does it expand my awareness? E.g. you are here reading or listening to those words. That can already expand your awareness. You become conscious. Even if the outside can feel dark, focus on the inside now. Focus on how you can get out of it as a stronger version of yourself.

Focus on what can go well, not what could go wrong

Focus on your healing. When you no longer see it as a signal your body gives you, not a curse, you no longer ignore the signal. You note it. You can take action towards it. Now support your body. Focus on what can go right. Focus on the healing and how your body is recovering well. Don‘t focus on all the things that can go wrong. It‘s not helping. The more you focus on what can go right, the more you can shift toward that path.

Be gentle with yourself

Yes, depending on the disease or its grade, it can evoke fear or other emotions. But it‘s exactly that moment to remind yourself to be gentle with yourself. To practice a little bit more compassion with yourself. Sometimes we‘re so harsh with ourselves.

Become aware you shape your reality

Become aware that you shape your reality. You see the world through your unique eyes. Sometimes it‘s time to change your perspective. To challenge how you see the world and yourself. Remind yourself what you already know deep down. You shape your reality. What you believe in becomes your reality. Go from “I can‘t“ to “I can“. Go from “It‘s impossible“ to “I believe there‘s a path.“ That doesn‘t mean the journey isn‘t always smooth. But you open the path to possibility. It doesn‘t mean to never have fear. But you no longer let fear rule your reality.

Become aware of your interactions

Especially during a disease, the interactions with others can be important. Some relationships nourish us, some don‘t.

Surround yourself with people who uplift you. Build your own sunshine. Ask people for help if you need to. Ask for support.

But remember that some people may also be overwhelmed. They may sometimes not know how to deal with it. So open communication can help. Imagine it would be the other way round. How would you most likely react? This is not a time to blame others for your disease. It‘s more about using it as an opportunity to create harmony within yourself and your relationships and make peace with any person from the past that still lingers in your subconscious mind.

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Treat yourself on a Monday like you'd treat yourself on a Friday

Wed, 15 Apr 2026 13:36:11 GMT

Little shifts evoke big shifts in your daily life

I no longer live for Fridays; instead, I live for Mondays.

Many people live for the weekends and holidays. I used to be one of them, not just that, obviously. Yes, occasionally I would treat myself, but often the reality was different. I was too tired to. When I came home from work. I needed to relax. I often didn’t feel in the mood to do something. I would unconsciously postpone tasks to the weekend.

Later, I realized how much that behavior drained my life force energy and negatively impacted my quality of life.

Today I shifted. I live for Mondays. What does it mean? It was not a radical shift. It was a gradual shift I had to become used to.

I started by eating the breakfast I’d usually have on a Friday; I had it on Monday. At first I thought, like, who am I? I almost felt bad for treating myself on a Monday. Something that should be customary, to approach each day as if it is your best, felt uncomfortable to my former self.

Then I started dressing like I’d dress on holidays. That doesn’t mean I wore my most extravagant dress. No. But I would wear the earrings; I’d usually think they’re too much for a Monday. But clearly, they’re not. They make me feel positive.

Then I started putting on the perfume I’d usually wear on Friday. I remember a friend who once told me she’d have two perfumes. A cheaper one for every day and one for the weekend. While there’s no right or wrong and I completely understand this approach too, I started using the perfume I felt like wearing. Sometimes it was the one I’d usually wear on a Friday. I wore it on a Monday when I felt like it.

It doesn’t mean you should force it. But it allows you to shift your identity from low self-worth to your actual worth. You deserve a good life and to treat yourself whenever you want—every day, without needing others' approval or without feeling bad for it.

People like me who used to live for the weekend came to a point where life often didn't feel aligned. It can feel like something is missing. And yes, exactly that. Life itself was missing. The vibrancy. The aliveness. Aliveness doesn’t happen when you only allow yourself to be treated on the weekend. Then one day, even on the weekend, you become too tired or simply feel bad for treating yourself.

You deserve it though. Since I allowed myself to treat Monday like my Fridays, my life upgraded. And that’s the true lesson I learned. Life just doesn’t happen on holidays. It’s not always the big things, the major life successes that count. It’s the little things in daily life that bring a lot of quality.

It’s not always necessarily the big things that change a life; rather, it is often the small, consistent actions and moments that accumulate over time to create significant change. It’s the consistent little things in daily life. It’s a myth to change an entire life overnight. But if you change one habit or an inner attitude today, you’ll be surprised how much this little shift can already change in how you perceive and go through the days.

Sometimes the biggest shifts are silent. They seem mundane, but they have a bigger effect than you may imagine. Sometimes the biggest wins are not the ones where people clap, but the silent contentment you feel on a Monday morning with your favorite perfume and your yummy breakfast, thinking it’s a Friday in your holiday. No, it’s Monday. It doesn’t matter what day it is. You deserve it whenever you feel like having it.

It’s not because you may have nothing to do, but rather because you choose consciously to take time for that, as you know this will truly upgrade your daily life. Not just one day when you think you have more time to enjoy life; that moment may never come.

Of course it doesn’t mean you always have to treat yourself in big ways, but when you feel like it, you unapologetically do. Why? Life is too short to postpone your happiness until Fridays, holidays, or events that may never materialize.

You can’t expect sweet moments to come from living life by default day in and day out. You have to create those sweet moments.

And if you’re thinking my life feels tough. Then that’s a sign to treat yourself even more.

Expressing how you really feel can lift the emotional burden

Wed, 15 Apr 2026 11:11:11 GMT

Why it helps to not always carry everything alone

Sometimes we’re used to shutting down. Not expressing our true feelings often feels safer.

Sometimes it comes from old experiences or our own upbringing to keep ourselves contained.

Sometimes it even comes from religion or our culture, which makes us believe we always have to be friendly and kind.

And ideally, if you’re truly balanced, I believe every person is friendly and kind deep within.

However, reality can look different.

People and situations can trigger us and truly make us angry.

For a long time I used to believe it’s not okay to be angry.

I learned to suppress my anger. I learned to process it on my own.

I would sometimes smile at the exact person who made me angry and later process it on my own.

It’s left me with a lot of internal burden without being aware of it.

Until I could no longer bear it.

I felt exhausted without knowing why I felt exhausted.

I had heavy internal conflicts no one on the outside would ever know I had.

It’s a part I kept to myself.

On the outside, I may have appeared calm.

Deep within me, I was overwhelmed by a storm of anger I could barely process.

Until one day, I could no longer bear it.

I came to a woman who is a psychic, which means she can read energies, and she highlighted this to me.

She said, "Laura, you’re emotionally exhausted. You swallowed so many emotions.“

For the first time I felt so shocked. I wasn’t even aware I was doing it.

Until I spotted the pattern of rarely communicating how I rarely felt.

Vulnerability can be scary. It’s still something I’m learning or at least improving.

Being vulnerable means you express what you truly feel.

It’s like an open bonbon that you rather keep wrapped in safe paper.

Being vulnerable doesn’t mean to overshare your entire internal world with everyone.

It means opening up when you feel it’s too much for you to carry alone.

Some people have become so independent.

They navigate every emotion, every fear, and every challenge alone.

While this can work for a while and a certain internal work comes with your own internal processing, sometimes the burden gets too heavy. Especially when we try to appear strong or calm, deep down, we may sometimes feel insecure, confused, or even lost.

I remember when I first started to communicate more of how I truly feel.

It was with a mentor I had back then who helped me navigate my energies.

After a while, I couldn’t see the results I wished.

Instead of swallowing and processing my emotions internally,

I expressed it externally.

My fears, my concerns, my disappointments.

You cannot believe how relieving that was.

I allowed myself to communicate how I really felt.

You cannot believe what I got from that.

It made me learn that you don’t always have to carry your emotions alone.

When you feel lost, it’s ok to ask for help or express it. You don’t have to appear to be strong and have it all figured out all the time.

Especially when we’re expanding, no matter if personally or in our business, there can be times of confusion right before the next path is revealed.

I remember every time I went through a major internal shift, I felt a period of heavy confusion.

There’s such a relief in not pretending to be someone you’re not.

And if you’re going through a hard time, the easiest way is to connect with others.

At times, you may wish to keep to yourself.

Other times, the burden feels too much. Then you know what? Don’t hold back.

Say it.

Even if people don’t reciprocrate your feelings or think you’re dumb,

1) By letting it out, you free yourself from emotional burden.

2) You'd be surprised how people will listen and start relating to you. Now when someone knows how you really feel, they can be more supportive.

3) Emotional breakdowns are nothing to be scared of. They’re part of the human journey. Anger, disappointment, and frustration have taught me more than joy ever has. They become a true barrier if you either stay stuck in those emotional roller coasters or start to act emotionally.

4) The connection deepens through vulnerability. I remember when people would suddenly open up on how they really feel or what they struggle with. Suddenly, you connect to someone on a deeper level. It’s not so much about small talk and talking about the shallow stuff; you get to know someone much better.

The powerful way of saying no

Wed, 15 Apr 2026 09:24:29 GMT

How saying no can upgrade your identity for opportunities that are more aligned

I was a people pleaser all my life.

I rarely saw my true worth.

And I’m still working on it.

When I say seeing my true worth, I don’t mean that in an arrogant way.

Because deep down, I feel so many people struggle with recognizing their true worth.

How does it show up? In patterns.

Saying yes when you mean to say no. Compromising at the expense of your joy. Accepting something you usually wouldn’t accept.

How does it show up in real life? Saying yes to the job offer that underpays you and doesn’t appreciate the true value you bring by showing up

Let me think about it. No.

Saying yes to a man who leaves you confused and not wanting anything serious. But he wants to keep the contact with you.

No.

We fall in love with people’s potential. We think one day they may change. One day they may see my true value in my job. We love to see the potential, not the reality.

Right now their behavior doesn’t show it. They underpay us or take advantage of our presence, which means they don’t see our value. Yes, people change. People change their behaviors, but what does it do to you? Imagine staying in a job for 2 years where you constantly have to prove yourself? That feels draining. It’s not flow.

Chatting with a man whom you think may one day change his mind and eventually choose you? That feels nerve-wracking. If he isn’t sure about you in the first place. If you’re not his first option, justifying you’re the right one often results in moments of inner despair.

I understand. People say, "What if I don’t find another job?" What if I don’t find another partner? I used to think in those terms, too. The truth is that's the fear speaking , not your true inner self, who knows the possibilities are vast. But new possibilities can’t reach us if we’re constantly underselling or acting out of fear.

It doesn’t mean to never have fear again. But whenever fear arises, do not allow yourself to be ruled by it. The truth is this: saying no doesn’t mean we stay lonely forever or without a job. The contrary—even if it’s so bloody scary not knowing the next step or opportunity

If we say no to the opportunities that don't feel aligned, the right ones can come faster.

But in our mind, we love control. The idea of trusting the path is scary. It’s not for the faint-hearted. But that inner trust of not underselling yourself but rather sticking a little longer can open paths to possibilities you never considered possible. It requires more than just waiting for better days. It requires an identity shift. Not to ask, "Will there come another opportunity if I start no to this one??” To “I trust that new offers show up when I say no to this one. When I no longer sell myself under my worth."

This is not arrogance. This is protecting your energy and your heart.

The power of walking away silently

Wed, 15 Apr 2026 09:09:40 GMT

How certain human interactions drain your energy and why moving away silently can be a true power.

Human interactions can be challenging at times, no matter if they are in business, romantic relationships, family, or with strangers. Sometimes there are situations where people trigger, hurt, or disappoint us. We may not feel appreciated or entirely understood with our opinions. And there’s a general, often unconscious pattern that often plays out: Justifying. Fighting. Now we do not feel seen; we start a fight. Not because we want to start a fight, but we want to make our opinion clear.

And in certain situations this approach can be the way forward. Honest communication about your feelings can take away misunderstandings. However, there’s a subtle difference when it makes sense to communicate openly and when it’s time for a much more powerful path.

The path of moving away silently.

There’s a real power in this approach. And this method only makes sense when we feel the relationship no longer makes sense. At times, we outgrow old situations and relationships with people. We feel something no longer matches. We hold on due to familiarity or politeness, or a fear of losing them. But here’s the point. If you don’t feel entirely understood, seen, or appreciated, or if you don’t share the same values and hobbies and feel like your identities have shifted, the question becomes omnipresent: do I want to keep that relationship up for the sake of it?

I’m not speaking of running away from rough situations. I’m talking about relationships, encounters, or situations where we repeatedly feel less. In these situations, we often leave feeling unmotivated and drained, time after time. That doesn’t mean the person is bad, but simply their attitudes, communication style, or general preferences may differ. Life changes and so do we.

What's behind the power of walking away silently? It happened to me once. I remember it was someone I knew and whose services I occasionally booked. Until my treatment as a customer or mentee felt misaligned. Although I appreciated the person. But with increasing discontent, I stopped justifying my needs. I simply walked away to where I could find someone who would meet my needs. The truth is the more we justify or beg for something, the more energy and time we put into that. And if it’s something where you don’t feel understood, that can take tons of effort. That night something powerful within me shifted almost like a new perspective opened up. If they fail to meet my needs, appreciate my perspective, or are willing to meet me halfway, they don’t deserve my time and energy. I want someone who I resonate with. Suddenly I no longer tried to fight for making something happen, which I had been trying for the past 3 times. I raised my standards of what I’m willing to accept and moved away silently, recognizing that I deserve relationships that align with my values and expectations.

For the first time I realized I usually see the potential in people instead of the reality of who they are. If their behavior doesn't match the values or what they promise continuously, why waste time and energy to make it clear to them? The power of walking away silently from relationships that no longer align with the path forward makes you break subconscious cycles.

1) The need to be right: sometimes the desire is so unconscious. We want to be right. And so we justify. Right. Prove that our opinion counts. But it’s useless. When you no longer wish to be right, you make space for the things that feel right for you. And those things come effortlessly. You don’t have to fight for them.

2) There is a need to be seen and accepted. Sometimes we argue or express our opinions because we desire to be acknowledged and valued. We may unconsciously crave someone's validation. But in that moment when you remind yourself to give yourself that validation and see your worth instead of begging for it from another one, something shifts within you. You rise from within.

3) Clinging to old people without reason. The old feels familiar. You know about people and services. Places you know. Situations you know. They all feel familiar. Familiarity means safety. But the familiar events are not necessarily where the growth happens. It’s not really that those familiar partnerships always make you feel good or help you grow. Sometimes misaligned relationships or partnerships of any kind need to fall away so the new ones can appear. And when you have a strange feeling about them, that can be a sign. If you no longer try to attach to the old for the sake of it, you let go. You allow to fall away what needs to fall away. What’s meant for you will stay. And people who were never meant for you can’t stay. If you allow what needs to fall away without attaching, controlling, or forcing anything for its sake, something powerful shifts deep inside. You realize you don’t have to be dependent on anyone. You realize how much you hold on because it’s familiar or you got used to it.

That’s the moment when you ask yourself, do I really want to nurture this business or person or relationship anymore? If this person doesn’t meet my needs or no longer aligns with my values, do I really need to put my time, effort, and energy into writing that particular email or having that specific conversation? You breathe in for a moment, and in your mind you close the door behind you, and you just walk away silently. That’s a true power.

No energy. No effort. No time.

Instead, you trust that the universe will align you with new people, opportunities, and situations that match your values and your new identity. You are no longer in a place where you have to endlessly fight to feel seen. This is not an attack on someone for doing things in a particular way. You allow them to be who they are, and you choose to walk away.

That’s how you make space for the new. You no longer move in endless cycles and karmic patterns; you are finally on a path of expansion. That can feel as exciting as it is creepy, as you may have no idea where you’re headed, but trusting in a new door opening can be far more aligned than constantly revisiting the old. You no longer try to change someone else or make them change their minds or attitudes; you choose who you allow to interact with. You upgrade yourself by no longer begging for the things you wish for, which leads to darkness again and again.

How to deal with regret for lost opportunities

Sun, 12 Apr 2026 18:46:28 GMT

How old grief can hold you back from feeling joyful now

Everyone talks about dreams, but people rarely discuss scattered dreams turning into regret or longing.

Usually you hear people tell their story. It starts with drama or a massive problem or something that felt terribly wrong, and then people move through it and tell you the happy end. It makes you want to copy their strategy or learn more about how they do it. And by all means, that can help. But what no one rarely talks about is the scattered dreams and failures. The missed opportunities. The things you craved for but never had.

Not necessarily because you’re late in life or behind others. But it’s the feeling it can give you. It’s a silent ache deep in the heart, almost hard to access.

Sometimes it comes as loneliness. Sometimes it comes as guilt. Sometimes it comes as the feeling of failure. Sometimes it comes as the feeling of not being good enough. No matter what it is. Romantic love, a business opportunity, travels, or an entirely different aspect — I find that it’s an increasing phenomenon a lot of us experience, especially if you approach your 30s. Sometimes it hits you later, sometimes earlier.

Social media doesn’t necessarily improve it but worsens it. You see others in a perfect relationship being happily married and having a kid. You see others at perfect travel destinations and think to yourself, "Why didn't I travel earlier in life?" You see others in perfect businesses, wondering why you didn’t take the opportunity. And while I moved through a similar experience of suddenly grieving certain experiences I never had earlier in life, I learned a couple of profound lessons.

1) Grief manifests in waves. Grief is not just about losing a person. It can be about a lost or missed opportunity or the feeling you missed out on something or deep down you crave something you never had and only become aware of it now.

2) Grief isn’t bad. Whenever we grieve old experiences we may never have had, it’s important to do so. Too often we were taught to be happy and never feel any "weird" emotions. However, ignoring emotions that feel too uncomfortable to experience may provide temporary relief, but it ultimately does not lead to long-term improvement. The emotion wants to be felt.

3) Grief or the feeling of a lost opportunity or missed chance can upgrade your timeline. As tough as grief is, there can be a wave of sadness sweeping over; it’s important that every experience serves a purpose. We’re never late or behind. Each life is unique. And sometimes a missed opportunity teaches you exactly that. They become your greatest teacher. They show you your pain points. They show you where you couldn’t be yourself, where you didn’t fully stand behind yourself, and where you acted out of the limited self. While the realization can be painful, it’s as eye-opening too. Finally, you realize it. You’re no longer tapping in the dark, living your life unconsciously like most humans do. Only when you notice your patterns and what went wrong can you get closer to identifying what it exactly is that holds you back from living your dreams.

4) This type of grief can make you come closer to your true inner desires. Once you allow yourself to feel the grief and any heavy emotions that may arise, you slowly start to spot the patterns. That’s when you start moving from an emotional state to a more accepting one of what is kind of state. You come to the point where you finally realize what you truly want and what you are no longer willing to tolerate. Even if the exact opportunity may not come back, for some, there may be a similar experience just in a different setting.

5) The ideal image of a perfect life. Sometimes the grass always looks greener on the other side. Behind the perfectly crafted love stories on social media are most likely also discussions and moments of doubts. Behind the perfect travel stories and images you see on social media are most likely also certain challenges, be they financial, emotional, or mental. It’s easy to compare ourselves to others, but we only see a small part of it. It's about to leave behind the ideal image of a perfect life. No life is perfect.

6) You develop a stronger love for yourself. Now you move through the grief, you spot your patterns, and you stop the comparison; you realize all is good. You realize that there is no room for "what ifs." You have to accept reality as it is. You come to a point where you may ask yourself, "What do I really wish for and why am I postponing it any longer?“ Now this stage is not so much old grief, only if you choose to stay stuck in it. It’s not so much about the choices you didn’t take; the question becomes centered around your current life. It’s not so much "If only I traveled more. If only I had searched for a partner earlier. If only I created my business earlier. If only I made peace with my family earlier." Or whatever may apply to your life, the "if only“ turns into: What am I doing right now having that kind of knowledge? Stay stuck in the old pain or move in with a greater awareness? Am I repeating the same patterns by not fully choosing myself or my life, or am I approaching it differently this time?

You see here it becomes the toughest part. Because it’s not just about wishing things to be different. It’s about making them happen. It’s about taking bold moves. It’s not about playing small anymore. The truth is this. You can always start over in life. People travel at 20, 30, 40, up until their 80s. Just because you didn’t travel in your 20s doesn’t mean you can’t have the time of your life in your 40s. Having the type of love you crave in your 30s, 40s, or 50s is possible, even if you didn't have it in your 20s. People travel at any age. People find love at any age. People become self-employed at any age. Harland Sanders was 62 years old when he began franchising his Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC) recipe.

Our mind may give us plenty of reasons. "We're not as beautiful anymore. We’re not as dynamic anymore," but that’s the power of age. You become less dramatic and more experienced. You know what you want. Yes, the younger years, where you may have acted more spontaneously, may have felt more carefree at times, but it doesn’t mean everything was perfect when we were younger. I know people that found love in their 20s, only to split up in their 30s because their values drifted apart. I know people that changed jobs in their 30s because the job they did in their 20s felt useless. Sometimes, we reflect on the past and the "carefree years" with a sense of nostalgia. And that’s the last point.

7) Focus on the here and now. Each age brings you a different set of experiences. The butterflies and excitement we felt in our 20s may also be a significant burden for our nervous systems. Sometimes butterflies don't mean safety. It was more like insecurity disguised as something exciting. For a moment, when you stop comparing your life against any other life, when you stop trying to fit into societal expectations, when you just see your life as if you were the only one living here with no expectations, pressure, or standards, you may even gain a completely new perspective. You may treasure each experience and get excited as you get to spend another day. At that moment, you realize that you can either remain stuck in the past, dwelling on what you did or didn’t do, or you can appreciate each experience and lesson learned, allowing yourself to move forward with greater awareness.

You focus on what you have right now or who you have become all along the way. And I guess if you’ve read until the end here, you exactly know how much you’ve grown and that deep down, you’re not so well off after all. Remember there are people at their deathbeds who can’t read this anymore who have far deeper regrets than you may have right now.

This is a beautiful testament to our souls' journey, as we deep down know that we are so much more. We hold so much more potential than we give ourselves credit for. We hold so many more heart’s desires than we allow ourselves to live. Deep down, we just crave to feel appreciated, held, loved, and fully seen and chosen the way we are. There’s a deeper trust arising that everything happened for a reason. Every experience served a deeper learning lesson, and sometimes it’s good old karma. Right now, a lot of us are releasing a lot of karmic structures. We’re releasing old energetic chords that no longer align.

8) Let the past be the past. It reminds me of the old mobile phones back in the days. Some of you may remember "Snake" — the game that you may have played on your Nokia. It felt addictive back then. But do I wish to play that right now? No way. So everything has its place. Each past experience has its place, and sometimes you have to put it into that exact place. Leave the old, shut the door behind you, and focus on the here and now. Just like with phones, we have access to so many apps and opportunities like rarely before, and so it is with life opportunities, so it’s really not a time to stay stuck in the past. Recently, I saw a bunch of 80-year-olds having fun, laughing, dancing, and being dressed up like queens. This showed me you can have fun at any age. It’s not about age itself; it’s what you make out of life at any age of your life. Are you let down by it? Or are you making the best out of it?

That’s an individual choice.

3 tips on how to deal with mental fog

Sun, 12 Apr 2026 18:06:26 GMT

When the next step on your journey feels unclear

Sometimes life flows. It runs so smoothly. Things click, and new insights arrive. It brings you into a state of joy.

But what people rarely talk about is the time things don’t click, clarity isn’t there, the next step feels unclear, and you feel left in the dark. Yuck, that sucks! Yet it happens to so many of us.

People usually highlight the good moments. But not the moments of inner despair, helplessness, and almost frustration on the inner journey.

If you’ve been on the spiritual path, or are intuitive, you may have come across this.

And then there’s the silent, if not desperate, question: How do I get back on track? How can I get rid of the mental fog or a lack of clarity?

Here are my personal tips that I came across:

1) Calm down.

A temporary confusion doesn’t mean failure. It can be a time to re-evaluate. What brought you off track? What was going on over the past few days or weeks? Evaluate the situation to avoid it in the future.

2) Do something you enjoy.

The last thing you need is pressure. Pressure creates more resistance. Intuitive guidance comes effortlessly, not when we expect or push for it (I know it’s hard because it’s so tempting and we absolutely want answers and/or clarity!).

Do something you enjoy. Don’t focus too much on the mental fog. Go for a walk, paint, or take a bath. Do something you enjoy. That’s when your energy relaxes. Don’t focus on your business; don’t take any major life decisions in that unclear energy. Relax until clarity arises again.

3) Find your own inner rhythm again

The intuition and the guidance come back online when you get back into your natural rhythm. Sometimes we absorb other people’s energies, opinions, doubts, or fears. Sometimes we’re overwhelmed by our own emotions. It happens more frequently than we may imagine. Don’t judge yourself for that. Practice a little more compassion. Connect back to yourself. Maybe that means some form of meditation or journaling. Remind yourself of what helps you fall into your rhythm again. Sometimes it helps to take a social media break even just for the evening.

Rise from the challenges. Even if it’s tough and a very uncomfortable stage to be in, you’ll most likely get out of it stronger or with more awareness. Sometimes it teaches you something valuable. For example, you may learn the importance of protecting your energy, not neglecting your practices, or using greater discernment.

The more you allow yourself to just embrace this stage and slow down, the quicker you’ll move through it. It’s not a time to push further but to slow down. It’s like during a car journey. If your windows are dirty and you can’t see where you’re driving, you stop. You take a break and make it clean. You don’t question your path. You don't judge your car. And yet, it's not a time to keep driving when you don’t have a clear vision.

Although we may say we don’t have time for breaks, sometimes if you move in a direction without a clear vision, it can take you further from your path than any stop can. So if I’ve learned one thing, it’s the power of breaks, especially when you feel mental fog or lack of clarity. Whenever I don’t feel clear, I take a break. Even if my mind wants to push through or I feel I have so much to do. Discernment becomes key here.

Why A-Z self-help? Sometimes all we need is a word of encouragement. Some form of motivation or inspiration that nothing is wrong with us. That word can get us going again. Sometimes we don’t need big healing sessions or dramatic inner shifts. That’s what A-Z is for. To be a little light in moments of darkness. A place you can return to for guidance and encouragement. Quick, easy to access, and affordable.

All the guidance comes from my personal journey, as I’ve experienced as many lows as highs. It’s not about erasing one another but riding the waves and different stages of life and making you become a little stronger with each experience.

Together we’re in one boat and can make the journey of life a little more convenient.

About Laura

I’m an intuitive, empath and for many years pretty much an introvert (a couple of exceptions!). Somewhere along the path I learned it was safer to guard my internal world than to share it. But underneath, many introverts have a rich if not complex internal world which can feel as vast as the ocean. As I learned to navigate my internal world, I felt guided to share more of it openly and what helped me overcome internal challenges.

How wars can trigger our shadows on a subconscious level

Tue, 03 Mar 2026 12:19:03 GMT

The inner alchemy in times of global conflict

Over the past few weeks I reflected a lot about the world and my life, not in a dramatic way. But in a curious way. This process of reflection allows one to see things from different perspectives.

And while some of the world events may seem to escalate, I dared myself to see them from completely different perspectives I hadn’t seen yet.

It was no longer a question of right or wrong. It was no longer a question of blaming politicians or any system in the world. It was rather about coming to terms that what’s happening in the world is a reflection of our internal worlds.

What we see in politics is a reflection of how we act—often unconsciously—in daily life. This is not about blaming specific individuals. And sure, some people out there may have bad intentions, but let’s be honest:

But there’s one key element that stands out:

Who can say they're truly at peace with themselves and others?

I’m not talking about heroism and who's best. No.

What we see arising is our shadows.

to think in terms of nations and nationalities instead of one world sitting in one boat. We often think in terms of “us” (our culture) vs. them (their culture).

We judge if someone isn’t our opinion, religion, or ritual. Again, we think in terms of “them” and “us” as two separate entities.

We think in terms of right or wrong. Taking in two different sides. This behavior happens in workplaces, marriages, in our families, or even with our neighbors.

It creates one thing: separation .

And that’s exactly what we see on a global scale. In many individual lives, this attitude and consciousness are reflected, and it is not about blaming anyone. This attitude and consciousness are now reflected and mirrored back to us on a global scale. One nation is leading a war against another.

Half of the world hopes the politicians will find some way to ease the situation. But I don’t believe that’s the deeper way of solving this conflict. A politician ending a war is like treating the symptom of this problem, not the root cause. So the broader way to solve this conflict in my personal view is not on a political level. It starts within each one of us. The more we do it, the more successful we will be.
To ask ourselves

Where am I not at peace with myself?
Where do I still judge others?
Where do I still act out of separation rather than oneness?
Where do I still need to be right? In what areas do I still feel the need to assert my correctness?

and be in a win-lose dogma without realizing if someone loses, we all lose, as in the end, we’re one world. One Earth. One Gaia consciousness. Just embodying different aspects and facets, just like a piece of a puzzle can have many different colors and shapes. Those are the subconscious blocks that manifest into the physical reality.

A red piece of a puzzle probably wouldn't fit a gray one, but that's okay. It’s ok to be different. It’s ok to have different views and ways of approaching life.
However, they can coexist. They don’t need to dominate one another. They don’t need to be “right” or feel “superior” or claim this the ultimate truth.

They can coexist.

And that’s the beauty of what we’re waking up to. That many different nations. Nationalities and customs can co-exist.

We don’t need to separate or fight each other just because we’re different. We can quite literally unite in our differences while respecting another one’s faith, ritual, or opinion without trying to fight them or attack them. And if we manage that on an individual level, our lives start to change. It’s where the inner alchemy starts. There’s no more fighting. There is rather a sense of "That's me."
I assert my individuality, my distinct viewpoints, and my unique perspective. And this is why I felt like sharing. Usually, I avoid politics and keep my opinions to myself.

But today I felt the inner call. I’m not claiming my perspective here as the ultimate truth. It’s simply my perspective and my view that I claim and allow myself to have. And so I ask you: what’s your perspective? How do you see the world beyond what you hear in the news?

Challenge your beliefs. Challenge your consciousness. That’s how we grow. We grow not only on an individual level but also on a global one.

If you ask me, we’re on the verge of a global revolution. But we don’t transform systems by hoping they break or that a politician finally does something. That leaves us trapped in our victim consciousness. We transform them by transforming ourselves. When my neighbor is my friend, or when the person who thinks so differently is no longer my rival, there's space. Space for new ideas. Space to act anew. I need this space to embrace my true self.
I no longer vent about who’s right or wrong; I allow myself to grow beyond the concept of right or wrong, of simply a way of expressing human consciousness. My behavior and views, as well as yours, can have ripple effects on other people. And one day we realize it was never about politics.

It was about us. Claiming our perspectives. Questioning our identities. Facing our own shadows. We should not blindly follow a dogma or rely on news that may not accurately reflect our reality.

So next time you read the news and you get triggered, ask yourself: what is the news reflecting or mirroring in me? How does this challenge my perspective, or can I embrace a new perspective about this situation?

Because the politicians' behavior of being right or wrong is often really just our own reflection in our personal lives. We’re often similar. We all carry pretty much the same shadows within us. And one major shadow a lot of us carry deep within us on a cellular level is the idea of separation.

If I feel separate from the others, I need to fight. I need to compete. I need to win. When I perceive myself as a part of a larger entity where we are all united, I no longer feel the need to compete. I don’t need to fight anymore. Imagine more and more people start doing this.

Therefore, never underestimate your power as an individual (while the world is changing and challenges may play out on individual and global levels). True change doesn’t start in politics. It starts with us. In other words, you are a crucial piece of the puzzle. Right now, the world may need your uniqueness, perspectives, views, or anything you wish to share.

And so I dare to stand up for my views. I am taking the risk of making this public and sharing my unique perspectives on it. You don’t have to agree. If you don’t agree, then simply close this page. This content is for the ones who are open and like to challenge their own consciousness and their own way of seeing things. This is the free will we have. This is the moment we take manifestation to a new level. It’s not so much about individual pursuits only.
*My* well-being, *my* house, *my* money.

It’s more like a: How can we shape this world together? As a tribe? As a community? It’s about adding to one another, not outperforming one another, because we couldn’t build or co-create alone.

When you feel the call to embark on a new path

Sun, 18 Jan 2026 11:09:57 GMT

My personal story when my life crumbled and how I stepped in my deeper soul purpose

3 years ago I had a deeper awakening.

When I speak of awakening, it’s not necessarily in a spiritual or religious sense; I just felt there was more to life. The life I was leading back then was not bad. I had studied, got a job, travelled, and occasionally went to yoga. I had my moments, but still, it didn’t excite me. I couldn’t stop it. I just knew “now is the time to go.” “It’s time for something new.” No one prepares you for that moment. Because others don’t get you, and at the beginning, you don’t get yourself. But you feel it, you hear it, you sense it—you can’t ignore it. And so, three years ago, I dared to walk a different path.

Deep down, I craved more joy, freedom, and creativity. I craved the freedom to do what I wanted to do. And I studied books, attended courses, and learned from other mentors who once walked this path. I learned a lot. However, looking back, I realize at the beginning I was so mind-focused. I constantly tried to manifest with my mind. But the voice telling me, “there was more” was my own soul, my higher self.

It was the beginning of a deeper initiation. I decided to rely on my intuition as I progressed. I chose to trust my instincts over my thoughts. I chose to follow my passion over security. Yes, others call you crazy; sometimes you think you’ve become crazy. But then you realize, t hat’s what you’re here for.

We're here to enjoy all of life. This includes experiencing both the highs and lows. The adventures. The little moments in daily life count as much as the big goals. You realize there’s much more to life than a 9-5 and waiting for your holidays to relax.

That’s what I was waking up from. The many illusions we live by. Get a house, a job, and a partner. But then again, there’s something missing.

The missing element is the joy, the spark. The passion. It’s an energy. So when you follow that spark, it can take you to places you didn’t even know existed. You explore talents you didn’t even know you were good at. You explore facets and aspects about yourself you didn’t even know you had. You explore wishes and dreams that seem too wild to come true. But despite the doubt, once you trust and embark on that journey - such a journey has the power to transform your life. That’s what I want to inspire people with. I want to encourage people to pursue their passion. Dare to follow that spark or that little voice if it calls you.

Looking back, I can see that it wasn't always an easy time. I often felt lost and confused about my path.

I eventually realized that life is similar to a bike tour.

First, you have to know how to drive a bike.

You have to know the brakes; you have to understand what to pay attention to. E.g., you have to become aware of the roadblocks and the one-way streets.

But once you know the basics and the tools, no destination is too big.

You can explore the Highlands, and you can go on a short trip or a long trip. You can bike to the mountains or to the lake. Life is the same. You never know where it takes you.

And that became the most important realization and experience of the past three years.

No one can tell you where life takes you, and you don’t even have to know.

BUT… you have to know how to drive a bike.

That’s the prerequisite. If you don’t know how to drive a bike, you may have no clue.

This can lead to feeling stuck in life frequently.

That’s exactly what I help you with.

I’m not telling you where to go. I’m not giving you a strategy or a life plan. Life itself is both the journey and the plan. But I show you the tools and what to pay attention to.

Like a kid that knows how to ride a bike—it becomes unstoppable.

But imagine you don’t know the brakes and the one-way streets, and you try to bike to Italy—you may never arrive or arrive with long delays and detours.

I went through delays and detours myself. And now looking back, I found sometimes delays and detours serve a purpose—they make you realize things. They make you grow. They make you realize things you couldn’t have realized otherwise. So they aren’t a negative thing.

You can basically figure it out alone. It reminds me of a kid who can essentially figure out how to drive a bike without any help, but it's not always the fastest path. Over the years, I found it’s much easier to have someone else, like a sister or a brother, show you how to begin started. As much as the detours and one-way streets are sometimes our greatest teachers, they can also be our greatest blocks.

That’s why I created a masterclass. I summarized step-by-step how to get from where you are to where you wish to be. I don’t tell you where to drive. You need to determine where you wish to go. In other words, you need to feel for yourself what your dreams are or what you wish to experience next in life.

I’ll show you how you can get there.

And one day, you’ll realize that the moment you heard “It’s time to leave” and “Another path is waiting,” it was precisely the voice that guides you to where you wish to go.

We just need to follow along.

Often, we trust the mind more than the heart.

That’s where the dilemma can start.

If you put your mind over your heart, you’ll soon have a problem.

In other words, if you trust your mind more than your heart, you may head in a direction you don’t want to go.

The mind is not inherently bad, but it does have its limitations.

It only knows what it’s seen and experienced before.

A new path? A new road?

That can be overwhelming for the mind.

The mind may tell you things like “not possible,” doesn’t exist,” and “hallucinations,” not because the mind is bad, but because the mind simply doesn’t know.

It’s more based on logic and facts than truth.

It reminds me a little of two people observing a thunderstorm. One is a pilot who flies regularly, and the other one is a farmer who has never flown. The third person is a little kid.

The farmer says to the kid, “Look up in the sky; the sky is so dark, God must be angry.”

The pilot smiles and says, “Look up in the sky; the clouds are the densest, but as you rise, the bluer the sky becomes. The higher you rise, the more sun there is. Not a single cloud can be seen. The sky seems unlimited.”

The farmer and the boy exchange puzzled glances with the pilot.. “No no no,” the farmer says, “you don’t understand.”

He continued, “My grandma was a believer; she said God gets angry. God can be vengeful.”

“How do you know?” The pilot asks.

My grandma told me,” the farmer replies. “You have to obey.”

“Obey what?” the pilot asks.

You have to obey the rules so God isn’t so angry up there leading a war beyond the dark clouds.

The pilot now laughs. “There is definitely not a person leading a war. It’s pure sunshine up there beyond the dark clouds.”

What does this little story imply?

Sometimes you only know what you've experienced.

You might tell yourself stories in your mind that aren’t true.

Sometimes you may feel limited, but you can’t see that beyond your limitations is a limitless sky. Limitless potential. Limitless sunshine.

The pilot may not always know what to expect, but he trusts the radar.

The radar is like our intuition.

We have to trust the path, the journey.

I hope with this little story I can encourage you to reflect a little deeper.

That maybe, only maybe, there’s more waiting for you.

Much more.

There is potential within you that you didn’t even know you had.

There are projects and ideas within you that you didn’t even know you were capable of leading.

I’ve been there myself.

And I noticed the only way to find out is to walk the path and figure it out along the way.

If you need some tips on how to get started,

Like a pilot who takes off,

I’m pleased to share some tools that helped me a lot.

I’m pleased to raise awareness of some of the things to pay attention to, like the one-way streets and roadblocks.

This is what my Masterclass is for.

A useful summary of the tools you need to explore your talents, dreams, and gifts.

How solo travel can help connect back to yourself

Wed, 14 Jan 2026 09:00:31 GMT

Common reasons why people choose solo travel

There is one hobby I loved for a long time. It’s solo travel. For me, solo traveling always felt like freedom.

Other people would often give me odd looks. Where I felt excitement, they felt fear. Other people would make remarks such as “I would never do it.”

And my answer is “you don’t have to.” There are many different life paths and many different lifestyles and ways of living. Sometimes, as humans, we judge what isn't ours. But we forget that every life path is different. Preferences can differ. Hobbies can differ. And that’s ok. We don’t need to have the same preferences or hobbies.

But some people are intrigued. They have done solo traveling or consider solo traveling.

1)Deepening the trust in yourself

The first and foremost thing about solo traveling is the confidence you need to have and that will later often deepen throughout your travels. You need to fully trust yourself. This is crucial because you may encounter uncomfortable situations and find yourself alone. A deep trust is what I find highly beneficial. In addition, a good intuitive feeling helps you evaluate if a place is safe or not. I remember I was once travelling in Cambodia a couple of years ago, and at night, I just had an intuitive feeling that I should stay in my accommodation with other travelers. If you don’t really have that confidence or intuitive feeling to trust in, you may risk being exposed to situations that you may not like. And yet, there is no guarantee in life. E ven if you’re at home, you can be hit by a car. Not to picture worst-case scenarios, but just to put things into perspective. What’s safety in the first place? Life itself is an adventure no matter where you are. But if you tend to be at home, you’re surrounded by familiar conditions, cultures, and people, which may provide a sense of familiarity and comfort.

2)Longing for adventure

The second reason for solo traveling is often the adventure. Too often we’re put in a box. We may grow up in a specific manner, and society or our culture may expect us to behave in a certain way. So solo traveling can provide this adventure. The adventure to break out of any boxes and dogmas that society lives by. It makes you open towards new perspectives and new ways of life. You suddenly see the world through a different lens.

3)Escape as a way to reconnect with yourself

The third reason is not always, but sometimes, escape. Yes, we don’t want to admit it, but let’s be honest. Sometimes we may not really feel comfortable where we are; we may be between two different worlds. Maybe the old reality or world crumbled, and we’re just about embarking on new beginnings. We may not exactly know where to go or what’s next. So this “limbo stage” can be a reason people travel solo. What first appears as an escape from the old reality can later help you reconnect or find a deeper purpose because in the end, you can't escape from your reality.

When you leave the safe spot, you’re exposed to different situations. Different situations give you new perspectives. Sometimes you meet people that inspire you. It’s not always the job or profession that inspires you, but especially in an exotic country, as far as my experience is concerned, it’s often the slower life that inspires me. The humbleness people live by. Despite often having much less money than we do in Western countries, the kindness they share with others inspires me. It reminds me more of who I am and what truly counts. It’s beyond making fast money and fame. It’s the easy life we crave. Solo traveling can help you develop or enhance this aspect of your life.

4)The journey back to yourself

I don’t want to make it sound dramatic or poetic, but if we’re honest, we’re sometimes stuck in our own thinking patterns. We rely on people, or people rely on us. We may consciously or unconsciously people-please or compromise. Some people live up to the expectations of others their whole life without noticing it. Not that it’s bad; every life is worth living, but there may come a point where you feel tired of it. So solo traveling can help you connect with yourself, with your desires. You can eat when you wish to eat, and you can sleep when you wish to sleep. No compromise. No people-pleasing. Just living by your own terms which can give you time to re-evaluate what you want and what you value.

The truth but also myth about solo travel: Solo travel doesn't mean you're alone

But of course solo traveling isn't always as fancy. There can be moments of loneliness or helplessness. Although the more experienced you are, the less often you may feel them. Because that’s the myth. Solo travelling doesn’t mean you’re always alone unless you choose to. In fact, during solo travelling, most people open up. You’re alone, so now you become more open to people. You often become a more active observer. Once you overcome the initial shyness or awkwardness that can appear, you actually start smiling at people, and you engage with them.

You realize there are tons of other solo travelers or travelers in general. Sometimes you can sit in a bar or coffee shop, and you start a conversation if the situation allows. Something, that groups may not always do as they tend to be involved in the group chat, less on other people. However, as always, this is no generalization. You can meet other people with or without a group. You can experience loneliness with or without a group, and I firmly believe that this is the essence and myth of solo travel.

Just because you travel solo doesn’t mean you feel lonely. In fact, there can be such a deep trust. You can develop more self-confidence. You realize how everything and everyone is connected. Then really, the world suddenly becomes home. Of course, everyone may have a place, whether it be a home place or a place of their choice that they may call home, but once you solo travel, you may have the feeling that indeed the world is your home.

You realize that people are not so different after all.

Of course there are always exceptions and not all individuals may have the best intentions, but overall, no matter where you travel, people usually tend to long for similar things. Happiness. Peace. Health. Kindness. You realize humanity is not so different after all. And then you don’t really feel lonely anymore. Because you realize you can make friends and acquaintances anywhere. If you become your own best friend, and you appreciate yourself,you can become friends with others. That's the most beautiful thing. You first start to connect with yourself and then with others. Suddenly solo travel becomes more than just a trip, it's a way to reconnect back with yourself.

As always, those are just my personal views and experiences how it made me become stronger, more adventurous and made me feel more connected to myself. Of course, some people may have different travel intentions and experiences than mentioned here, and that's equally fine.

How the influencer culture does not only destroy individual dreams; it destroys cultures.

Fri, 12 Dec 2025 07:35:56 GMT

3 negative effects of following other people's dream instead of your own

I’m not saying influencers are harmful. Nevertheless, I’ve observed patterns that resulted from the influencer era that I find critical.

Influencers are just manifestations of our subconscious beliefs, and they mirror or trigger them so perfectly.

1) You follow a trend thinking you’re cool.

Your blogger posts the cream, the fancy bag? You want it too! They suggest you be cool or be someone! They often trigger our deepest subconscious patterns of not feeling lovable or needing something to be someone. However, it does not address whether the promoted brand operates sustainably or if the cream is genuinely beneficial for your health. Many creams have hormonal substances, which can even harm your health long-term.

In the end, the influencer gets money for it. Even if they are lovable individuals, their actions are not solely driven by positive intentions or concern for your well-being. It’s profit. Your money is energy. You risk nurturing companies that destroy Earth. Is that you? Do you want to grow with your energy?

Your energy is precious. Choose wisely where you invest your time and money.

2) You get so into a trend you forget your own dreams.

You now think you need to follow each trend. But who says that’s your style? Some people do not only move further away from their dreams, but they also move further away from themselves.

Who are you , deep down?

They follow a crowd, and it stimulates our survival pattern. Belonging. The fear of being excluded. But that’s exactly the pattern: survival. It’s not thriving. Thriving means you act the way you want. It leaves cultural destruction. The blogger or influencer might post about the latest hotel cooperation in a fancy hotel in Bali or Costa Rica. People want to go there. The influencer got the money and has long departed, and the local culture is dealing with tourism influxes. Yes, they bring money to cultures. They can boost local economies, but let’s be honest. The intention to make a positive impact is not always the motivation behind this kind of tourism. It’s often selfish behavior.

Now more tourists are coming. The destination is hyped. New hotels are being built, but is this development truly in the best interest of the community? And now you travel to a. Specific place because your influencer moves there? Isn't your intuition the one directing you there?

Places hold energy. Intuitive travel can take you to places and activate you. Spark a memory. Touch your heart. If you consistently follow the path of the masses, you risk becoming just like them. You become exactly that. You become a follower of the crowd.

Your mind becomes overstimulated. far away from the heart. Then we read in the news that more people struggle from mental illness and feeling lost—well, I’m not saying those are the only reasons, yet does it even surprise anyone? I’m not blaming the influencers; rather, I am critiquing our overall approach to life.

3) Obsession

You now become so obsessed with following an influencer that you forget your life and dreams. Some may wake up checking what the influencer does. You focus on how the influencer lives, rather than taking a moment to appreciate yourself.

It's important to check in with your own desires and dreams. You start feeling miserable seeing all those people chasing their dreams, but they do the opposite of you.

They create. They don’t follow. A follower is a follower. A follower is not a creator. You can be inspired by someone but still choose for yourself what’s truly yours. Choose what truly resonates with your identity. The truth is you don’t need the bag or the cream to be cool or acceptable. It’s what society wants to suggest to you.

Happiness and success are when you make as much money as possible and have fame and prestige. However, the true nature of happiness and success is often hidden behind closed doors. Some of the wealthiest people feel miserable deep inside. They portray their lives as perfect. But it’s far from that. They put on a smile for the camera. They often only reveal a grumpy face when the camera is off. I’ve experienced this by observing an influencer who acts that way. I’m not saying all influencers are like that. But let’s be honest: we’re all humans.

We have good days and bad days. Back in the day, people went to church to follow or search for answers and follow certain beliefs. Today, it feels like people follow someone else to find something outside of themselves.

Why?

People have learned to trust someone else more than themselves. They look for happiness and answers outside of themselves. It takes only one day to realize that you cannot find happiness or answers on the outside.

The lesson?

Let yourself be inspired but don't forget to follow your own dreams. To create the life you want instead of simply following someone else's dream life.

Feel free to share your thoughts and observations about it.

There are so many courses on spirituality and still why are so many still looking?

Thu, 11 Dec 2025 04:41:18 GMT

The trend of looking for the answers outside of yourself.

The spiritual market has become a billion-dollar market. But does it provide the results we want to see? Is it always effective? Does it always serve us?

Spiritual courses market things like “kundalini awakening,” “consciousness shift,” and “wake up from the illusion,” and while all of that can be helpful, I asked myself, “Does it serve me?” Does it enrich my life?

Many lure people into their courses, promising big consciousness shifts, sometimes starting at 2,000 dollars. If you observe this trend, you may think spirituality has become a new luxury good. Is it another trend we chase, I asked myself? Earlier in our lives, some of us used to invest our money in fancy bags. Now we’re investing in courses, hoping to discover happiness, heal, or attract abundance.

One day, despite attending numerous courses, I found myself unable to manifest my desires. I still couldn’t attract abundance. Believe it or not, I had participated in dozens of abundance courses led by mentors who either held or claimed to hold a high level of consciousness and who shared or claimed to share highly effective light codes. What was I doing wrong? I still couldn’t attract abundance in the long term. It was rather short-term success, not something sustainable.

Until one day, I tuned in to my intuition. I was frustrated: I asked my intuition, "Why can I still not attract abundance?" Why can I still not manifest? I have already done so many light code activations. And my intuition said the most shocking phrase to me.

“If you want to attract abundance, you need to stop taking abundance courses.”

What??? I thought. It was not the answer I wanted to hear.

First, I was in denial with the answer I heard. And that’s quite typical for the intuition. It can give you answers you don’t like or don’t want to hear. But later you notice how exactly those answers can help you evolve. And I asked my intuition, "Will I be even more lost for answers?""

And guess what? Another shocking answer appeared:

“One of the most unsovereign people are people taking abundance courses.”

Oh, damn, I was apparently part of them. But I could soon sense it was not in a bad way. It was supposed to tell me a more profound message: to wake me up from the illusion. And waking up wasn’t stimulated in a course. That waking up came from deep within myself. That was the moment I experienced my first realization:

You do not require another to awaken you. The deepest realizations came from deep within myself.

I had invested a significant amount of money in various courses, and I found myself repeatedly asking the same questions: Why am I not experiencing success? Why can I not manifest? What is holding me back from abundance?

Until the next realization came:

I entered a spiritual or abundance courses with the intention of having someone else tell me the answer or strategy.

I suddenly recognized the pattern. I was playing the “victim.” Playing the victim means you remain unsovereign in a way. You need another one to tell you the answers. And all my self-worth issues arose. The realization dawned on me that I couldn't trust myself, and I didn't even trust my own intuition when it came to providing those answers. I didn’t trust my feeling.

Oh damn, that was so hurtful. I trusted other mentors more than my intuition.

Was I even surprised that I couldn’t attract what I wanted, constantly trying to find answers outside of me?

In that moment, my higher self came through, saying: “I activate you; no one else outside of you has to. I am your guide; no one else out there is.”

Boom, another shocking answer.

Again, this was another answer I would rather not hear or expect. It brought up anger within me, too, realizing how little I could trust myself.

But it was precisely what I needed to hear. In fact, looking back, I realized I was waking up from the deeper illusion. The illusion is that you need an abundance course to attract abundance. I’m not saying that you should avoid taking abundance courses. But if you’ve already done 100 courses or read the 100 tips on abundance, well guess what, the 101st abundance course or tip may not necessarily give you the answers you’re looking or hoping for.

It was when I had another big realization: there comes a time you need to trust yourself. You must trust your own intuition. You can’t rely on mentors and courses.

So many people become dependent on mentors or courses. This dependency is precisely what can prevent you from accessing your true power. Participating in a course implies that you are saying, “I need to find the answers out there.” So what did I do then?

I did a lot of self-reflection and journaling. And that was my path to abundance. Not by consuming another course and listening to another technique, another lightcode activation, or another affirmation practice that stressed me out. But by connecting deeper with my patterns, my behaviors, my thoughts, my emotions, and my perceptions.

What was the most remarkable result of this new approach? When I just focused on introspection, quieting the mind, and connecting with my intuition on my next step, I suddenly felt as empowered as never before. There was first a whirlwind of emotions and inner chaos/turmoil, but after a couple of weeks, there was much more clarity, more calmness, and more certainty on the next step and my purpose than I have ever felt before.

And that’s the most powerful lesson I learned.

The answers are not out there; they are within you.

If you feel you can’t manifest or you can’t attract abundance although you’ve already taken 100 courses (maybe not literally, but you know that’s what it can feel like), maybe it’s time for you to deeply connect with yourself. Overall, it’s a bit like learning to drive a car. A couple of lessons are helpful; this means that taking some basic courses or receiving initial guidance is beneficial, as well as learning specific skills. However, if you rely on the driving instructor for constant assistance, you may soon have a problem. You’ll never be a sovereign driver. You may never develop your own style.

And yes, even if it means you make mistakes, well, that’s part of life. That’s how you learn. I spent a couple of months in deep introspection. I journaled each day. I sat with my emotions. And finally the answers appeared. New insights arose. New ideas and projects popped up. They appeared unexpectedly. I didn’t chase another abundance course, another activation, or another God-knows-what. And occasionally, it showed me that it’s fairly easy to participate in or even hold a course. It’s so challenging to embody what you learn or even teach.

And I had another important lesson: Each soul has their unique codes. Each soul activates those codes when they’re ready. And if you’re not ready, then you don’t have to force your progress.

Instead, you can find your own inner rhythm, your own soul rhythm that takes you so naturally. Step by step. Without force. Without pressure. There is no pressure to succeed. Oh, there’s a lot of joy. The joy lies in the process of co-creation. It's the joy of finding your own inner rhythm. And that’s a moment when finally new ideas and abundance can arrive. Not from you trying harder or doing more. I t's rather about being more authentic and true to ourselves. We should trust our own intuition and proceed with the action we feel guided to take in this moment. Because ultimately, when you desperately search for answers in a course, you are sending a signal to the universe, “I’m a victim. I don’t know what to do.”

It’s like a whip. While someone is on the bottom, the other one has to be on top. It’s duality. Therefore, when we assert ourselves as the victim, someone else must assume the role of the savior or the hero. And that’s why, just in my very personal view, the spiritual market has become a billion-dollar business. It’s not always based on genuine connection, guidance or help. There's an underlying pattern beneath it.

It’s profit.

It’s playing the hero.

It’s playing the savior.

It’s duality. There is a dichotomy between the victim and the hero.

If there were no victims, there wouldn't be any heros or saviors, charging hundreds if not thousands for spiritual guidance. For techniques and answers that can be found within yourself, too. This conclusion is a personal observation, not a generalization or judgment, and may not apply to all courses or mentors. I observed this phenomenon in more cases than I had hoped to encounter. Some people start getting frustrated at the high rates. But it's not always a high rate that determines the effectiveness of a course or gives you the results you are hoping for.

True sovereignty starts when you realize you’re not powerless. You’re as powerful as your mentor. You’re as powerful as everyone else. You hold all the answers within you. You hold unique codes that only you can share with the world. That’s the path to sovereignty. By claiming it. By embodying it. By allowing yourself to have your own realizations. This involves embracing the process of self-exploration, instead of relying on external sources for answers or healing. So the most painful, yet powerful, realization I had was that you don’t always need an expensive course to progress. Sometimes, all it takes is time to connect with yourself and your intuition. And you know what? It’s free. It costs 0 cents to connect with your intuition. Your guides are there for you. They are beings with so much wisdom. They stand by your side. They don’t expect one cent/penny in return.

Nevertheless, it doesn't mean you can't take courses. It can be helpful to find some inspiration without becoming dependent. I am grateful for the courses I took, as sometimes general guidance can be valuable. But if you keep chasing the answers by doing course after course without seeing true manifestation or abundance results, there comes a point where you have to evaluate if the courses still serve you or have served their purpose.

That can be a life-changing decision. It was the moment I realized that if I truly wanted to attract a life of abundance in all areas, not just financially, I needed to stop relying on others and start building my own future. I had to co-create with my energy, guided by my intuition. That was true self-empowerment.

In the end, spirituality is not a fancy term; it comes from deep embodiment. It involves embodying more of your spirit. No one else can do that for you. It’s not a one-time event; it’s an ongoing process. Since then, life has become my teacher. I learn from life. I learn through experimenting. That’s how I created my business without any prior business experience. That's how I do a lot of things intuitively. Were there failures? There were numerous failures! It showed my limitations, precisely my limiting beliefs, something I could never spot or learn in a course, but only from real-life experiences.

Money or financial abundance in particular doesn’t always come from simply thinking about it; it also requires you to be more authentic and to share with the world what you truly wish to express. And that, only you can know or find out. The most painful thing I experienced was to invest a couple of hundred, if not thousands, of dollars and not see the results I was hoping for. It reminded me of buying an expensive bag that still didn't make me feel happier than a cheaper one.

Why I share this is not to talk badly about any other mentors. But rather, to raise some awareness of a common problem I observe. The problem is that so many people invest in courses and report that they can’t manifest or perceive happiness. It’s not to evoke negative feelings, but to raise awareness and find alternative solutions for how we can make it more convenient and beneficial. Yes, this article may trigger some people, and not everyone would agree, but please note, as always, the content is my personal experience and views.

Take what resonates, and leave what doesn’t.

P.S., next time you take the next course, ask yourself, does this course call me, or is it my desperation pulling me in?

11 December 2025

3 tips for making your dreams a reality as an introvert

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 03:01:11 GMT

Here are 3 tips for introverts to lay the foundation

I thought I was too quiet to live my dreams.

I’ve always been more of an introvert. I had my moments where I could be outgoing, but that was not the standard. I was only comfortable being around people who made me feel safe. And that didn’t happen so often. Occasionally you meet those people who just make you feel like home, an instant feeling of familiarity. It was only then that I understood why I was often so shy and introverted. I didn’t feel safe. I didn’t feel safe to be myself; I felt scared of judgment.

1) Learn to feel safe within yourself.

So I first had to feel safe within myself. I had to do a lot of inner work. That’s the first tip I can share with you if you suffer from shyness or social anxiety. Become safe within yourself first. Explore yourself first.

2) Learn to accept yourself.

People’s judgments are often projections. Who says there’s something wrong with introverts? One of the deepest people I’ve come across so far was an introvert. However, in this society, those who are the loudest are often the most heard and seen. But the loudest ones aren’t always the ones with the greatest depths or personalities. It’s irrespective.

There’s nothing wrong with being introverted. I’ve always thought I had to change. I thought I had to be different. I thought I had to become “louder.”

Until years later, I realize I was constantly trying to fit in. I'm not here to win others' approval. It was the moment I had to learn to be myself. This meant accepting that I prefer to maintain my privacy and that I do not always open up to people quickly.

However, I’m super sensitive; I help people if they need me. I learned to value the strength in being introverted. You perceive the world differently. Being deeper and feeling more is, quite frankly, a strength in and of itself.

3) Accept that you're not for everyone.

I accepted that I'm not for everyone. It made such a big difference; if you stop trying to fit in or stop trying to be different, you can finally breathe. You realize there’s nothing wrong with you. Society has long made me believe there’s something wrong with me. But it was just a belief.

I have come to understand that I do not need to associate with the most boisterous individuals in the class or at social gatherings unless a mutual connection exists between us. Sometimes a mix of introverts and extroverts makes outstanding connections and awesome teams. We often remind the extroverts to calm down, and the extroverts remind us to be more outgoing and share our opinions.

But if someone finds me too quiet, too sensitive, too introverted, or too whatever, I no longer care the same way I did years back. I remind myself that I don't need to fit in, and it's okay if I'm not here for everyone.

You know what? That’s a form of liberation. Realizing that you don't have to constantly work on yourself or strive to be different is a liberating realization. But just accept that you’re different. You can still improve and move through your fears, but at least you now feel less driven to be different or strive to be someone you're not.

And then something magical happened in my life when I more and more accepted who I was. New dreams appeared. New opportunities. For example, I love writing. On some days I almost prefer writing to speaking, something only introverted writers may fully understand. I’m simply tired of listening to people’s drama, bullshit, and stress. The loud noise gets to me. On some days it’s all too much for me.

And so I started living my passion and dream by writing books, among other things.

What’s the lesson?

1) You don’t have to change. Occasionally you just need to accept who you are. That doesn’t mean you can’t improve, though.

2) You can live your dreams as an introvert. There will be opportunities.

Introverts often have a powerful connection to their intuition. They often have the ability to tune in to their inner voice. They sense if something is off. It’s often overshadowed by fear, self-doubt, etc.

If you are feeling curious and wish to pursue your dreams or follow the whisper of your soul, and if you need further inspiration or guidance on how to get started, I am happy to share more insights about my journey from the corporate world to writing books and living my passion, which has brought me greater joy, happiness, and a sense of purpose despite my introverted nature. I summarized those tips and journal prompts in my masterclass.

Yes, I had to bring myself out of the comfort zone more than once. But still, I could be myself. And so far I discovered new aspects about myself. The safer I feel within myself, the more I can open up as I care less and less what people think of me. That’s the beauty of inner work. You explore new facets and characteristics about yourself you didn’t know you had.

That’s a testament to the inner growth when we start accepting ourselves and dare to meet ourselves at a deeper level and greater depths.

An Argentinian waiter reminded me to embrace the moment

Sun, 30 Nov 2025 10:15:19 GMT

With a simple "Why not?"

A couple of years ago, my mother and I were in a hotel in Mallorca in Spain. There was an Argentinian waiter. We asked him, "What brings you to Mallorca?"

“He said work! Look, I work in paradise,” pointing his hand to the sea… and the beautiful location he was working in. A stunning terrace surrounded by trees. He said in winter he’s in Egypt; in summer, in Spain.

Back then I was in the corporate world, and for the first time I dared to see things from a different perspective. This waiter was so relaxed. Calm. Peaceful.

We had to wait a bit longer. However, he reminded me that living in paradise doesn’t always mean doing things fast or being stressed.

So many people complain about being stressed these days, but that man reminded me how stress is caused by ourselves, and it doesn’t vanish unless we choose to slow down. That’s what he sought to remind me of in that holiday: to slow down. Even if things don't move as quickly, it's important to slow down.

The night turned out to be full of pleasant conversations with my mum, surrounded by a calm atmosphere, big palms, overlooking the calm Mediterranean Sea on a lousy summer night. We ordered a second glass of white wine (at that time, I was still consuming wine). Then the laughter and conversations rolled between my mother and me. The food was delicious.

Sooner than later, we didn’t even realize how fast our second glass of wine was empty. (It must have evaporated. ��)

Then the Argentinian waiter passed by and, seeing our empty glasses, apologized, “Ohh, you didn’t get the second glass of wine yet?”

We were somewhat amused and replied, "Erm, no, it’s already the second glass that’s empty.”

He asked, “Do you want another one?”

And for a moment my mum and I looked at each other, “3rd glass of white wine??” The doubt kicked in. The hesitation. It was the "good girl, behave" syndrome that took hold.

We were expressing our concerns about whether it was appropriate to have a third glass of wine. In that moment he went like, “Why not????” with a charming if not cheezy smile.

In that moment, that sentence changed everything. Yeah, indeed. “Why not???”

Why behave? Why try to be good’? Why doubt so much?

Why not allow yourself the pleasure or do what feels good now? Regardless of the circumstances, it's important to embrace the moment.

We decided to order a third glass of white wine. When it came, my mother and I cheered to it; we cheered to life. And we both looked at each other, clinking our glasses, saying simultaneously, “Yeah, why not?” which had both of us giggling.

This event took place a couple of years ago. I still think of this waiter whenever I’m doubtful. Just recently I passed down an ice cream parlor, and I went like, “Shall I get an ice cream?” Then I thought of his sentence, “Why not?” And it instantly put a smile on my face.

Occasionally my mum and I still joke about it!

“Why not?” It became our sentence to simply allow pleasure whenever we’re doubtful or simply not allowing ourselves some pleasure in daily life.

So next time you’re doubtful whether you can really treat yourself to something, ask yourself, “Why not?” lol

Then just do it. Order a glass of wine. Get the ice cream. Go for that visit. Here’s where the fun begins.

And in our case… the warm, cozy positive vibe continued that night.

Today I was passing by a store in Bali, saying, “Why not?”

I got the impulse to write about it, and for a moment I was hesitant. Does anyone want to read this? Is that not too cheesy to share?

And that sentence, "Why not?" popped up and reminded me to do so!

If the impulse is there, then why not act on it? It's important to act before doubts begin to creep in.

And for some of you, that sentence could help you too! It certainly proved beneficial to me. It clearly showed me how we constantly remind each other what’s truly important in life. So, this is the reminder today to make the most out of every moment.

If you’re doubting whether you can achieve your dreams or treat yourself, ask yourself:

“Why not?”

What is the higher self & get a free higher self message

Fri, 28 Nov 2025 13:01:10 GMT

Choose a number or heart you feel drawn towards intuitively.

What is the higher self?

It's the aspect of ourselves that is whole, complete and the version of ourselves that already lives what we crave for deep within. It can be the version of you living your heart's desires and your most abundant timeline already.

Everyone might perceive the higher self a little differently and that's completely normal.

What are some of the main advantages of working with the higher self?

Guidance on your life path and with important life decisions

You can receive your own intuitive guidance on the next step, on your life's purpose, on important life decisions. While there are no right or wrong decisions, there might be choices that serve us more than others. Those choices result in a greater amount of joy and connection.

More connection

A lot of people feel very disconnected from themselves. That can show up in various behaviours. E.g. we always search the answer on the outside. While a mentor or reading can help you receive guidance, it's important to always listen to your own intuition and perceive your own inner feeling.

Accurate guidance

Let's be honest. Sometimes, other people's opinions, influences and emotions don't always serve us, even if they're not meant to be against us. Our higher selves is us, in a different vibration, it can guide you with accuracy that no one else out there can. You can always trust it. However, it might be necessary to calm the mind first before listening to the higher self.

Want to learn more how to create the life of your higher self and become the best version of yourself living your dreams? Jump into my Masterclass where I'll show you step by step how you can embody your higher self.

And now below, you can read a message from your higher self based on the intuitive number you've chosen. Please note, this is a collective higher self channeling. Always feel into yourself what resonates and leave what doesn't. You don't need an external reading, however, in my own journey, I always found it very inspiring to get a piece of advice or come across a message that often acts as a reminder along the way. I believe nothing happens by coincidence so if you felt guided towards this blog article, see it as a sign your higher self might have guided you here :)

Feel free to let me know in the comments if the message resonated.

Society's expectations can hold you back from living your dreams

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 08:44:39 GMT

How society's expectations can impact your satisfaction levels

Maybe you’ve experienced it yourself.

As a kid, you’re told to behave. What shall others think of you?

In your teenage years, you’re supposed to choose a good job. You got to look good on the outside, right?

By your 30s, you're supposed to have 2 kids, a dog, and a house. That’s often portrayed as the ideal family image. Or it's simply your mother's dream for you or what society expects you to do. Otherwise, people frequently ask, What's wrong with her/him?

But what about your deep inner heart's desires?

It’s reached a level where many people are just busy living up to other people’s expectations and fitting into an ideal image.

Society is suggesting to us, “This makes you happy.

The truth I came to understand is that there is no general satisfaction recipe, even if society wants you to believe it.

Now let’s look a bit deeper. Why are we often so concerned about fitting into society, trying to fulfill certain expectations?

One of the reasons could be because we’re social animals. We’re social creatures. Most of us fear being excluded. We fear being ridiculed. We fear being treated like an outsider.

It’s not actually that we are an outsider or that we are a failure. It’s rather the feeling or the odd looks people may give us.

It’s a feeling that can leave you feeling like you’re not okay. We’re not fearing the condition as much as we’re scared of the feeling. Let’s say you’ve failed. Well, the condition is not ideal, but the feeling it leaves you with. The feeling of feeling like a failure, for example.

But let’s put things into perspective.

In the old days, many people didn’t have much choice.

They more or less had to behave. They had to do things like they were told to do. Yet, what about our inner desires and dreams? What do we intend to do with our lives in terms of career, family, etc.?

For example, in your 20s or 30s, many people may assume you will start a family. There can be nagging questions from others that can make you believe that you need a child now. But deep in your heart, you don’t really feel like having a child. What happens? You’re making society proud or your mother proud, but deep down within you something doesn’t feel right.

And of course, there might be highs. There might be moments of pure joy and so people tell themselves to not make such a big fuss out of it, but what many don’t realize is there’s an increasing void deep within, often very much silenced in the background.

Why? Because deep down you’re not living your own deepest dreams, you’re adhering to society's standards, living to someone else’s happiness formula, or trying to fit in or even pretending to look happy.

There is such a strive for happiness in this society that most feel disappointed when they just can’t feel happy.

Now, what does happiness truly mean? It’s individual.

For some, it’s a dream to have 2 kids and a dog. For others, this idea alone would sound like a pure nightmare. They love the freedom.

For some, it’s a dream to live in a cottage in Norway far away from the crowds. For others, this idea alone would scare them. They love the big city life of New York.

For some, it’s a dream to make progress in their career in the corporate world. For others, this idea alone would be a nightmare. They enjoy their creativity and their freedom to work whenever they want.

And you know what? It’s all okay. There is no right or wrong. It’s a preference.

However, the challenging part? We often judge and are judged for our choices. You don't have to live up to anyone's standards or expectations.

And why? There isn’t a one-size-fits-all happiness formula.

This is a trap. I call it the trap of fitting into society.

You’re not here to fit into society.

But… you’re not here to fit into society.

You’re here to discover more of your true self. Be more of who you truly are, not who someone else expects you to be.

If you currently feel you’re out of place or you don’t fit into society’s image or expectation, don’t worry. Most people who might not agree with you or give you odd looks are often trapped in their limitations. It's often not because they are bad, but rather because they don’t know it any other way.

For them, that’s how you shall live life.

Often, there is a general assumption to get a job, get married, and get kids. But the rising number of cases of depression, burnout, and fatigue is alarming. The reasons might stem from something deeper that we may have often ignored.

There's often the constant need to fit into society instead of being yourself.

And then there may be your insecurities. E.g., if you choose or don’t feel like having children, will you regret that decision one day? What if you’re alone when you’re old? If you go self-employed, will it all work out? If you dare to move to a different apartment that doesn’t excite you, will you be happy in the new one and find new friends?

Those are all valid reasons to consider.

No one else can decide that for you. However, this is your life. You should live it to your expectations.

All that matters is what you feel like doing. It's not important what another one thinks is best for you.

And in society we see the consequences of that.

Being in a job that another one expects you to be in can more and more result in burn out or depression than doing something you truly love.

We’re observing more and more “difficult children.” At least that was what I heard from several teachers. Children have changed. And let’s be honest. If parents don’t have time to care for them or feed them healthy food, how shall they develop well? When we don’t take the devotion to care for their mental and emotional development, how shall children learn it?

Many young people don’t always have the mental and emotional clarity to navigate the daily challenges with ease. I mean, it’s tough, so how shall they even teach someone else about it?

Yet, there is no right or wrong.

It’s simply an observation.

Then there's guilt, regret, and all sorts of emotions, which often come down to one main root cause.

Many people don't live up to their expectations. They don't allow themselves to live their dreams or on their terms.

It’s so subconscious that you often might not even realize it at first.

Yet, it can one day have an impact on your satisfaction levels.

You could say, in the early days, people lived like that, too? Yes, totally.

But times are changing. There is a different kind of life today. We’re faced with different challenges.

And so we can dare to change. We can dare to re-evaluate some of our choices, and each time we’re about to make a decision, we can ask ourselves the simple, yet tough question:

Is this my dream? Is this what I really want deep in my heart, or did I pick up that dream, expectation, or desire from society?

It can prevent you from a lot of heartbreak. It can hinder you from feeling drained and empty later in life.

The more you live in alignment with who you are, the more balance you will most likely experience. Balance is not necessarily when outside conditions are perfect, but when you feel at ease with who you are.

And the belief a child could make you happy, or a new job could increase your satisfaction, often leaves many people drained along the way. Happiness means you feel aligned to yourself. Happiness is an internal state of being that has nothing to do with someone else to start with.

Believing something on the outside can make you happy often leaves us trapped years later when we realize, “Shit, why do we still not feel happy? Why does happiness not last?”

And then we have to become aware that this life is not just about happiness. It’s about growth.

Every challenge shapes us. They bring out the best and sometimes the worst in us, which both speak for growth. It’s often our judgment that makes it challenging.

So that’s a reminder to connect with yourself more.

And most importantly, let’s not judge other people so much. Let each person choose for themselves.

We are only ever responsible for our lives, not for the life of another. That’s their business.

And for the ones who feel they don’t fit in, don’t worry. There is nothing wrong with you.

You are always in the right place at the right time.

Dare to live on your terms. That’s the biggest gift you can give yourself and the world, even if others won’t agree with you. They don’t have to. You have to agree with yourself because there can be nothing more dissatisfying deep down than living to another one’s expectation or dreams. There can be nothing more courageous and satisfying in this society than daring to live on your terms.

The spiritual journey can sometimes feel lonely and dark

Sat, 04 Oct 2025 04:31:28 GMT

What you can do to navigate it

It’s not hard per se. But what makes it challenging is how many limitations in any shape or form often arise in your journey.

How many crossroads you come across, How often, just when you think you’ve figured something out, does a new portal, like a new door or sometimes a new dimension, open up, and it feels like you know nothing so far?

Yet, it all serves a greater purpose. I call it the game of life. Because in the end it’s a game. Even the state of ‘forgetfulness’ is a game. Even the state of ‘frustration’ is a game. And yet, it appears real. While you play chess, you could say it’s a game, but while you play, the game is real. So it is with life.

And so here are a couple of reasons why the spiritual journey often feels lonely.

In my perspective, souls choose to have an individualized experience to experience greater levels of who they are. They know they are one all together, but they experience the idea of separation to really know what oneness feels like. They choose an individualized experience to have different energy experiences to learn, remember, grow, and evolve. In other words, they embark on the game voluntarily, and they forget voluntarily. It’s part of their mission.

Now when w e embark on a deep level of forgetfulness, there comes a time we shed layer for layer to erase that, which brings confusion. Not necessarily to the soul who knows how to navigate this, but to the human mind. It’s completely new. The mind has no idea what’s going on. And we often react with confusion, worry, and even fear. This is a normal process, but there comes a time when we’re so deeply frustrated we look out for help. Which is quite normal, and getting a spiritual mentor can help navigate the ups and downs. It can help the process of remembrance more and more.

However, sometimes we call out for help out of desperation. We may sometimes think no one out there gets us. And this is just a reminder that you’re always your own healer, teacher, and consoler. You came here with a mission. To forget and to remember again. You came here as an individualized soul that is so powerful it can transcend universes. Your own universe.

So never underestimate your own power. Never give your power away. Never think another one, even a master, is more powerful than you. Because they are not. And that’s what they kept teaching us. "What I can do, you can do and more," one of them was supposed to say.

So if you’re going through a phase that feels lonely and dark, remember it’s just your own distortions. You are always connected. Always held. Always one with all that is.

When you’re lonely, sometimes the best thing to do is ask your spirit guides and call for help. Those beings are there for you; they are with you in each moment. They can assist you in ways that sometimes an external mentor can’t help you. Not because mentors are bad. But we all go through our own individual journey, and this earth and human life can sometimes bring certain limitations and challenges for many of us. Not that the earth is limited, but most of us are all growing.

That’s what I do. I connect internally. That’s what I call 'intuition.' The benefit? There’s no jealousy, no comparison, no shame, and no challenge too big. They’re your biggest supporters. And best of all, their help is for free. Light beings don’t even expect money or a thank you.

Their guidance is so accurate that it blows your mind. Their love is so overwhelming that it purifies your heart. Their support is so almighty that it leaves your mind eventually calmed down. It’s nourishing. Nurturing. Loving.

These beings are just waiting for you to connect with them. They don’t intervene. Why? Because there’s free will. And they respect your free will.

Imagine we play chess. You play a character, and you feel miserable. Your mother or sister wouldn’t intervene in the game unless you asked her. Then she can have a look and go like, “Turn right.” Not from a place of desperation or that you can make mistakes. But as a recommendation on how to navigate this game with more ease. Someone with a broad perspective can see things with more objectivity.

And that’s what you can do too when you feel lonely and dark. See your life like a game. With more objectivity. Observe your character called human. And then choose anew how you wish to continue. With fear or with love? With shame or with confidence? With gratitude or with hate?

That’s a choice no one can take away from you. Because you play. Not because you have to but because you choose to.

And if some days feel dark and frustrating, it can be part of human life. Because let’s be honest. Imagine we all had it figured out in a game after one round; what would be the sense of playing? It would be boring. So your limitations keep up the game in a way. And when you’re tired, you can give up further limitations. Step by step. Then it will feel more like someone taking off the eye blinders.

You wake up more and more to your true nature that you are: an unlimited divine being in a temporary human experience. That’s what I want to help people with. Not tell them what to do, but help them reconnect with themselves, with their own intuition, remember a bit deeper what this life is all about, and activate your own self-healing or teaching powers.

Have you noticed how time flies by?

Wed, 01 Oct 2025 11:21:30 GMT

A self-reflection on how fast time flies by

Have you noticed how fast this time runs?

How fast a week passes by.

How fast a month passes by.

How fast a year passes by.

There’s a famous saying that goes “The days are long but the years are short.”

It makes me become melancholic.

Melancholic enough to re-evaluate what I focus my energy on and my time with.

Melancholic enough to be more selective.

Too often, we simply live day by day unconsciously.

We get up, go to work, go home, eat, and go to bed.

A lot are repeating this pattern day by day.

There is nothing wrong with it as long as it makes you feel good.

But more and more people realize that this feels more like a hamster wheel.

A hamster wheel of habit, boredom and sometimes fatigue.

There’s a longing. A longing for more freedom. A longing to spend time with what we really love.

Again, there’s often the next question people ask themselves.

“What do I really love?”

A lot of people were conditioned to believe they have to choose a stable job in an office.

A lot of people were conditioned to believe they have to adapt and behave.

A lot of people were conditioned to believe they are limited.

But is this really true or is this merely a belief?

Anyway, as I’m sitting here in Bali, enjoying a moment by the beach and trying to slow down, I realize even more how precious this moment is. To just be here. To just sit. To just have a quiet moment with yourself. Not having to do anything. Not having to achieve anything. Not having to prove anything. Not having to acquire anything. Just be in this moment.

And I realize it’s enough.

We sometimes make life incredibly complicated. We overcomplicate things. We overanalyze. W overthink. It brings us out of the natural flow.

In this world that is full of stimulation, competition and trying to overachieve, it’s paramount to slow down. To evaluate what is really important. To ask ourselves: Is this really me?

Because this life is not forever. One day we may be full of regret having spent years with overanalysing, overthinking or even competing.

Here in this quiet moment I realize, there’s nothing to analyze. Nothing to think about. Nothing to compete with. When you observe the ocean, you can learn a lot from the waves. The waves just go with the flow. They rise and they fall so naturally they don’t even have to think or try hard. Nor compete with other waves. They are simply an expression of the ocean. Not more and not less.

They are not separate from the other waves, merely a different expression.

One wave is not better than the other, as in the end, they’re all just water.

Could it be the same for us humans?

In the end, we’re all just energy. Having a human experience. Spending moment by moment which someone once called time.

What is time anyway?

Some argue time doesn’t even exist.

Who knows.

May each one define time in their own way.

The most important question, however, is, what do you spend your time on?

It's ok not to be ok

Sun, 21 Sep 2025 16:30:40 GMT

Why it's ok not to be a ok and we don't have to strive so hard to feel happy

This world makes you believe it’s not ok not to be ok. It makes you believe you always have to try and be positive and happy. And yes, of course, positive thoughts create positive outcomes. However, sometimes it’s ok not to be ok. It’s ok to feel unwell. It’s ok to feel sad. It’s ok to feel angry. This is part of the human experience. Allow yourself to experience the human life in its full spectrum without judging the highs nor the lows. The more we embrace all of this, the more we ride the different waves with more ease.

Especially today, more and more people are interested in personal development, mindset and spirituality, yet there’s an increasing misconception. Spirituality doesn’t mean you have to feel happy all the time. It means embracing your shadows as well. As the word implies, shadows often bring deep emotions to the surface. Emotions we usually don’t want to deal with. Topics we usually don’t want to look at.

However, those uncomfortable emotions and topics are part of our growth.

That’s why next time you feel bad for feeling bad, don’t. Allow it. Know there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s part of the human experience and the growth process. There’s an even greater benefit to it. Just like after the rain, the air is so much fresher. The grass is so much greener. The same applies to our life. After a low, it feels so much lighter. So much fresher. Our mind is so much clearer. But only when we dare to feel it all instead of escaping or hiding our true feelings while trying to pretend to feel happy all the time.

If you try to feel happy while suppressing your true feelings, you remain on the surface level. The more growth and potential we want to activate, the deeper we have to heal and feel.

Sometimes before we can see the sun, we’ll have to move through the rain. Just like when you’re on an airplane. Sounds a little cliché, but it's so true.

So remember. It’s ok not to feel ok at times.

Social media me become less social

Wed, 17 Sep 2025 13:52:42 GMT

It's the connection to other people and nature that contributes to our wellbeing

As the days and years pass, I realize social media has made me more anti-social.

I remember the times I used to pick up the phone and call a friend with no phones or apps available.

It felt more carefree.

We played. We had fun. We told each other secrets.

We had no need to show it to the world or prove ourselves to others.

Today, each moment is recorded.

People smile for the camera. Often for a platform that has made us become more lonely and anti-social as a society than ever before.

We suffer from our own loneliness and the constant need for attention and self-approval.

Yet, in the old tribes, people lived in communities. Even the old people today still gather in some pubs and play cards. It’s necessary for our well-being. And here I am, reflecting “Heck, who have I become? What are my values?”

And I notice now being in my 30s (and I'm sure it doesn't even matter what age you are) it’s considered quite weird to connect. People have family, are married or everyone kind of feels more stressed about their days.

All while at the same time you see each day how people upload images on social media pretending to lead the perfect life’s putting a mask on or portraying just their best moment of the week, or putting a smile on just for the camera to get attention, not as a reflection of their true inner self.

It’s the connection and authenticity that truly matter though. The moments and days where you long to spend them with like-minded people in real life, not watching their perfect and well-crafted stories on social media.

It’s not necessarily about dating and flirting either. Heck, with the years, priorities shift and what used to be fun is no longer as fun. You crave for something more meaningful. Something more real, rather than superficial.

Someone who’s at the same wavelength as you are, accepting you for who you truly are beyond the money, status, attention and the perfect life that social media often portrays.

And so over the past few weeks, I noticed it’s in my hands. So I went to the forest and after a long time I truly connected with Mother Earth again.

I felt, I sensed, I observed. I didn’t even feel the need to take an image. I left my phone in my car to engage with life.

To be fully present. And after a while, the energy came back. I felt more alive. I felt calmer. I felt more balanced. After a simple visit in the forest without a phone.

Nature spirits are great companions, too.

Many of us would think only humans are the “real deal” and those are "just trees" but nature spirits carry so much wisdom. They survived storms, experienced wars in some areas of the world and still stand there deeply rooted within themselves.

They don’t move or travel as us humans do and yet they are alive.

That’s when you get to know the real world. Not on social media but when you finally choose to engage with life again.

And so here I am today, taking my dog out for a walk leaving the phone in my car. How freeing not to hold or look at my phone all the time.

You start to move differently. Observe differently. You get more attentive. Give it a try if you feel the pull, just for one day or one activity.

15 myths about spirituality

Mon, 15 Sep 2025 19:37:08 GMT

Spiritual misconceptions that can keep you blocked from activating your true potential

When I went through a so called spiritual awakening (although I believe there is not just one, as it's an ongoing process), I first had many misconceptions about spirituality. In this article, I want to summarize the main misconceptions and beliefs from my personal view. Spirituality doesn't mean anything concrete, it depends on what you make out of it and what it means for you. Having misconceptions about spirituality can hinder you from activating your inner gifts and step into your full potential. Sometimes it can even hold us back from manifesting. So gaining clarification helped me accelerate my inner growth journey. Those points are not a generalization but are intended to serve as a source of inspiration only based on my personal experiences.

1) Spirituality doesn’t mean you have to do Reiki and yoga unless that’s your preference.

When I started out I thought I had to do Reiki or yoga. I forced myself into Yoga classes. Ironically, I was a very inflexible person, often leaving me more stressed after the yoga session than before. Those position names alone were far too complicated for me to remember. The downward dog, the fighter… all I knew so far was the little and big spoon - jokes aside! What I'm saying is, it's more than doing a pose. It's about exploring who you are.

2) Spirituality doesn’t necessarily mean you have to go to an ashram or travel to a sacred site or land.

It doesn’t mean you have to do something special. Spirituality means you embody more of your spirit. In other words, you are more of your true self. That can be applied in daily life. Sometimes people escape on a retreat in a foreign country only to return and fall back into their old reality. There has to be a balance. There is no escape possible. You need to face your current reality.

3) Spirituality doesn’t necessarily mean you have to wear special pants or be vegan.

Obviously the more you release, the less you actually need. And the more you usually have a preference for healthy food. But it’s not forced or a prerequisite, it’s a natural feeling. A natural pull to feel drawn towards healthy food, not like “I need to be vegan now in order to be spiritual.” Trust me, I’ve observed people who really struggled with this because they trust another one more than themselves.

I remember one day when I felt very ungrounded, my intuition told me to eat a fish. I was shocked, but that was the moment I realized you need to eat the food you feel drawn towards, not what a “spiritual guru" or "teacher” tells you to do.

4) Spirituality doesn’t necessarily mean you have to channel Archangel Michael or ET’s.

It means embodying more of who you truly are. If you don’t know yourself or your own soul, how shall you even make friends with other beings? Of course they always support you, but if you focus on yourself, you’ll eventually meet other beings quite naturally without forcing the connection. Too often, people channel their eg o, not Archangel Michael, especially when channeling is based on expectation.

5) Spirituality is not limited to being clairvoyant.

I used to admire channelers who could see a lot. All I could see at the beginning was black. I thought I wasn’t spiritual enough. Then I discovered my own gifts, or at least my own ways of how to perceive my intuition. Even at the beginning of my journey, I couldn’t see images, it was more of a feeling. A voice. And I noticed that it's as beautiful. Never compare your gifts. Later, you can discover and activate more inner gifts.

6) Spirituality doesn’t mean you have to say yes to everyone and always be kind and loveable.

Honestly, if you feel like telling the other one he’s an arsehole, then do it. It can be healing to be your true self. It’s not about being good. It’s about being real in the moment. And no, I’m not advocating acting like an arsehole, but if you always try to be nice and good, you’re most likely acting out of your limiting patterns, also known as a people pleaser. You're most likely not your true self when you say yes to everyone and everything even if it doesn't feel aligned.

7) Spirituality doesn’t mean you have to meditate all day long unless you want to.

I sometimes don’t meditate a lot throughout my day, but I know how to shift my energy. On other days, I keep a meditative practice for hours. So you see, it depends on you, your mood and your energy levels. In other words, you can still have a "regular" or worldly life.

8) You don’t necessarily have to give up your material life and run around naked nor live in the bush.

...unless that’s your preference. Spirituality and a material life can go hand in hand. How and why? You’re here to remember more of who you are and you’re more than welcome to create the life you desire. That means you create things you like or that support you. There’s nothing wrong with it. A mobile phone is as spiritual as a pen and as a yoga course. Everything is spiritual. Everything started with a thought, a vision and is created with your life force energy. You most likely may opt for a more sustainable life, caring for other humans, animals and nature too, but it doesn’t mean you have to give up your material life just to be "more spriritual".

9) Spirituality doesn’t mean you’ll never have challenges again.

In my experience, I have more challenges than ever before. But the challenges are of a different quality. It’s not the challenge of fighting with a client or co-worker over a useless topic. It’s rather about overcoming a fear or limitation. Why is it often so hard? Because you can no longer blame another one. You realize it’s you. Your limitation. You have to take over responsibility for that. But you know, if you overcome that challenge, it will take you to the next level of growth which, quite frankly, is a beautiful process.

10) Spirituality is not all about love and light.

Some people make you believe it’s all about love and light. Erm, no. It’s about balancing polarity. There is light and darkness. If you always claim to be light, you may provoke the darkness to feel attacked and experience it a lot stronger, wondering why you can’t make your life work.

11) Spirituality doesn’t mean you have to have complicated healing methods.

Yes, sometimes, if there are addictive patterns or any deep limitations, we may have to dive deeper, but if I’m honest based on my personal experiences: Sometimes all it takes is a clear decision. You can choose how you wish to feel in the next moment and what you wish to do or which action you would take without practicing a difficult healing technique. It’s about awareness.

12) Spirituality doesn’t mean you have it all figured out, or you’ll never get ill again, or you have all the answers.

No. It’s a continuous journey of self-exploration. There are no real limits, so there aren’t limits to our consciousness levels. We can always expand. Sometimes it can happen that you have new realizations that override your previous way of seeing the world.

13) Spirituality doesn’t mean we all have the same answers and experiences.

I used to believe that there is just one answer until I realised there isn’t. There are so many perspectives. What truly counts is your own experience, not that of another one. Imagine someone living in Pakistan would say something different about Planet Earth than someone living in the Maldives or someone living in Germany. Our experiences are different, and so are opinions and truths. There isn’t one truth. There are many facets.

In the end, it’s not about leaving old concepts and putting yourself in a new box. It’s about being more of who you truly are in each moment, being the best or most joyful self that you can be. Not how someone else expects you to be.

14) Spirituality doesn't mean you have to take over another one's truths or beliefs

No. It means you allow yourself to explore your own truth. That's why true spirituality cannot only be taught. Teachings for me have always served as a source of inspiration and orientation, like someone guiding you towards a certain direction, but it has to be explored and practiced. You can end up having your own truth or beliefs even if those differ from other people.

15)Spirituality doens't mean you're better or worse than anyone else

It's more like a radio. It's a different experience. You're simply taking a different route. Not better or not worse than anyone else.

Does some of the points resonate with you? What does spirituality mean to you and what doesn't?

When that inner voice told me it's time to quit my 9-5 job

Thu, 28 Aug 2025 08:16:46 GMT

Quitting my 9-5 job to turn my passion into a business

I remember the day when my intuition told me that I was quitting my job soon.

They told me another path was waiting and I'm not going back to the corporate world. I was shocked. Could I trust that voice? I had always been intuitive, but that was a whole new level. It was about my job, my security (I thought back then). It's not just trusting your feeling about something. It can be fairly easy to trust your intuition when it comes to "minor" things, but when it comes to "big life decisions," it's a whole different level.

I had studied for several years. I I thought my path was in the corporate world until they told me again. Nope. And the oddest thing was when I ignored that sign and started looking for a new job, nothing felt aligned. Nothing truly excited me. It always felt like compromising. Safe to say I made a lot of mistakes at the beginning. But all those turned into valuable learning lessons. However, I ended up finding my passion. Something that truly lit me up. It was writing! I never thought I could ever turn my hobby into a business. I never thought I could have fun while working. I never thought I could look forward to Mondays. And no, not everything is perfect. I went through massive challenges, but they all felt worth it.

It's not the same challenges as back in the corporate world, where you're arguing over a useless topic. It's rather about embracing my challenges and about my inner fears, limitations and subconscious beliefs I didn't even know were within myself. Those were the challenges I was suddenly confronted with for the first time in my life. I had no idea how to approach them. I just felt like, "Omg, I can't do it." Until I learned about energy, my intuition and my internal world. I wish someone had given me a roadmap. Almost like a step-by-step guide to know what to pay attention to. Just like a pilot getting a rough idea on how to fly.

It doesn't mean you can fly straight away, but if you know the theory, the practical part is a lot easier. If you don't know the theory, you're lost in the dark! I mean, basically you could fly anyway, but with a roadmap it's so much easier. You know roughly what to expect or what to pay attention to. And that's dear to my heart - to pass on what I learned and failed at in 3 years so that you can have a much smoother start if you feel like your life is shifting, too. If you feel the same soul nudge or intuitive feeling that tells you another path is waiting for you but you're unsure how to shift or what to do next.

It doesn't mean you have to change your life straight away. It doesn't mean you have to leave your relationships or quit your job just yet, no! There are many approaches, but in the end, it comes down to this: understanding yourself, your passion, how much you can trust yourself, what's going on in your internal world, and your energetic state. That determines what you're going to experience.

What makes my work different? I show you a step-by-step guide on what to pay attention to. You can apply it to any life circumstance, no matter where you are, if you're just starting out or already in the process. This approach works for any situation. I still use it to shift into new versions of myself and accomplish new dreams. Because in the end it's the same principle. It's a bit like driving a car or listening to the radio. Once you know, "Oh, that's a dead road," you know to turn quickly instead of driving against the wall for years. Or the same with a radio. You know how to switch the frequency in no time, like, "Oh boom, I don't like this song. I change the frequency to get another song." That's what you can do. You know how to shift your reality, your energy, and as a result, your life! Isn't that cool?

You are no longer a victim to outer circumstances; you become your own co-creator. You create your own realities. And if you find yourself in a difficult situation, you know how to switch it rather than staying stuck with it. The truth about life is this: We don't always get what we imagined, but we always get what we're an energetic match to. And if we don't like something, instead of condemning it, we can go like, "Oh something made me magnetize it, but now I will switch it. I no longer choose it." It's the same principle.

So instead of thinking of "red roses" all the time, which doesn't exist. Life is not just about happy moments. Life is about embracing everything. Navigating through the highs and lows. Without giving too much attention to either one. We become like a surfer that enjoys the ride. That flows with the wave, and as soon as we learn to flow with the wave, rather than being overwhelmed by it, we learn to enjoy the process. We know that both the ups and the lows teach us a lot!

I've learned to never condemn the lows or the challenges, for they teach me a lot! The highs could never teach me that. But if you know how to navigate and shift it, imagine how much you can grow. How much you can go for your wildest dreams because no challenge can hold you back. Because with each challenge you grow and you become one step closer to who you truly are, to your dreams, and to your wildest inner soul desires. You are suddenly living a reality that's far greater than you initially thought it could be when you were first scared to quit your 9-5 or your old job in the first place.

Suddenly you become grateful you had enough courage to listen to that quiet feeling. Even if other people considered you crazy. Or your own mind considered you crazy. And then you suddenly know. You just know that you know. That all has a deeper purpose even if you can barely grasp it at the beginning.

And so, I ask you. Are you ready? Are you courageous? Let me be honest. There are people out there who don't want to change. And that's okay. Everyone moves at their individual pace. There is free will. But I tell you honestly. There's a famous sentence that goes, "Life begins outside of your comfort zone." At the beginning, when I used to hear that phrase, I used to roll my eyes. But now, 3 years forward, I can honestly say it's true. It holds a certain truth. It doesn't mean you have to bungee jump or do some crazy shit. No. It's not about crazy or dangerous. It's rather about having the courage to do things differently. To approach them differently. To have the courage to go for that idea or passion even if you have no idea where it will take you yet. But that's what life is all about, isn't it? Do you really think life was supposed to be struggling, staying in a dull job each day, and just getting by? I don't think so. Life is what you make out of it. It's a choice. So all I can say from my own journey is this: Choose wisely.

If you need some inspiration and a road map to get started on your soul-aligned mission, feel free to check out my Masterclass where I share everything I learned in the past 3 years. Trust me, you can avoid a lot of desperation, frustration and confusion.

Silence as a pathway for clarity and inspiration

Wed, 20 Aug 2025 10:16:16 GMT

How we often create problems by believing our own mind

In a world full of doingness, we often forget one thing: To be. But it’s the silence that brings us clarity, solutions and inspiration. However, a lot of people have a hard time sitting in silence. In a world, that’s so full of doingness, we forget to be.

I remember one day, I came across a woman who had an injury on her leg. It meant to put up the leg for 2 weeks.

She was angry. She was on holiday. She was used to doing a lot. She had a lot of plans.

Just the thought of lying and resting felt dreadful.

That made me reflect.

It made me reflect on how much we are focused on doing, instead of just being.

So some people may have a hard time with just being with themselves, taking a day off, and just sitting there and being still.

I tried it out one afternoon to sit still.

I was inspired by Sadhguru. He once shared that precious exercise of just sitting there in stillness without your phone and observing your thoughts and emotions for a day. He added, ‘You have to become aware of your own madness.”

While that sounds harsh, it’s true.

Sometimes we suffer from our own thoughts and emotions.

Our mind constantly sends us from one place to the next, from one activity to the next, so that something as natural as resting feels hard.

And why? Because when you start to sit in stillness, your mind most likely will give you a thousand reasons why you can’t. Or why that neighbor is terrible, or why your boss was in a bad mood. Or why Gina broke up with her husband. Or why you can’t achieve your dreams yet. There are a thousand thoughts and more often than we think, not always thoughts that serve us.

And yet it’s those thoughts that co-create our reality. What you think about, you become.

One day, I made an interesting observation. I had worked a lot for my business, and I still thought I hadn’t done enough. Only when a woman told me, “You’re exhausted. Take a break.” I realized what a distorted way of looking at things I had.

In my perception, I hadn’t even worked or accomplished enough, whereas she felt I had worked too much. You see how sometimes we can’t really see things about ourselves? That’s why I truly believe it’s precious to have other people around. They can observe and tell us things from their perspective that we may not be able to see.

And so I would just sit there and allow my thoughts to run wild.

I had to practice that for days to just sit still.

It’s become one of my favorite exercises.

You see, even in some spiritual communities they make you believe you have to do a guided meditation. You have to visualize. You have to breathe to 5. You see, all that is linked to a certain activity and doingness again.

But on that day, I allowed myself to be. I just breathed the way that felt most natural to me. I didn’t care if it was too fast or too slow. I didn’t care about a specific breathing technique.

I just sat there, centering in the heart and feeling all black in front of me.

But it’s not black as in sadness. It’s stillness. It’s the nothingness.

And that reminded me of our essence. We are pure energy beings. We co-create physical matter from the nothingness. I’ve heard some call it the “zero point.” I n the nothingness there is everything.

And when you allow your thoughts to calm down, there comes peace.

There is no need for striving hard. For working hard. Peace is as natural as breathing.

You can’t strive for peace. It’s a natural state of being that arises once you dare to no longer pay attention to any thoughts.

And every time, I come out of the meditation that I call the “no thought meditation,” I feel more rested. I feel more inspired. I feel more alive. Not from doing a lot, but from doing nothing.

I learned the most important lesson in my life. Inspiration doesn’t come from doing more; it comes from being more. Clarity doesn’t come from worrying more; it comes from being more. Solutions don’t arise from thinking more; they come from being more.

Because suddenly out of the “nothingness” there is the “everything.”

It’s the dichotomy that some spiritual gurus have talked about in the past.

You realize that the inspiration you search for isn’t found in a book but within yourself.

You realize the clarity you crave isn’t found in another energy reading, but within yourself.

You realize the solutions you crave arise when you choose not to believe your thoughts. Because then you often don’t need solutions anymore. You heal the pattern that caused the problem to arise in the first place. When you no longer believe your thoughts and emotions, a lot of problems will disappear.

Just like when there are no clouds in the sky, there will be no rain. In other words, no drama without dramatic thoughts. No problems without problematic thoughts.

Then there comes a point of allowance. You can allow everything to be exactly as it is.

And then there is like magic happening. You move back to the natural flow of life. Effortlessy. Without striving hard. Without doing more. Without working hard. Without trying so much. Just by allowing yourself to be more and taking more time to sit in stillness.

Enjoy your own presence. That has solved half of my problems without doing anything.

Afterwards you realize if you still carry those thoughts with you, then it’s a conscious choice. But then you can’t blame anyone else. Then you want the problems. You have fun with the problems. Because you now realize you create the problems yourself.

A different approach to healing diseases

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 08:27:46 GMT

This knowledge was hidden for a long time.

There is an increasing number of health problems, diseases and illnesses. The number is increasing.

No matter if it’s viruses, cancer or mental health issues, the numbers are on the rise worldwide.

That can be quite alarming.

Although in today’s world, we have access to different technologies and healing methods like never before, there is something beneath the surface that’s hard to ignore.

A disease is more than just a disease. To our human mind that often thinks in logical terms, it’s a disease. So, we’ve learned to treat the symptoms and get some pills to function as soon as possible.

But ever wondered what’s behind a disease on a deeper level? E.g. out of a spiritual perspective?

There can be all kinds of reasons. What’s important to understand is that we don’t just have a physical body. We have a mental body, an emotional body, an energetic body, an etheric body. They are not all visible to the human eye and that’s why we start doubting it.

But healing on an energetic level can accelerate our healing journey in ways we may never consider or even imagine possible with the human mind.

One very curious observation about humanity is we doubt alternative healing methods such as energy healing but we don’t doubt the existence of a radio. Interesting, isn’t it?

Basically, the radio consists of electricity. It’s energy, too. You can’t see the electricity but you can hear the song on the radio. Each radio sender has a different frequency. That frequency determines which radio sender you listen to. You wouldn’t doubt that, would you? You exactly know if you don’t like some sort of music when you’re on your way to work in the morning, you’ll switch the sender. There’s no doubt about that.

What if inner healing worked the same? What if a disease means you’re plugged into a reality that has certain characteristics and as a result, you get to experience certain events?

Now some people would argue a disease is mean and unfair. And without a doubt, it can be life changing and nerve-wracking and can be filled with emotional ups and downs.

But seeing a disease the same way we see a radio, would you say a music sender that plays very loud and inconvenient music is mean and unfair?

No, it’s an experience. If you don’t like that experience or type of music, you’ll switch the sender.

So often it’s just our mind calling that disease mean and unfair.

On a deeper level, nothing is mean or unfair. It’s simply an experience.

When you start to identify with it all, that’s often where the true suffering starts.

So sometimes it’s not about condemning the disease, it’s about opening up to new perspectives. New perspectives can actually accelerate or even facilitate your healing journey.

Instead of calling the disease mean and unfair you could be asking:

Why am I experiencing it? What is it co-creating deep down? What’s my energy like? What’s going on in my internal world?

Those could be some questions to ask to become curious.

The same way we would ask ourselves why we listen to that sender on a specific radio realising we’re plugged into a certain frequency.

When we change our frequency from within, we start vibrating at a different level. The same as a radio. The result? We change our outer reality.

Because our outer reality is not so real after all. It’s a reflection of the inside reality.

Here lies the great potential and opportunity. To heal from the inside out. It doesn’t mean that classical healing methods are bad. Not at all. There are so many different healing methods. However, we often just treat the symptoms, not the root cause. So, this is an invitation to look a bit deeper, to not just treat the symptoms but get closer to the root cause.

It would be the same for a radio.

If you don’t like a music sender, you can turn down the volume, you can attack it with your hands, you can yell at it and you may not listen to it for a while but that’s not really solving the problem, is it? That’s what we sometimes do with diseases. We take pills and undergo surgeries that kill our cells or where we’re even more likely to experience heavy side effects. Not really true healing.

But we often ignore the fact, which by the way, is also known to scientists, that everything is energy. Even our cells vibrate. Our cells react to energy and different vibration levels.

This is not a healing promise. It simply serves as some sort of inspiration to open up to new perspectives on healing. In the end, everyone has to find their own healing journey and what feels best to them.

If you're interested in learning more how you can shift your reality and tune into another energy and get some practical inspiration for your daily life, check out my Masterclass: Co-create the life of your dreams. You'll learn how to shift your energy and become an energetic match towards your dreams or desired outcome.

From the corporate job to a more spiritual heart-aligned life

Sun, 10 Aug 2025 10:27:40 GMT

How being normal and fitting society's expectations can hinder your potentials

I remember when I was a teenager, maybe 15 years old, I was first interested in spirituality.

Back then, it wasn’t “normal.” You could hear things like “You’re too young.” Or “You can do something like that when you’re older.”

And for a while I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn’t normal.

But what I’ve learned is your craziness becomes your uniqueness one day.

At first you really think you’re not normal, but then again, you ask yourself, what’s being normal in the first place?

Being normal is being someone that often follows society's expectations.

Get an education, get a job, get a car, get a house, get kids.

If you’re not adhering to those society expectations, you’re often considered not “normal."

And it’s obvious.

That’s what most people know.

“Not normal” simply means you’re not doing what society generally knows or expects you to do.

But here’s a curious observation: A lot of people following those exact footsteps of getting an education, getting a car, a house and kids increasingly suffer from burnout or a feeling of emptiness. Isn’t that interesting?

In a time where the world is full of possibilities, the number of burnouts is increasing too?

When I was younger and I was drawn to spirituality, I was never really interested in any particular spiritual practises. I just felt there was more to life than what the human eye could see. I was curious to learn more about myself and the world. Soon after I joined spiritual communities, I realized how many struggles they had themselves. How many ideas and concepts they held that didn’t align with me personally.

It didn’t align with me back then to eat vegan. It didn’t align with me to do yoga or travel to India or meditate all day long. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but it simply wasn’t my personal idea of how I wished to lead life. However, deep down in my heart, I just knew I came here for more. I just couldn’t name it or didn’t know what it was. I always felt drawn to writing and while I could perceive some ideas and visions of what I really felt like doing in life, they all sounded too crazy for my own mind.

So indeed, I followed society’s expectations and went into education instead. I turned my back on spirituality. And for a couple of years, I would often act against my inner desires without realizing it.

I thought I needed to get the money, the house and the job to be happy and live the life I love.

Boy, was I wrong.

Soon after I entered the corporate world, I felt how much competition there was. How much rivalry. How much jealousy. No one would talk about it.

It’s not just competition in your own team but amongst companies. Amongst your competitors. Doing a competitor analysis was once part of my daily tasks.

Until one day, this all didn’t feel aligned anymore.

It was not something obvious, but deep in my heart, it felt so useless.

To cut the story short, this time I made myself a promise. I would no longer ignore the whisper of my heart. I would no longer ignore my feeling that was telling me that the path I was on didn’t feel like my path.

There was a bit of confusion. The spiritual communities didn’t entirely feel aligned. The corporate world didn’t either. I just wanted to create a life on my terms. I didn’t want to follow any pre-existing ideas of how to live life. I wanted to live with more purpose and passion just the way I am.

Back then, little did I know what I could do instead. I always admired others who had a passion like painting or acting and now they became painters or actors. I thought I had no gifts or talents like that.

Boy, was I wrong.

As soon as I discovered more about myself, for the very first time I discovered gifts and aspects I didn’t even know I had. And soon I noticed how there’s an infinite amount of possibilities and potentials within each single one of us. I was amazed.

Why we can’t see those potentials is because they’re dormant. We often don’t nurture our dreams and desires enough. It’s a bit like a flower. If you don’t nurture the seeds regularly, no flower can grow.

I was at a point where I was no longer satisfied with the status quo.

I started to follow my heart.

At the beginning I was scared. I was scared of what other people would think of me. I was scared if it wasn’t working out. I was scared I would fail so hard and have to go back to my old job.

But one day, you learn to embrace those fears and at some stage, you learn to turn the page. You’re now more scared of going back to your old job than being scared of doing your own thing.

And there comes a point where the outer opinions of people become less and less important to you.

Not because you don’t care, but you realize it’s your life, not theirs.

You’re not here to make others happy; you’re here to experience more of yourself.

The most important thing is to follow your heart.

Then everything that is meant for you will come to you.

It comes from a place of inner alignment. Not from a place of pushing or fighting for a goal.

That was the miracle I saw. In the corporate world it all felt like hard work and pushing all the time.

When you follow the heart, it’s the other way round. You can’t really push or fight for a goal. If you do, then most likely, something is not truly aligned otherwise you wouldn’t have to push. It doesn’t mean there aren’t any challenges.

But pushing often happens in the mind. The mind makes us believe we have to make certain things happen. But sometimes it’s just an image we have. Like some people may have the image of achieving a certain job title “to be someone” or to have made it. But who defines that? Those images are created in your own human mind, not in the heart.

And now that we have those ideas in the human mind, we think we have to achieve certain things. We start pushing, hustling.

Once you spot the ideas and limiting concepts in your mind, you realize what a natural flow there is when you allow your heart to take over instead.

There is a power about the heart. It’s like a technology. It’s where AI can never get.

AI is fed by humans. But your heart is greater than you can currently think.

It’s beyond all your limitations, where everything you long for is possible. Where everything you long for is already within you. Yes, it sounds surreal. But once you tap into the energy of your heart, you understand what I’m talking about.

And so I made it my mission to follow my heart. To let my heart guide me in my business, in my daily decisions, in my relationships, in my health, basically in any aspect of my life.

Not only did it bring me so much more joy, healing and a sense of purpose, but also it feels much more aligned with who I am.

Is it always easy? Oh no. I’ve gone through moments of pure frustration and despair. But those moments helped me to shed a little more of the ideas I created in my mind.

Sometimes, it’s very hard because you go against the norms that are known in society.

People would give you odd looks, “Are you crazy, you give up your safe job? You give up the security?”

And as Sadhguru once put it so nicely in a video, “Security is what you have on your grave.” Then indeed, nothing can happen anymore.

If you want security, you don’t want life.

You will usually settle for less. You will usually be too scared to take risks. You will usually be too scared of going against the norm. Because that’s security. You feel secure in your body when you don’t stick out. When you do as you were told to do.

When you want security, you often want comfort.

But you don’t grow in comfortable situations. You grow when you’re challenged.

The biggest learning lessons in my life didn’t appear when I felt comfortable.

They happened when I was either so uncomfortable or in the middle of a challenge or even a painful situation. It doesn’t mean pain is necessary to grow. But sometimes I realized I wouldn’t have changed otherwise. The pain becomes bigger when we’re unwilling to adapt, change or transform.

When the heart screams “Yes” and our mind goes “No” or vice versa.

When we do things and say yes to tasks and people when deep down the heart screams “no”.

You have to choose who you trust.

Do you choose life or security? Do you choose your heart or your mind to guide you?

Do you choose to do it like everyone else does and most likely follow society's expectations, or do you do what feels most aligned with your heart even though it may go against all expectations?

You choose.

Sometimes people say they don’t have any other choice and my younger self thought the same. Today I am convinced we all have a choice. Not choosing is also a choice.

10 August 2025 by Laura Becker

When life crumbles, what's really going on?

Thu, 07 Aug 2025 19:00:34 GMT

What a conscious awakening can look like

Sometimes life crumbles. It can come so unexpectedly.

Everything may seem so smooth. We go on with our daily life.

But suddenly something shakes us. A disease, a layoff, or even a sudden death of a loved one. Or even something like burnout or a job rejection.

What often happens is we condemn them. We judge them. We judge those experiences.

We sometimes may even make our own self-worth dependent on it. Now we feel like we’ve done something wrong, or we feel like a failure. Especially when you can’t find a new job or you’re laid off while your colleague is not. It can hurt.

However, that’s just one perspective about it.

The real reason behind those challenges often remains hidden. Unknown to the logical human mind.

Sometimes behind those challenges can be a conscious awakening.

What does that mean?

Let’s be honest. We don’t change in our comfort zone. It’s too comfortable.

However, when a major life event or challenge appears, we start questioning ourselves and life.

And while it can appear like a challenging phase, it’s a gift in disguise. It can lead us to a lot of realizations, learning lessons, and deeper truths about ourselves and life. And really, that’s what we’re here for. If there was nothing to experience or realize, it would be boring. As much as we say we’d like to have it all figured out, it would be the same to say we would like to play with open cards in a game. Yes, it would be easy, but also we wouldn’t need to play if everyone had their cards open. Our souls sometimes love a challenge, even if for our human it can appear so unfair or not enjoyable at all.

I was once denied a job position. If I hadn’t been denied, I would have probably never gone self-employed. I would have never created my own blog. I always dreamed of having a blog, as I enjoyed writing and sharing my thoughts. But I always postponed that dream or didn’t even consider that dream for real. My mind gave me too many reasons why it wasn’t worth creating a blog. See how I was holding myself back from my dreams? So that job rejection, which felt awful back then, was a gift in disguise. The special thing about a gift in disguise is that while you’re going through them, they can feel like hell. Only much later is the gift revealed.

And the gift is often a redirection. You’re redirected onto a different path with new experiences and opportunities to grow.

So here are 3 signs you might be going through a conscious awakening. Those are no generalizations, just some general guidance.

A major challenge such as a disease or a job rejection
A depressed phase as if nothing makes sense anymore and you don’t recognize your old self
A deeper longing for the truth and wanting to spend more time alone than usual just doing nothing and sitting in a quiet space

A conscious awakening is chosen by the soul, and in my experience, it’s determined by your own subconscious beliefs, trauma and limitations. What’s important is to allow the process to happen. Some people fight against change. They do everything to keep their current reality going. But if you want to move to a different reality where you may experience more joy, peace and fulfillment, you have to be willing to release old versions of yourself. That can feel like a dying. It can suck. But let’s remember with each dying aspect, there is a new version of us born. A lighter version. A version that has grown. Just like nature. What appears like autumn to us means death to the leaves of a tree.

Nature has often been my teacher. You can learn a lot from trees. They go through the dying and rebirth process so naturally. They don’t fight as much as we humans. They simply allow it.

If something is not how you expected it to be, follow the unexpected.

Trust that life has a plan for you.

Trust that there is a deeper message or even a different path waiting for you even if you can’t see what it is yet.

That’s the magic of life. It comes in all shapes and forms.

No life is perfect, so we've got to embrace the highs and the lows and trust that everything brings us the exact experience or lesson we need right now.

So what is a conscious awakening, some may ask?

Well, it’s becoming more conscious of who you are deep down and who you’re not. It’s becoming conscious of what the world is and what it is not. It’s about the deeper truth of who you are.

Treating the symptoms vs. healing the root cause

Wed, 30 Jul 2025 07:17:52 GMT

True healing starts when you dare to look at the root cause.

Treating the symptoms versus healing the root cause: What is the difference?

This morning, I came across a headline on social media about older baboons (monkey/cat-like creatures) that were killed in a zoo due to overcrowding in the zoo. There were a lot of animal activists trying to prevent it. No matter the deed, the outcome or what opinion someone might have about that incident, each one of us may have their unique intention and opinion. And without a doubt, no matter whether you see innocent people or innocent animals being killed for some shallow reason, it is a tragedy. It reflects something deeper about humanity. That something is so foul.

And again, it’s not about searching for the bad guy. Or judging others for their bad behavior.

It showed me how much humanity often tries to solve the symptoms instead of the root cause .

In this case they’re trying to save the animals in the zoo (=the symptoms), but the real question that popped to my mind is, “Why do people still go to the zoo in the 21st century knowing that the animals suffer?” (=the root cause) Yes, it’s a pleasure, but if the pleasure is one-sided, it can cause harm and pain to everyone. Because after all, we remain one humanity. One world.

And I noticed how humans tend to solve the symptoms so often, no matter if it’s with animals, relationships, finances or health. Isn’t it alarming?

So today I want to provide some insights on how to heal the root cause instead of the symptoms.

Have you noticed how we humans tend to solve the symptoms instead of the root cause?

Here are some examples.

A disease

Humans often ask: What pills and therapy forms help? How can we do better therapy?

Instead of asking: What caused me to feel ill or at dis-ease?

A failed relationship

Humans often ask: What can you do when living with a narcissist? What are techniques to calm a husband who is a narcissist?

Instead of asking: Why do I choose to spend my time with this man in the first place?

In a zoo with a killed animal

Humans often ask: Why do they kill the animal? How can we prevent the zoo owners from killing old animals?

Instead of asking: Why do we still go to the zoo knowing that it’s no good for animals?

Mental health issues

Humans often ask: What techniques and pills help against depression?

Instead of asking: What causes me to feel depressed about myself and my life? What does life invite me to change?

In finances

Humans often ask: Why are our politicians and economy so bad?

Instead of asking: What can I do or offer to the world that can make additional money? What skills do I need to build a side business instead of waiting for the politicians to decide on a new rule that will improve my situation?

Healing the symptom is like an open wound that bleeds through again and again. It can cause a lot of pain and struggle, just like an open wound can. Healing the root cause is like a scar. You won’t necessarily forget about it. The experience shaped you in a way, but it will no longer bleed through. It will no longer cause pain. It ’s about a behavioral and attitude change.

Healing the symptoms means you play the victim. You look for the guilty one on the outside. Healing the root cause means you become the Creator. You take responsibility for your own behaviour. Imagine if only half of the population would take responsibility for their own behavior. What would the world look like? It would look like a healed place.

Because change doesn’t necessarily start in politics or in the economy. It starts in the heads and minds of each single human.

Never feel small. You play a significant part in this world.

And sometimes it also means that you don’t pursue hobbies for egoic reasons. In other terms, just for your pleasure when you know others suffer from you having pleasure. Such as going to the zoo. It means seeing the bigger picture: if someone else suffers, we all suffer, as we are all one humanity.

We are not so separate after all.

Q&A: The deeper meaning of diseases from a soul perspective

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 08:43:50 GMT

Exploring some of the root causes of diseases

Ever asked yourself why good people turn ill? What’s the deeper message behind diseases? Are they really bad or could they just be our “ambassadors”? What’s the “soul perspective” behind diseases?

Over the past years, I spent a lot of time on energy healing, the inner work and the root cause of diseases. I was always curious to learn more about it and I made some interesting observations so far. I always kept them to myself as living in a society that is full of judgment, I preferred keeping the truth to myself. Today, my intuition guided me to share some of my insights and observations which came as a complete surprise. I share them because I trust that they may help some of you out there too! Those are just based on my personal experiences and perceptions. Feel into your heart if some resonate with you and/or can shed some light on questions you may have.

Why do “good people” become ill or even diseases such as cancer? Here are my observations:

They’re not just this human. Many spent many lifetimes what we refer to as “previous life’” and not all previous life’s were so “good"
For the soul nothing is ever good or bad. It’s an experience. The energy of that experience is different
Being good is an illusion. It’s about being real and the true you not a mask of playing “good”. It can be a redirection or a reminder to look deeper
For the soul, it’s not about money and fame. That’s just an experience. Not an end goal. It’s about growth. Sometimes growth happens the most through a disease

How do you energetically heal diseases? Why do some heal and others don’t through energy work?

You have to remove the plug ins from lower vibrational timelines. Everything is energy. Some people don’t believe in energy work and as a result, it’s not working for them. It’s not a question whether energy work helps, but whether the ill person is ready to release old patterns that bind them energetically.

3 things I see in ill people even people that go through illnesses such as a cancer

From a soul perspective

• The souls agreed to experiencing that disease. It’s not a vengeful man with a beard or “bad luck”. It’s chosen or created by the soul. That provides comfort that no one is ever a “victim”. Why would the soul choose that? Because it’s temporary. For an eternal soul, one lifetime passes in a blink of an eye. It’s just temporary.

• They have resonance points to lower vibrational energies. It’s an opportunity to release it.

• Just a personal observation: some of the ill people spent lifetimes in war or famine or similar “tough lifetimes” and store that trauma in their cells. Cells have brain memory and consciousness. E.g. if you use chemotherapy, you’re killing the cells (=the symptoms) but not the root cause (=the trauma that caused the disease in the first place). That’s why some humans get sick again because the souls want to heal the root cause

Why do young people die e.g. of diseases?

For the souls, they know no time and space. They are energy, they are eternal.

To me remembering many previous life’s, it appears more like playing Monopoly. Whether you depart after 1 round or 10 rounds, it doesn’t have an impact. In other words: Whether you’re here for 1 year, 10 years or 100 years is a choice. The soul chooses when to leave. And sometimes the experience in one human lifetime was enough to move on, even for us humans we’d consider that “short”. For the soul it’s not about the years, it’s all about the moments. Moment by moment by moment by moment.

Not all souls wish to heal a disease in this lifetime. They can always reincarnate.

In the US, more and more young children say they’re the grandma. That’s not always the case and you can’t generalise here, but it’s not uncommon either. Reincarnation is real, but seen as odd for many in society.

One weird thing from remembering my previous life

In one of my previous lifetimes that I remember I died of something similar to cancer. I was so angry before I died. In the moment I died it felt like I was “waking up” realising “it was just a dream. An illusion” Sickness was an illusion. And I perceived other light beings around me.

Trauma can be behind diseases

One day I started writing a short story about my previous life as a nun

Although I wasn’t even religious

Religious trauma show itself

-always looking for the answer outside of you. In a book, the sky.

-the “good girl” syndrome. Always thinking you have to be a good human instead of just being real

-struggling with money, men or different things. Charging money for healing or spiritual services feels bad.

It’s not a generalisation nor second guessing. But if you have any of these behaviours, just know those beliefs can come from those lifetimes. You don’t need to remember those lifetimes but spot and release those beliefs.

How you can help an ill person

Often, we project fear onto that person. How you can really help them on a soul level although it’s not always easy

• See the divinity in them. The complete soul playing a role. Just like a complete human playing a character role in Monopoly game. That can help them see their own divinity.

• Trust that everything serves a higher purpose. Their soul is most likely just healing something. Even if you don’t understand what, provide comfort. Show compassion. The disease can be terrible, but the consequence (=the learning lesson can be absolutely healing. It can help the soul for future lifetimes.)

• Understand energy. When you’re in the energy of calmness, trust and comfort it’s how another one can heal the easiest. It’s the energy they need to heal. As supposed to fear and doubt which will make them even more fearful. Energy doesn’t communicate through words only. You convey a feeling. Ever sat next to a calm and loving person? It calms you down, doesn’t it?

Why can some remember previous life’s and others can’t?

It’s not because some are chosen. It depends on your level of consciousness.

Your consciousness = how much you can perceive.

It’s similar to when you’re in a shopping mall. On the ground floor you may see the butcher, bakery and people running around. Everything may seem chaotic.

On the 7th floor you see airplanes, the blue sky. Everything seems so calm.

Who’s right? Both. That’s called perception.

Yet, it’s all a choice. Just like you can visit other floors in a shopping mall, you can raise your consciousness.

If you doubt any of those information or perceptions or you doubt previous lifes exist, that’s completely valid! Trust yourself and move on.

How stopping to read the news made me feel less stressed

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 08:06:35 GMT

How it helped me raise my energy

A couple of years ago, I used to read the news each day in the morning. I heard someone say it’s eloquent and intelligent and it makes you smart. As I wanted to appear smart too or let’s say do it like the others, I did.

Until one day, I questioned that belief. Is it really smart to read about all of the world’s issues? I mean, there’s a lot going on.

From a cat having diarrhea to wars, fights, killings and stabbings. If we indulged in the news all day long, I’m sure it wouldn’t even be surprising if some of us became sad or even suicidal.

I generally like to question things and asked myself again… is it really smart to read about all the problems in the world? All the wars? In other words, reading about so much that isn’t working? Wouldn’t it be much smarter to read about things that are working and apply more of them? Could it be that there are negative agendas behind the news just wanting to make you feel worried and fearful? No assumptions here, just a personal perception.

One day, I heard a guy called Matias de Stefano say that in the past, people without social media were better off. They just had their own life and their own problems. They didn’t have to carry the problems of the world and the burden of the disasters. It made me reflect and actually it was a fair point.

Without a doubt, disasters are horrible. Bushfires are horrible. Just picturing losing your home is terrible. Or whatever else it might be. I do have understanding and feel a lot of empathy for those people and trees. But let’s be honest here. We won’t make the world a better place by worrying even more. It only pulls down our own energy. The energy we could actually use instead to act on new projects and ideas that could prevent those incidents from happening in the future. And that made me rethink my choice or my decision of reading the news in the morning. And why I later stopped it.

And here’s why. I once came across Neale Donald Walsh who shared an impulse to read the news and spot the words they use. How much negative language there is. How much drama. I was shocked when I really looked out for it consciously. Even words carry energy. We often absorb that energy often unconsciously which has an effect on how we feel. Sometimes the lines we read even shape beliefs or makes us fall into the energy of hate and judgment. Could there be negative agendas behind the news wanting to keep the world separated to keep the power? No assumptions here, just a personal perception.

Even some people I came across that gave interviews suddenly apologised on social media arguing that they never said certain things the media published. Or the news either added something they asked not to include or they left out an important part of their message and it now conveyed a completely different message often in a negative sense. Isn’t that interesting again?

Additionally, another interesting observation: I was once in Spain years back, and suddenly a family member called me feeling very nervous. “Where are you??? Are you ok??? Are you safe?” I was walking in downtown Madrid going like, “erm yes why shouldn’t I be ok?”

They told me in the German news they said there were riots in Madrid. I was one street away and it was just so little I didn’t actually see or hear it. When I saw the German news they had used images that I later discovered in other news articles from riots in a completely different country 4 years ago. I was shocked. They didn’t even use accurate images. Again, do they have negative agendas to feed off our fear energy? No assumptions here again, just a personal perception.

So, I observed every time I read the news and despite feeling empathy for what people are going through, I realised I cannot bear the burden of the world, so to speak. Nor do I wish to feed negative agendas with my energy. Here on the other side of the world I couldn’t do anything if a bushfire in Australia broke out, as an example. I can only send my empathy, hoping the people make the best out of it, find strength and most importantly, learn from it. Because let’s be honest. A lot of problems and issues in the world are man-made. The trees don’t start burning just like that. So when we raise awareness we could achieve much more than putting our energy into fear and worry.

One day, I had a conversation with a lady I met who told me that she gave up reading the news a long time ago. At first I found that random. Almost strange. Isn’t it ignorant not to read the news or not to know what’s going on? I first thought.

But then I realised in the past, people didn’t have access to social media either. They didn’t know what was going on on the other side of the world. That allowed them to take care of their own life and their own problems and challenges, which, in my view, is often enough.

As I’m generally open to new things, I tried a news-free challenge for 2 weeks. No news for 2 weeks. Boy, even after the first three days I felt more calm. I felt more joyful not being exposed to those negative headlines right in the morning or evening. Instead, I’d focus on my breakfast, look out the window and thought, “Actually everything is good.” It made me realize we just suffer in our own minds and it can start right in the morning by absorbing negative headlines from the news.

Now I deleted the news apps and chose to fill it with inspirational apps. And honestly, many months later, do I have the feeling I missed out on something? Not at all. I focus on things that nurture my life and, as such, my surroundings. Do I feel less smart suddenly? Not at all. I realised how many distorted beliefs and even negative energy you can absorb about countries, people and situations that, who knows, might not even be fully accurate all the time.

And really, if something important is happening, other people will immediately tell me about it. If something important really happened, I’m sure I will get to know about it. If someone needs my help and I can help them, I would consider doing so, but I think it won’t help them just from me absorbing fear- and drama-based energy from reading inaccurate or exaggerated information provided in the general news.

For me personally, a new luxury is to think for yourself and question things you do or even dare to question things that society tells you to do. Some people want to convince you of doing things a certain way. But if that was really "THE" way, would the world really be in the shape it is today?

Who knows?

How solitude can help you connect to yourself

Wed, 02 Jul 2025 12:01:17 GMT

Solitude is not loneliness. Why I like solitude and how it helped me on my inner journey

First of all, I ’m not speaking of people spending time alone and longing to be with others. That might have different reasons. I’m speaking of the moment you feel like being alone by choice even if others would consider that weird.

Already in my teenage years, I loved doing things on my own. I often loved walks on my own. I loved journalling on my own. I often loved travelling alone. People would give me odd looks and for a time I thought, well, maybe it’s me being weird.

Yet, it sometimes just felt the “right” thing for me. I remember how I sometimes joined groups and I just felt drained. I felt I had less energy after being with certain people than being on my own. Drained by travel itineraries, drained by too many compromises and simply doing things just to please others. Now there has to be a balance and without a doubt compromises may be part of life, I don’t want to deny that.

But yet here’s a question: if you always do what pleases others, will you truly feel happy in the long term? I believe it will come at a certain cost one day.

Your own inner desires are not met. Or can fall by the sideway. That which you truly want and long for deep down.

Don’t feel like visiting that temple your friend loves to visit? Why do you go then? Don’t feel like doing XYZ your partner loves when you prefer some alone time? Why do you do it then? Everything is our energy and has an effect on the reality we experience and in the long term also on our satisfaction.

That’s why only years later I learned that solitude in any shape or form is not loneliness. It’s sometimes necessary to become aware of your own desires. To nurture your own dreams. To reflect on what’s important to you. While it’s nice to have companions, in the end the longest relationship you have is with yourself.

You can never entirely rely on the other. What if they leave you? What if they die? What if they deceive you? It’s not to picture any worst-case scenarios but to stress the importance that your needs come first. It’s not selfish. And then it’s much easier to build a community around that. A community that supports your dreams, desires and reflections, not one where you constantly have to adapt at the cost of your own satisfaction.

What I’m trying to say is, if you feel like travelling alone, it’s fine. Don’t let yourself be put down by other people’s weird looks. That was my biggest realisation. Solitude is not always loneliness. Reflection time is important. Connecting to yourself is substantial.

From a peaceful mind and clear thoughts, you can take action more clearly and interact with people more peacefully. So it can have many benefits not just for your own life but also for the people around you.

Other times it may be more fun to join a community than to do things on your own. I believe there is no right or wrong. The best thing is to do what feels “right” in the moment.

Now years later, I do realize how I carry the first fruit from my time spent alone. In the way that I feel much more connected to myself and my intuition than before. I feel much more clear on who I am and what my desires are. I feel much more aware of what my strengths and also weaknesses are. It doesn’t mean I’m perfect or that there’s nothing more to learn, but I simply feel much more clarity and awareness than before.

And that shows in the outer world e.g. through more balance and joy, new heart projects and a new sense of self. People may look at me and say, “wow she may be lucky.”

But it’s not about being lucky. It’s years of inner alignment. It comes after spending moments of confusion and many more moments sitting with your own anger that you finally become clear on what you wish to tolerate and what you no longer wish to tolerate and say yes to. That’s why solitude has so many benefits for your life. It doesn’t necessarily mean to live off-grid and distance yourself from people. No. Just take time for yourself. I f you feel like you can’t make time for yourself for whatever reason be it work or children then simply notice. The kids and work are important but without your satisfaction no one entirely benefits. So if you’re satisfied the people around you will be.

I’ve observed that there are quite a few people who would feel entirely insecure about doing something on their own. Now they’re confronted with themselves, their own internal world. Now it comes to trusting yourself and life. Many are not used to that. Most of us were raised trusting others. Be it a book, a teacher, a religious doctrine. Someone else tells us who we are and what we should do. We rarely learn to be on our own let alone think for ourselves.

So sometimes spending time on your own can be a completely new experience for some. But it can bring you new insights and you may get to know new aspects about yourself you weren’t even aware of. If you haven’t spent time alone, give it a try. Grab a book or simply take some time to reflect or whatever feels comfortable to you. If you love spending time alone and feel guilty, stop the guilt. It’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with you. Always remember if others consider you weird it’s their beliefs they are projecting onto you, it doesn’t have to be yours.

3 benefits of journalling

Tue, 01 Jul 2025 09:17:16 GMT

How journaling can help you achieve your dreams or simply feeling more calm, balanced and joyful

I’ve started journalling a long time ago. I first started with journaling about my day, my travels and later I started doing the “inner work” through journalling. Back then, little did I know what power it had and what a difference it made in my life.

Here are 3 benefits I’ve discovered about journaling. Journalling has so many benefits but here are the most beneficial ones that can support you with following your dreams and help you manifest the life you truly desire, or simply feeling more balanced and joyful.

1)Become aware of your thoughts and emotions

Journalling can help you become aware of what’s going on in your mind. Often, we have so many thoughts on our minds and a lot of them are not really serving. It can help you become aware of your thoughts and release them. Let’s be honest. In order to achieve our dreams and manifest our heart’s desires it’s important to align our internal world. Otherwise we may risk remaining in our old reality. At the beginning, I underestimated the power of my thoughts, only when I later became aware through my practice of journaling how many self-destructive thoughts I had, I was no longer surprised why I couldn't manifest at the beginning.

2)Connect with yourself

A journaling practice can help you make time for yourself and you get to know yourself and your internal world better. Often, we are so busy with work and other stuff that we forget to make time for ourselves and connect with ourselves. Journalling is one way to simply relax, get your pen and paper out and allow yourself to connect with your own inner world and heart’s desires.

3)Access your subconscious mind

There are a lot of things in our subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is so vast. It appears as vast as the ocean. Some people that start with manifestation or the inner work want to release everything all at once. And of course, it’s understandable. We’re tired of our old limitations. But the truth is this: Reprogramming the mind in one day is not impossible but for most of us, a regular practice can help achieve those dreams. Often achieving our dreams consists of multiple steps and actions, so with each step you may face new limitations. That’s how a regular journaling practice can help you move and navigate through those challenges.

Are you a journalling lover too or became curious? All it takes is to get a pen and paper and let yourself be guided by your intuition. If you feel you need some journalling inspiration, I will share a lot of impulses in the next upcoming weeks.

Stay tuned.

The inner healing of diseases

Wed, 25 Jun 2025 08:35:35 GMT

What's the deeper reason behind diseases?

Diseases can suck. Whether it’s as minor as waking up with a headache or suffering from regular womb issues such as fibroids or endometriosis or even as heavy as cancer can seem. The diagnosis can evoke shock, fear and anger.

I want to share some of my perspectives about the inner healing of diseases today and this might not be for everyone, but if you’re here, it shows that at least you are open or curious about it.

Just a disclaimer. Even for me, it was not always easy to share my truth at the beginning, as we all know that it can be uncomfortable to speak about something that is so highly debated and that can trigger people and we might get judged and criticized. Yet, as inner healing helped me, I know it might help some of you, too. So I just share my perspective and invite you to take what serves you and leave what doesn’t.

Here is something I learned about going through diseases myself.

The deeper reason behind diseases is often our own darkness or our own energies acting against us instead of for us.

And when I say darkness, I don’t mean someone is bad, mean, dark or evil. Not at all. I mean, I went through diseases or some symptoms myself and the last thing that helps you when coming to heal diseases is to judge or condemn yourself or consider yourself bad or dark.

However, opening up to the fact that there is something that arises in our reality that we haven’t seen can help the healing. At least in the experience it did. I healed my womb symptoms, and yes, I did some food adjustments and some positive mindset exercises at the beginning, and while that helped me get rid of some pain and surely supported me in my inner healing journey, in the end I confess that those practices alone didn’t help me to heal the root cause. My womb fibroids were still there.

Only until I - as weird as it may sound - started to “love” my own darkness in the sense of seeing and appreciating my own darkness as a part of me, my diseases started to disappear entirely.

I practiced that so often with different body symptoms, and everytime it worked for me. It was the moment I realized you can heal diseases from within.

I’m not saying this is the only perspective. If you feel triggered, don’t be. Firstly, I’m not saying to never get medical help again. By all means, it’s great we have such advanced access to technology in medical care. If you feel like using some of those medical tools, go ahead.

But I’m speaking to those who feel like there’s a deeper meaning behind diseases or who are like me who feel like they want to heal this more naturally from within. That’s important about inner healing.

Your belief in your own capability and your determination to heal from within.

It’s not a forcing. You can never really force anything.

And the best advice I can give you when you want to heal naturally from within is to embrace your own darkness. That which you didn’t see. When I speak of darkness, I speak of aspects about ourselves we haven’t seen yet or we don’t want to see. Basically even judgment and jealousy are darkness. Every time you’re not fully your true self.

And for that it can be beneficial to have some “spiritual background” or explore the deeper meaning of life and why we’re here on earth. I personally believe we’re here as energy beings having a temporary human experience. We play a role just like we play roles in billboard games. We have different experiences. We learn, we grow and we evolve. Sometimes we may play roles such as a dark king in chess that might seem fun in the moment, but actually later we may realize “Oh that wasn’t so wise." But in the end, it was just a game! And the human experience feels similar to me personally. Many of us had many lifetimes and many roles. No generalisation here, just an observation. Those experiences and lifetimes are like energies. And so we may have some energies within us that don’t serve us anymore. As energies don’t know any time or space, they may suddenly arise when your soul chooses that it’s time to see and integrate that shadow aspect.

And so when you truly want to heal the root of diseases, it’s about shadow work.

Embracing and seeing your deepest shadows that surface through the disease. It’s about massive growth. It can feel messy at first. It can be confusing and hurtful, but the healing, joy and ease that follow make you realize it’s so worth it. Like a mother that may go through a traumatizing birth, realizing it was all worth it when she holds her baby.

It can be deep subconscious work. Now the subconscious mind can seem complex when we start out and it might not be so easy to access it straight away. And in my experience the first step or let’s say a good way to get started, is to focus on yourself. What’s really you? What brings you joy? What stands in the way? Those are easy impulses but they indeed can provide you with insights. Because every time you’re not yourself, it can hint at a possible shadow aspect to see and integrate.

Inner healing to me personally was not always about complex healing methods. It was about seeing where I’m not myself, where I cannot accept myself, and where I go against my desires. And often we have no clue. A lot of people live their lives unconsciously. So we bring the unconscious to the conscious. We become aware. Which is the first step. You need to become aware. And so this could be the initiation into your healing journey to become aware of your darkness or shadow aspects. Not in a way to condemn darkness or shadow aspects but to understand what darkness truly is. An experience to see who you truly are deep down: light.

Sometimes you can only appreciate the light if you’ve been through darkness. In other words, you can only appreciate the sun if you’ve experienced rain.

Having access to that knowledge doesn’t guarantee you never get ill again. It’s rather to provide you with tools to help yourself navigate challenges in case they arise.

Healing diseases made me become appreciative of each day that I’m in good health or that my heart is still beating. Because really it’s not something we should take for granted. Other people would give everything to be in our situation. And that’s a reason why diseases can appear: It reminds us or asks us to question who we are and what’s truly important in life and where our focus is.

The disease can become an ambassador. A gift in disguise.

If you don’t embrace it, you might only see the horror, the pain, and the struggle. If you’re open to look deeper, you see the beauty. Not the beauty in the disease itself, which can feel really uncomfortable, of course, but the consequence. The consequence of the healing it brings. The realizations. The growth. The shifts of allowing yourself to see things differently. And that’s the pain and beauty of inner healing.

In the end, in my personal opinion, we cannot really be ill, but we can only have the experience of being ill. Just like in a Monopoly game, you can have the experience of being poor as a player without being poor. It’s a game. That’s why my approach is not to heal you but to remind you of your essence, what I was reminded myself, and provide you with tools and impulses that can help you to heal yourself. Because in the end, always remind yourself that you’re not powerless. You can only have the idea of being powerless. And that’s another step to approaching the healing of diseases. To reclaim that power that you can do and heal anything if you believe in your capability. There’s more strength within you than you can imagine, but if you believe you’re powerless, then that’ll most likely be your experience. Because that’s a cosmic law. What you believe in will come true because you’re a creator.

Lastly, I want to point out you cannot do anything wrong. Often we are so scared of diseases because a lot of us are so scared of death deep down. Let’s be real here. We are all going to die one day. If you know me, you’ll know I like to see life with a good sense of humor. Life can seem tough and cruel, so humor helps me take life less seriously. So I want to share one final perspective, and it’s this: If you see life like a party. You’ll realize you cannot do anything wrong. Some leave the party early, some later. Some stay so long and get wasted. Some leave when it’s actually the most fun moment. All is good. All is well. One day we may reunite as pure energy and say, “Hey, remember when we went to the Earth party and got so fucked up?” I bet we’ll have a good laugh about how we once all took that life or game so seriously when it was just an experience.

And while I publish that article, there is the song from Avicii turning up in the cafe I’m sitting in. I'm hearing “One day you gonna leave this world behind. So live a life you will remember. My father told me when I was just a child. These are the nights that never die." If that’s not a perfect synchronicity to end this article. Song texts can be great reminders.

One final point that’s important to me to point out here. I know there are many opinions about healing diseases and it can heighten people’s emotions. I want to highlight that those are just my perspectives based on my personal experience. There are so many perspectives and approaches. And in my view, there is not just one perspective or one truth. It’s similar to a shopping mall. When you’re on the ground floor of a shopping mall, you may see bakeries and butcheries when you look out of the window. On the 7th floor, you may see the rooftop bars of other buildings.

It’s not that one experience or perspective is wrong. It’s just a different perspective. And that’s exactly what this article is for. To provide you with a different perspective on approaching the healing of diseases, and you choose whether to dive deeper or skip this information.

If you're interested in inner healing, stay tuned. I'm going to share further impulses and information on inner healing and shadow work.

From the corporate world to writing children books

Fri, 20 Jun 2025 13:38:04 GMT

What it taught me about finding your purpose

A couple of years ago I left the corporate world. There was a little voice telling me “you gonna quit.” And so eventually, I did.

Trusting my intuition was not always easy. At the beginning there was doubt, a bit of fear and worry if it was truly working out but deep down I knew another way was waiting for me.

And so I learned a lot about the inner work, manifestation and living your purpose. As I went through it all myself. At the beginning, I had little idea what my purpose was or where it would take me.

What I did was I followed my joy and passion. It took me to writing children books eventually. And adult comics. Never ever would I have imagined writing comic books. Yet, I discovered so many new aspects and potentials within me I didn’t know existed within. They were dormant. I mean I was in my old job. How should those dormant talents have come alive back then when you always do the same things?

Today I write books. They combine wisdom and my interest about the cosmos together with a sense of humor and charm. I love writing. I always have. Writing comes so natural to me I don’t even have to think about it. I allow my heart to guide me.

I believe there is a higher force within each one of us. There’s this feeling or little voice that we all have access to when we quiet the mind. It’s the voice that guides us. It’s the voice that lets us know when something is off. It’s often just a matter of listening.

The world is in trouble. It’s full of judgment, competition, power games, wars. And I believe you can’t blame the politicians or ancestors. That’s the easy one. The harder one is this: it depends on us. If each one of us questions their beliefs and takes responsibility for their actions the world would look differently.

It’s the path to true sovereignty and inner freedom. The moment you choose yourself. The moment you choose not to follow or blame others but the moment you take charge of your life. The moment you choose to opt for more, to discover more and to be curious about more rather than just surviving, paying the bills.

So I encourage people to discover their own purpose and gifts. Do more of what you love.

And for now, if you feel drawn to, today I'm launching my first children's book about the big bear. If you feel drawn to a cute children's story that is totally touching for adults too, check it out.

If not, I encourage you to follow your interest and joy this weekend. What is something that lights you up? Whether it's writing, drawing, fishing, swimming, do it. You never know where this hobby, passion or field of interest can take you one day.

If you became curious, check it out. It's called "Friendship knows no boundaries"

Emotions are like waves in the sea

Sat, 14 Jun 2025 08:07:51 GMT

Mastering your emotions is like a surfer mastering the waves in the ocean

Dealing with strong emotions such as rage, anger, jealousy, hate or fear? Emotions are like waves in the sea. You can drown in them.

They can pull you down. They can overwhelm you. Just like when all is calm and a rough wave sweeps over, it won’t be the same.

So you gotta learn to embrace emotions. Face them. As uncomfortable as they might seem. And then there may come a time you decide you no longer want to swim there. And that’s the same with your life. There comes a moment you may decide you no longer want to feel that way.

And just like you need to change a different bay, you got to change your thoughts, beliefs and concepts that made you feel that way.

Because it’s your choice. You always have the choice to swim wherever. In your life you have the choice.

If you are constantly angry, sad, disappointed, you can decide to change it. Change your thoughts, change your actions.

But that’s what feels uncomfortable. Change is always uncomfortable.

It’s much easier to blame the waves then take responsibility for how you react.

Change starts within. You can sit by the ocean and complain how high the tides are. Or you can change the setting.

That’s my advice. Don’t wait for an external event to get better. Don’t wait for the perfect moment (to feel ready), it may never come.

Change the setting. Switch direction. If one does not turn out the way you wish, there is another way waiting for you. Don’t push through for the sake of it.

But in case you’re encountering a big wave don’t condemn it.

Because everything you experience teaches you something. It may teach you more resilience. Be open and ask yourself what it’s teaching you.

Sometimes the wave aka emotion is so rough, you may get hurt.

Yes, it can be hurtful. It can feel frustrating. It can feel awful. Yet, don’t dwell in pain or regret for too long.

Remember, you cannot change what happened but you can always learn from the experiences. The learning lesson turns into wisdom.

Wisdom allows you to take different decisions next time.

Don’t make the mistake again and again. Don’t repeat old things again and again, not that there are real mistakes anyway, but once you get swapped away by a wave and you hit a rock, you wouldn’t do or bathe there again, would you?

If you got hurt once, don’t do exactly the same thing again.

And if there are no waves, appreciate it. Be grateful because nothing is for granted in life.

If you’re facing ups and downs frequently, then learn to ride the waves like a surfer, use the lows to pull yourself up. And have fun along the ride.

Lows may suck but remember this life is not forever. It’s not about achieving anything but enjoying the ride. Only when we experience the lows, we can appreciate the highs. In the end, its all just an experience.

Stop judging the waves into good or bad rather see it as one ocean with different shapes and forms that allow you to have different experiences.

And don’t judge other surfers because remember we are all in the same ocean.

See the world as if it was one just like the sea is one.

Some parts of the sea are darker, others lighter, some are rough, some are soft but it’s all one. In the world there’s different humans too but together we are one.

Imagine the small wave would start war against the big wave. It would be absolutely crazy.

Don’t start war or heavy fights against another for you’re only fighting against a part of yourself.

Just like there are small waves, big waves, foamy waves, there can be different forms of existence. That makes the sea diverse.

Don’t prove, impress or please another if you want to live in peace.

Would a big wave prove its worth to a small wave? I don’t think so. It explores its own capability and beauty. Allow yourself to be unique. Allow yourself to be you!

Don’t be fooled by time just because something seems like it’s 5 years ago. Time is relative. You may have changed and become a different version just like a big wave may turn into a calm wave but it’s still part of the big ocean. You are never separate and it’s still the ocean. Time is not moving but you’re moving through time.

Enjoy each moment as this life is not forever. Make the most out of it.

Explore new territory. Try new possibilities. Have the courage to chase your dreams and your deepest desires. For that’s your soul communicating with you trying to make new experiences together with you in a human form.

The benefits of a temporary social media detox

Tue, 13 May 2025 13:10:24 GMT

How a social media detox made me become more clear mentally, emotionally and spiritually

Maybe you know the feeling too…. You’re on your way to work, checking social media... waiting for food, checking social media… waiting for a friend, checking social media... Not sure what to do next, checking social media… if you’re bored, checking social media…

I was no different. I was checking social media right after getting up and right before sleeping. I wasn’t always the one producing content but absorbing content. O ne day, I had an astonishing oberservation. Social media can drain your energy to an extent it can impact your mood, often unconsciously. How? Not everything that’s shared on social media is positive. People would focus on the positive stuff, but it doesn’t mean it’s the truth. Yet, energy only knows the truth. If you’re feeling terrible and put on a smile on and say something nice to be liked, the underlying energy is your bad mood that comes along with it. It’s so subtle, you may not recognise it. It’s like when there’s fresh water and the water tap is calcified, your water may not be so fresh. But it’s not visible at first.

And that was exactly what I could observe or feel with social media. People that I followed drained me, not all, but some random ones that appeared. Sometimes it made me become judgmental or other times I suffered with someone. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to have empathy but there came a point where it drained my energy to an extent it wasn't really bringing me further or contributing to my joy throughout the day. Mentally, I felt less clear.

One night, I tuned into my intuition and my intuition told me to have a social media break for the next three days. It came as a surprise. And as I always follow my intuition I did so. I signed off for 3 days. And boy it wasn’t easy. And yet it was astonishing. Instead in the night before going to bed I wouldn’t check social media, I would spend half an hour dreaming of my future. Focusing on what really matters. Getting engaged with my desires.

In the morning, I didn’t start with social media but I would focus on my day. I would focus on gratitude. D uring the day, I focused on myself, my emotions, my mood and what made me feel good. I was far less judgmental and drained within 2 days already. And I became clear that following random strangers and following strangers on their parties, anniversaries, dramas and all sorts of things (don’t get me wrong they do sound nice) drained my energy. I was so focused on other people and sometimes I found myself feeling bad. I started to compare myself completely unconsciously. I started to judge. I started to absorb their energies. And guess what? Now I was in the energy of judgment and comparison. When you're in those energies, guess what, no good can result. Worst of all, it's how I continued my day.

When I gave up my social media consumption for 3 days unless I felt guided to share something, I felt so much more alive. So much lighter. So much more centered. I felt no need to engage in random stranger’s dramas and stories. In my opinion, we all crave for attention and love. And sometimes people go on social media to find the attention they cannot find within themselves. And that’s where energy vampirism can appear. I know it sounds harsh but it’s not really as harsh as the word implies. What I mean by energy vampirism is when you don’t feel loveable or cannot accept yourself deep down and hoping for acceptance and approval outside of you. A nd that’s why we can feel weak.

The path to true power and a joyful life is when you’re centred in your own energy first. When you know yourself first and don’t have to strive for attention or approval by others. Some people even ask strangers what colour of their house or car or dress they should choose. By all means, this has become an interesting world where people would ensure their followers approve. And I ask myself what for? We don’t live in their house. They don’t live in mine. It only has to be appreciated by me.

If we’re constantly concerned what others think of us and ensure we choose what they would choose we are like slaves to external circumstances.

And on the other hand, when you consume content, it can leave you focus on other people’s lives, not your own. Some people become sad or disappointed when a stranger doesn’t respond. How odd is that?

I come to remind you, just like I reminded myself, you’re not here to be liked and appreciated by others or even have a say in other people’s lives. You came here to create and live your own life the way you want in the first place. How many people can truly say they created a life they love and that truly fulfills them? Not many.

And so the social media detox can help you become clear on your own life, habits, emotions and how you wish to spend your days. This life is not forever, do you want to look back one day realising you watched other people live their life on social media while you could have made much more out of yourself? I leave that up to you.

If you felt inspired by this story, give it a try. Sign off for 3 days or whatever feels good to you and focus on yourself and your life and your dreams and I’m sure you’ll be surprised. That’s true self love. Self love doesn’t mean to polish your nails or talk about it. It means taking time to nourish yourself even if no one out there approves or likes it. They don’t have to. That’s the deeper meaning of self-love.

And btw, You know what’s much better than watching people on holiday? Creating a life that can make you feel like you’re on holiday. Or Going on a real holiday yourself. Let’s not mix up the digital world with the real world.

What does that have to do with manifesting? Oh , a lot if you ask me. We don’t create what we wish for, we create what we are an energetic match to. So if you’re constantly in the energy of judgment, worry, or absorbing other crazy energies, that’s what our reality becomes like

Without a doubt social media can encourage and inspire too, this is just a reminder to become aware. Become more Aware of your energy and what you spend your time on. It has an impact on your life in tremendous ways.

Are you an introvert? Being calm vs. loud

Thu, 08 May 2025 17:16:16 GMT

Ever felt bad for being calm? Or being judged as too calm or too loud? Why it's nothing more than a label

Ever felt bad being considered an introvert? Ever been considered as too calm or too loud? In society, we have such a tendency to label things and people. I used to be considered as rather calm. I used to see it as a weakness. I would often almost consider it an insult or let’s say it made me feel as if something wasn’t ok with me.

But today I see it as a form of strength in its own form. Calmness can mean you’re deeply settled. Calmness can be a form of strength. It’s not to be confused with being shy and wishing to be someone else. If we are shy and wishing to be someone else, there can be fears and other traumas why we cannot be ourselves that we may wish to look into.

I rather speak of your personality of being calm and feeling good with it. And my advice if you’re calm and you feel good with it, there’s nothing wrong with you. You don’t have to change, you don’t have to be different just because someone else out there has made you believe that you need to be louder or someone else you’re not.

Often, that’s where the trauma starts when we start to believe that the way we are is not good enough or not appreciated enough and boom we start not feeling ok, we start feeling as if we don’t belong and there’s like an inner wound that arises. As a result, we may try to adapt to other people's expectations, just not to be the weird and calm person.

But what I’ve realised that behind “loud people” can often be a certain "downside" as well. E.g. the need of feeling seen and appreciated by others. The need to be loud to be validated. Or the idea of being right and superior. It can be traumas in its own shape or form behind it. Or sometimes it’s none of it, and it’s simply the person’s personality of who they are! Calm people may not have such a need to be validated although I believe deep down everyone wants to feel loved and appreciated. So you see, there is nothing really good or bad in the first place.

Therefore, I’ve found for myself that it’s time to give up those labels whether someone is calm or loud. Whether one is better than the other. I’ve noticed for myself I can just be who I want to be. Whether that’s calm or loud, that’s my choice and my personality and I shouldn’t feel bad for either one. And if I’m too calm in the eyes of another one, that may be their beliefs and often limitations projecting them onto me. It may have nothing to do with me.

As soon as you start giving up your beliefs and you start embracing who you truly are no matter what others think of you, there’s such an inner freedom. You realise that behind calm people can often be old souls. Some are wise beyond their years. It’s not a generalisation but rather to break the illusion of being calm or not being calm or how you should be. As a calm person or an introvert, the outer world can sometimes feel overwhelming. There’s so much stimuli and sometimes also so much drama, bullshit and conversations that calm people choose not to even engage with or waste their time on that. But that’s just my personal perception.

Now I embrace myself in all different versions. I enjoy being calm. I enjoy being an introvert but sometimes I enjoy being an extrovert. It’s all good. It’s never this or that. It can be both or neither. You choose.

Being calm or loud, and what's better, is a bit like discussing whether blue eyes or green eyes are more ok, we gotta embrace that humans come in all different shapes and forms and even character traits. We can all benefit from that. Sometimes a loud person can benefit from the calm person and vice versa. It really shows that in truth it’s simply a different expression, yet it’s merely our label in good or bad, right or wrong that gives it a bad rap.

It’s time to stop it and start feeling ok exactly who we are and the way you are. It’s time you start feeling good and proud for who you are! Never let yourself down. And yet know, we can always explore new versions and character traits about ourselves too.

How vision boards can hold you back from your true potential

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 09:24:04 GMT

Visions cannot be imagined in the mind. They are birthed through the heart beyond the mind’s control

Vision boards can hinder you from your true potential. I kept having visions about things that require a lot of humour, communication and other people - in other words things that aren’t for me or that I wouldn’t choose or write on a vision board as I used to be rather shy and introverted. Until I realised exactly that.

It makes me embody different aspects of myself. Growth doesn’t happen in the mind. Visions cannot be imagined in the mind. They are birthed through the heart and are beyond the mind’s control or capability of visualisation. Those visions from the heart can scare you or even put you off. Your capability of imagining things are often out of your current self, not the future self living dreams and your full potential.

Because the version of you that lives the future realities or dreams embodies different aspects than you do right now otherwise you would already be living that reality. Sometimes it required me to change locations against my will or desire only to realise the higher self is desire-less. Self less. It moves where it’s guided to, not where the human finds pleasure.

I was once in Greece on a mountain and I felt like eating a chocolate waffle. In that moment my higher self asked me “do you want to have pleasure as a human or growth as a soul?” And I realised that longing for a chocolate waffle came out of the desire of not wanting to feel certain emotions in that moment. I realised what brings you joy and pleasure is sometimes not what brings you growth as a soul. Because a chocolate waffle can lower the vibration and we can lose momentum.

And yet it doesn’t mean to never have fun. Of course we’re here to be joyful and have fun. But there’s a subtle difference whether you’re guided towards something or whether it’s out of a trigger.

What’s the difference between an impulse and a trigger? In my experience, an impulse comes from within. It’s not tied to external circumstances. Like me in Greece, I had the impulse of hiking. An impulse from the intuition is often the first idea that pops up before the second and third arise. That can be the mind. Not always. It’s hard to generalise but I’m simply describing my experience.

E.g. like in my situation. The first impulse was hiking a mountain. There I faced some challenges. So I had the impulse to eat a chocolate waffle. It came from not wanting to face the challenge. It was more like a distraction. And that’s a trigger. It involves outside circumstances. E.g. feeling low and craving for sugar although your higher self tells you ‘no’. So we have to become very alert whether the impulse is really from our intuition (higher self) or our mind.

How can we differentiate?

A question I ask myself is this: Would the best version of me with 0 stress, fear, the version that lives all her dreams do it in that moment? Am I doing it out of pure joy or because I’m being confronted with something?

Of course there’s no right or wrong decision

Impulses from the higher self can sometimes include challenges as they make us grow. So it’s important to trust and follow the guidance even if you’d go like “my current human self would choose differently.” Well for sure it would as our current self holds certain limitations and patterns that binds us to that current reality.

If we really want to follow our dreams, we have to grow into that version living it first. And our higher self guides us towards it. And it will guide us to places , even if they don’t make any sense, people and situations where we can have certain realisations or sometimes see our blind spots or simply become aware of old behaviours and patterns that no longer align with the version of ourselves living the future dreams.

Before we start living our dreams or make them a reality it’s important to embody the qualities of that version living it. That makes us magnetise our dreams the fastest.

And why it challenges us to new places, situations and people is because our human self loves routine. And routines are comfortable. But as our friend Einstein once said and I’m saying it in my words… You cannot do the same things each day and expect different results.

So if your dreams seem far away or you haven’t achieved them yet there’s still some patterns to be released or some new aspects to be embodied first. And the higher self will guide you towards situations and people so that you can spot the blind spots or make you embody new aspects. And so sometimes we have to trust and just follow that impulse. Even if our current self would crave something else.

That’s when truth growth starts. It starts from within.

10 life lessons my golden retriever taught me about life

Mon, 31 Mar 2025 08:24:14 GMT

How a dog's joy and wisdom can remind us what truly matters in life

10 life lessons our golden retriever taught me. Our fury friends can teach us a lot! Sometimes they master life more than we do. They master the art of relaxation, joy, community - everything we can benefit in today's society that shows increasing numbers of loneliness, depression and disconnection from each other.

Here's the 10 lessons to remind ourselves of what truly matters.

Authenticity

What it means to be authentic and fully yourself. If you are sad, be sad. If you are mad, be mad. If you are happy, be happy. Show it. Be it. Own it. Be authentic of how you truly feel and who you truly are. In today's world that's become used to wearing a mask and trying to fit in, authenticity is rare, yet a key to being happy self.

To love without expecting anything back

Honestly, how many people can truly say that? Can we share a bit more love today? A bit more kindness? A bit more compassion? Without expecting anything back from another person. Just from the joy of sharing love. Oh, how beautiful.

To be so joyful without making money

Not a single day passes that he‘s not joyful and yet making an impact in the world just by being himself. Too often we are so concerned about money or doing something big forgetting that it’s not necessarily about money or fame or achieving something big. The more we share our joy, the more we make an impact on the people around us. We don't need to earn our worthiness. We are worthy to be happy and even good enough without money.

Being in the present moment

Not worrying about tomorrow. That can be a tough one. Bills, children, jobs, duties... Living in the here and now can be a challenge. Not for a dog though. Can we make more time to be more present today?

Being himself

He’s not ashamed of a big belly, his genitals, his little bump in his face… it’d never come to his mind to get a beauty treatment. He’d actually refuse that. It’d never cross his mind to have a bigger nose or a smaller leg. He accepts who he is. How many beauty standards tell us the opposite? Can we just see ourselves through the eyes of a dog? Can we love and accept ourselves a little more today even with all our weaknesses?

A sense of community

He plays peacefully with others, and the joy of gathering in a family or dog community brings as much joy as being on his own. Sometimes mingling with others instead of distancing ourselves from each other can make all the difference. In today's world, where an increasing number feels disconnected, it can help to join a community.

Make the most out of each situation and circumstance

No matter if there is wind, snow, rain or sun, make the most out of it. Play with a stick even in the snow. In other words, make hard circumstances fun. Find something to play with even if it’s uncomfortable. Make an uncomfortable situation comfortable. Yes, life has its ups and downs but let's not forget it's up to us what we make out of it.

Take a break and chill when you feel like it

Not convincing yourself to strive harder but to relax instead. My dog takes a nap whenever he likes to. He doesn't feel guilty or bad. Too often we are convinced to work a little longer and a little harder. Can we just remind ourselves to take more (little) breaks without feeling guilty if we feel like resting?

Observe

The best thing you can sometimes do is to simply sit and observe. Observe yourself and others without judging or attacking or engaging. There’s a power behind observation. Can we simply observe things as if we were on Earth for the first day? We’d see things in a completely new way.

Be persistent

Especially with food or if he wants something. He's persistent. So if you want something, stick with it. Be persistent. Never give up. There is always this little hope even if no food is left on the plate, the small crumbs count too.

Our fury friends are more than just dogs. They are friends, healers, comforters, teachers and remind us to enjoy life a bit more!

Spiritual escapism - what I learned while living in Bali

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 13:38:10 GMT

How unresolved patterns repeat itself from past lifetimes

I remember I was sitting back home in a small town in Germany. My life crumbled a couple time ago. Yet, I put myself out there. I did what a lot of people do. Engage in personal development. Read books. Absorb courses and content. Ready to start over doing what I love. More freedom.

And I could see some first fruits of the work I put in for weeks, months, if not years. It didn’t show up in a way I wanted or expected it to be. It didn’t show up in money, or financial overflow, to be precise.

But it showed up in more joy, in tons of realisations, ideas, a new sense of self. A promising future. But I didn’t see it as such back then.

And that’s the first realisation I had looking back and only realising now.

Abundance is not all about money. Abundance is the wealth of ideas, realisations, vitality, health, opportunities and much more.

So as I didn’t see monetary fruits I went within and there was that certain thing that told me to go to Asia. And deep down I thought Asia could help me solve my problems.

Yet, What I didn’t realise. Most decisions are unconscious and based on certain patterns and beliefs we hold deep within. (I just remember I had certain doubts about going to Bali.. it was rainy season. Was it really the place? I asked myself.)

Looking back. The truth was this: I was kind of escaping from my reality in Europe. And I’m not ashamed to be vulnerable enough to admit it, I’m glad to finally realise it to break out of it. And I see a lot of people with similar issues that are on the “spiritual path”.

I thought Europe was full of corruption only to realise much later that nothing exists outside of you. Europe is not full of corruption unless you hold those things deep within your subconscious that makes you have those perceptions and experiences.

And so it happened, I came to Bali. And by all means. It’s a beautiful island. There’s a certain hype that Bali provides healing. And it certainly does. I had my fair moments, I had inspiring encounters that I’ll cherish but I also had massive learning lessons.

I had healing , I had disappointments, and I had massive realisations. But after 7 weeks of Bali I flew home with the exact issues than before.

And it taught me the biggest lesson. You cannot escape your reality. You cannot move to a place like India or Bali and expect them to change you. I mean they may do so.

They may shape you. I’m not denying that.

But the biggest learning lesson I had for myself was this: it’s never really about a place. It’s your internal belief system. If you’re escaping a place without making full peace over there, then those issues will hit you one day, even years or decades or lifetimes later in one way or another until you face them.

Here’s how it showed up in my life. I arrived in Bali and I could suddenly remember a previous life. And I honestly believe - at least that is my experience - when we feel attracted to a certain place we either had a previous life or there’s a certain energy we resonate with.

I remember I was this monk that was visiting Bali in a previous lifetime, I could see myself walking past a street, trying to find enlightenment or let’s put it less scary: finding answers about who I was.

I could see myself as the version of a monk running from one place to the next, praying in one temple after the other, and that pattern was repeating itself. Trying to find the answer or solve the problem on the outside.

And this pattern repeated unconsciously, just in a different setting in this lifetime: Me changing apartments all the time in Bali as I simply didn’t feel good. Me trying to go to different healing places and mentors and so on. And while I got very valuable and inspirational conversations and healing experiences I wouldn’t want to miss, I realised the biggest pattern that was limiting me and that was repeating itself unconsciously:

Looking for help, answers, inspiration, saviour on the outside.

Exactly what made me go to Bali. The unconscious pattern of travelling somewhere to find something somewhere else outside of me.

And I’m not saying to never get help or inspiration. There’s a subtle difference between getting guidance from someone and kind of relying or becoming dependent on external help. And this is to encourage you if you feel sad and disappointed in your current home. You don’t need to travel somewhere to feel better.

It’s a pattern I observed in other people in Bali and other places more often than I thought. The constant need for self optimisation or spiritual healing. And it made me realise. We are all not so different after all. Instead of just feeling good enough for a moment for who we are without trying to *be* whatever or even being or becoming someone else.

And That’s what i mean. If you don’t solve the pattern it’ll chase you even to the next lifetimes.

And without a doubt, a travel, a healing session all of that can massively support you but the most important lesson to always keep in mind:

you can only find the answer within. You can only solve the issue within. Not by escaping your old home or reality but rather by questioning the self that keeps you limited or made you create and experience that reality in the first place. And it can mean to face deep pain and uncomfortable emotions and break your own limitations.

Let’s remember. We create everything. We even create religions and politicians as long as we consider ourselves unworthy and powerless. I honestly believe that those systems serve a purpose and won’t disappear until we change ourselves and finally realise we are powerful creators.

And a lot of those unconscious programs that run in the background can come from previous religious life’s, amongst others, no generalisations here. Religions and other systems want to make us believe that the answer is to be found in a book, in a place , in the sky. Wherever.

All that keeps you stuck. Powerless.

And I recall the most touching moment I remember from this previous lifetime as a monk.

The monk finally came to a temple and he perceived the voice of a high priest deep within his heart, who is not linked to any religion, it’s a person that’s attained a high level of conciousness in a lifetime and can provide guidance.

And he told the monk telepathically that the answer is not to be found in a temple but deep within. The monk finally found what he was looking for.

The priest asked the monk to go back home and share his truth with others. But the monk didn’t. Out of the fear of judgment what other monks and people think of him. He died sadly for not speaking his truth and pretending not knowing.

And now when I recalled the eexperience, I kind of connected with this high priest who asked the monk and me at the same time as we are one and the same, simply different expressions:

Are you telling the truth this time in this lifetime? Or repeating the same ‘pattern’ as the previous version of you as a monk?

I was facing the same issue again in this lifetime. Not speaking my truth. And I made a pact this time.

I’m not escaping. I’m embracing old shattered unworthy aspects and even love those for they served a purpose and finally learn to live and share my truth.

Too often we are so scared of sharing our truth. It’s hurtful and hard to be vulnerable especially if it contradicts with what so many other people and books say.

But let’s not forget we don’t break patterns by keeping up the fear of speaking up. We break the pattern by just doing so. By speaking up. By allowing ourselves to be and speak our truth and allow others to speak their truth.

And so I flew back after spending in Bali for 7 weeks with the biggest realisation. To no longer escape my current reality. But to face it.

To not find the solution in a spiritual place or a place that’s considered spiritual but rather within myself. Because let’s be honest. The whole world is energy. I personally believe or at least that’s my current experience, our soul chose a certain body, nationality, parents to have certain experiences and to learn or release certain patterns.

And I fly back to Europe with a certain level of excitement. To finally embrace old aspects of myself that were trapped and even fragmented. And for the first time, I can appreciate my home place for what it is. A place my soul chose for this lifetime to have certain experiences and learning lessons. To make peace with the old versions of myself first before choosing which place calls me next. Not from a place of escaping from home but truly feeling good with who I am and releasing who I’m not.

And my biggest realisation:

Money and unworthiness go hand in hand. It’s not necessarily about affirmations, following a certain strategy, I did all of that and it didn’t help me.

It’s deep codes and beliefs in the subconscious mind that are blocking the flow of abundance just like an old malicious file on your computer or phone does despite you trying everything to restore the battery. It won’t unless you kick out that old app or file. And so it’s the same. It’s not about getting new apps aka new homes and friends and places, it’s about kicking out what no longer serves first before you can think of getting new apps aka new homes, friends or *insert whatever*.

And yet I’m glad that Bali helped me see my fragmented self’s. And to finally be more of who I truly am. And that’s all that’s required. Life doesn’t ask you to become someone special. But just release everything that holds you back from being yourself.

Bali didn’t change me, but the experiences helped me see things and recognise patterns within me that I didn’t see before. And that’s the beauty of growth ♥️

Let’s remember the most important thing no matter what experiences we may or may not have gone through and it’s this: That nothing was a mistake. Nothing was a coincidence. Nothing was lost. Nothing was wrong. It was all an experience to help you grow further. To evolve into greater and greater versions of who you truly are. Embrace new aspects. And be more of who you truly are.

And I would like to share a spiritual joke by one of my hosts here in Bali with a great sense of humour

It’s Air Ubud and while you can encounter some animals there, it has a certain ‘vibe’

Let’s not be so spiritual … let’s be more real!

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P.S. My words are more than words. They carry energies that can help you spot patterns and release codes. So if you feel some weird emotions or questioning certain things. It’s a good sign

If you’re curious about downloads, I’ll soon teach you more about how to co create with your higher self’s so that you can receive downloads and ideas so that you can start embodying the full version of who you are.

It’s more than visualising a bright future in your mind. It’s the embodiment of your inner gifts that want to be expressed and that can only be expressed through you, no one else. That’s your unique blueprint. That’s where the magic and often the fear starts.

Stay tuned ✨

Never feeling healed enough to take the next step? Lacking results?

Wed, 15 Jan 2025 10:51:20 GMT

How pushing yourself too hard can hinder you from your manifestations

There was a time I pushed myself too far. And I constantly felt miserable for not being as far yet.

And the worst thing? I didn’t even realise it.

I kept working. I kept pushing until I felt drained one day.

I jumped from one activation, course and healing session to the next, trying to manifest or create the life I truly desired. But something felt challenging all the time. I remembered when a couple of times my intuition told me to stop taking so many courses and trying so hard to manifest and instead, take time to trust my own inner guidance and apply what I learned in those courses, and yet, I was ignoring those signs or at least I didn’t trust my own intuition. I was longing for more knowledge and without a doubt, taking courses can be great! Courses can help you find inspiration.

However, in my case, the need to book another course and another course often reflected my unconscious pattern of not feeling healed enough. Not feeling good enough. Not feeling capable enough of trusting myself. I had so much knowledge, and yet I still couldn’t manifest.

And by participating in one healing course after the next, in one activation after the next, I did have new downloads, new ideas and new visions, things that a lot of people dream of, but I was lacking one thing: embodiment and trust in myself.

I couldn’t handle making those ideas a reality as I was still operating from my old limiting self of “not feeling capable enough.” And that was one reason why I couldn’t turn my visions into reality.

And the lesson was this: You have to embody the version that can follow your ideas and dreams otherwise you cannot “manifest.” Because every time you are nudged to take action, there is this “I cannot do it now, maybe tomorrow” excuse. Because I hadn’t learned to embody the new version of me.

There came a point I pushed myself too far. I had various ideas and visions, but I couldn’t get anything manifested into the physical world. And while there were several reasons for it that I later discovered, I want to highlight one reason I wouldn’t do anymore: putting myself under so much pressure and jump from one healing session to the next to get there as quickly as possible.

Instead, I took a different approach and I started to allow myself to grow at my own pace.

Instead, I learned to listen to my own body. I learned of methods how to deal with my own fears rather than becoming dependent on a healer or coach all the time asking them what the next step for me was. Don’t get me wrong. It’s great to get help and have healing sessions. But in my case, I’ve seen you can take it to a level where it no longer serves you at the highest. It almost becomes like an addiction. Just like some people are addicted to smoking, others are addicted to constantly booking another healing session.

Often not because you need it, it’s rather acting on the subconscious pattern of not feeling healed or good enough.

But it’s not true. You can always take the next step. And that’s exactly it.

You don’t have to have everything healed or figured out. Knowing the next step is more than enough. Also, you cannot just heal. You need time to embody and integrate, too. So instead of trying to have ALL my fears and limitations healed by others, I learned methods on how to deal with my own fears when they arise. And that’s what finally brought me results.

I put away the pressure of getting somewhere quickly or trying to have it all figured out. I no longer asked others what they thought would be the right step for me. Instead, I started to trust myself. I finally started to trust that my own soul has its own rhythm. I learned to flow with the rhythm of life. And to be honest, it’s sometimes easier said than done. But it’s also the most rewarding. Because you gain a deeper trust in yourself. You get to learn to trust your intuition. You get to trust yourself to do it the way that feels most aligned to you. You get to know yourself better. You know when to rest and when to take action. And ironically, that’s when you can progress the most. What sounds like a contradiction is not.

At the beginning, I was trying to get activated. I rushed from one course to the next hoping to manifest my dream life as quickly as possible and I could get some results but other times it backfired. I felt worn out.

And I am glad I did. Because it gave me that big learning lesson to stop rushing. Stop putting pressure on myself. Stop trying to “get” somewhere as fast as possible.

Finding my own rhythm was what finally helped me solve this problem. When I stopped rushing, I allowed myself to take little actions each day.

And what seemed like tiny little steps added up after a while. And that’s another thing I learned about manifestation.

It’s not that one healing session or course that will solve your life. It’s not that one big action that will finally make you have it all – of course there are miracles. But often, it’s the little steps and consistent action that bring you the results you want. In other words, it's not just about learning, it's applying what you learn.

Because you learn with each action that you take. You embody more of who you truly are and you learn to spot and release what no longer serves. That makes you powerful. Because suddenly you become aware of your own internal beliefs, excuses, emotions and fears that hold you back. You learn to navigate them better.

That’s why I can highly recommend finding your own rhythm. Don’t stress if someone tells you they manifested their dream life in “6 months” and you’re still not there after 2 years and you start feeling miserable. Each soul has its own rhythm. And souls are not in a rush anyway.

When you slow down and put off the pressure, you allow yourself to move at your own pace.

That feels so peaceful. There is so much flow coming in just going at your own pace.

And that’s when you suddenly come so far as you give up on the pressure.

It reminds me a bit of driving a car. When you rush through on the fast lane, you might be there a bit earlier, but it can feel so stressful and exhausting; you may barely have the time to enjoy the car ride. You are constantly trying to pass the other cars and getting there fast. You may even need a break when you get to your destination.

When you move in a slower and yet steady pace that feels most aligned to you, you can enjoy the process. You feel relaxed. And sometimes you realise that being in the fast lane doesn't necessarily bring you faster to your destination, as you may come across obstacles, too.

If you constantly feel unhealed or constantly think you need another course and another activation, and you feel this constant pressure inside you, stop and pause for a moment. Ask yourself: is it really what I need? Or do I act on subconscious patterns?

For all those that are interested in working with me further.

In my latest Masterclass “Overcome your fears”, I teach you all about how I learned to spot excuses, fears and limiting beliefs – exactly what holds you back from taking consistent action each day. I show you how you can release that in your pace in order to take consistent action.

With the right methods, you can move at your own pace and learn to trust your own inner guidance to take the next step. You realise you are far better off than you think! It's often just our own inner critic that makes us believe we are not far enough.

In the end, manifestation is not always about getting results fast. It’s about embodying more of who you truly are and do more of what you truly love. That will bring you lasting success.

Give yourself the time you need.

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Why following your intuition can help you choose a travel destination

Sat, 26 Oct 2024 09:26:57 GMT

Learning lessons from travelling to Sri Lanka

I remember back in 2020 I travelled to Sri Lanka.

My intuition told me to travel there. Yet, back then I had no idea it was my intuition. It was just a strong attraction or pull. Like sometimes some countries call us. We feel a strong pull without really describing what exactly it is. It was during the pandemic that people advised me not to go there. On top of that, Sri Lanka experienced some political upheaval. But my intuition, something from within, pulled me there. So I trusted myself, back then I wouldn’t often trust myself, but it was one of those moments I didn’t care what other people told me.

When I arrived in Sri Lanka, I felt like home. Not that I would move there, but something was like home. Like arriving somewhere familiar. Where you could relax straight away. Where your nervous system calms down. Where you are in awe.

On my way from the airport to the destination was a 2-hour drive. I was in awe by the nature – so many palms, bananas – driving along the ocean left me speechless. I could quickly relax. I could reflect on life. I felt so good. Sri Lanka has a great energy – at least I noticed that if a place calls you then because something matches within you.

In Sri Lanka, I didn‘t observe or experience any political upheaval as described in the news – which made me realise that the news can dramatize and exaggerate and even put things that are simply not accurate – and the scarier thing is how many people buy into the news without knowing the truth. I experienced so much friendliness and kindness. The Sri Lankan I met were one of the kindest people I’ve ever met. And I heard from others they found Sri Lankis aggressive – and that was my second realisation. You cannot generalise! And surely not generalise for a whole nation. Let’s be honest, there are rude individuals in every country and yet there are as many nice people in every single country. IT made me realise it depends how you encounter people too. It depends on your own energy and how you treat other people.

Then one evening, I took a TukTuk which is like a motorbike and bicycle in one – somehow their equivalent to a car, cars are less frequent, at least at that time. I met a TukTuk driver who wanted to charge me more than the other drivers. And I started to bargain and he insisted on the price and I couldn’t see anyone else and it was getting dark. I got a little furious. Then when I got back to my room, I thought like Sri Lanka is officially considered a 3rd world country. People live in little houses, houses that wouldn’t even be accepted in many European countries. They see tourists be in hotels paying more for a night than there weekly or monthly wage. And I really started questioning my own behaviour. Do I really need to bargain? Do I want to be that person who bargains for 50 cents?

It made me question my own behaviour. And I observed that many others were like me. I decided to be generous. And that’s what people in Sri Lanka taught me. Being helpful. Being kind. Smile. The Sri Lankans I met smiled a lot because I smiled at them! And that’s another thing. When you smile, the world smiles back! Your energy, attitude and respect towards people even of different cultural background matter. It’s what people reflect back to you.

I travelled to another area later. And one night it happened. There was a power cut shortage ordered by the government. People didn’t have any power for the whole night basically from 7pm – no WIFI, no lights in the rooms– and that was the night one of the worst thunderstorms hit Sri Lanka – I was in my dark hotel room by the sea being completely scared.

I could feel the lightning hit the ocean – or that’s at least what it felt like – as if the ocean was shaking - a feeling I’ve never felt before. It didn’t stop. It made me realise what a precious life we live. Many people desperately want to manifest money and abundance, and I totally get it, I was no different. But in those moments you realise how abundant we are – having light, WIFI, a high standard of living… So, that made me realise that abundance or the lack of it only exists in our head/mind!

And the beliefs we hold in our mind make us experience the lack.

Something else almost made me tear up. As the lights went off and it was getting dark, there were many tourists who didn’t know about that event and felt lost without WIFI and had no clue how to get home. It was many locals who were there in their poor wood cottages with a candle guiding tourists to their home places, telling the way in such a kind and helpful way. Ironically, a lot of hotels (not mine, as I was staying locally) had power aggregates, they were the only ones who had lights and WIFI. And I had so much respect for those Sri Lankan people guiding people home. Instead of venting about tourists having light, they showed so much compassion.

It taught me a lot about humanity. You can have all the money in the world, but at the end of your life you leave without. It’s not how much you have, it’s who you are and how you treat people.

I once read a quote “People will forget what you said, but they’ll never forget how you made them feel” And that’s so true for me. I will never forget my stay in Sri Lanka.

And while I believe each travel experience is unique, I wouldn’t generalise for a whole nation, my experience was superb.

I had another TukTuk driver who told me his dream would be Europe, especially Germany. He told me we would have lots of money. And I told him. “No you live in a dream place here” I think it sparked confusion between both of us wanting to swap countries in that moment. When I came back to Europe, I was so surprised at how fast-paced everything was, how stressed everyone looked. Sri Lankan people had so much less and actually more to worry about than us, and didn’t nearly look and feel so stressed than many people in the streets of many European cities do. So always remember, stress, lack and suffering happen in the mind.

In fact, it doesn’t matter where you are. Some people think they first need to travel somewhere to find themselves, and while some countries may have a special energy, you can be happy and joyful everywhere. Joy is an inside state of being. It cannot be achieved through material goods. This doesn’t mean we aren’t allowed to have material goods, of course we do, yet it’s a reminder to appreciate the things we have and what’s truly important, especially in times of great misunderstandings and political insecurities. To come together as one nation. To have compassion for others. To show others love and offer some help if we can help.

After I returned back, I knew why I was guided to go to Sri Lanka. I learned so many learning lessons I couldn’t have learned in any book. And it made me aware it’s not what you read in the news or in books, it’s the experience that counts.

And it made me realise another thing. How important it is to follow our heart when we travel. Often, we may also travel to a place because it’s “the place to be” or a blogger talks about that or because of the price. I understand that too, however, sometimes it’s not about those shallow reasons, it’s rather where your heart leads you to. I’m so glad I listened to my heart and travelled to that country. It made me feel so rich on the inside, I felt like a better version of myself. So sometimes the countries you feel a magnetic pull towards have a gift for you. And even if it’s no material gift and simply a good time, nice encounters with people or major life realisations. Who knows what countries have to offer. Sometimes following our intuition can lead us to new opportunities.

So it’s so much more valuable than all those visualisations and dreams we hold in the mind. Sometimes it’s really important to become “desireless” and allow the ideas and inspiration from your intuition to flow. Just when that sudden idea popped up “Sri Lanka” when I pondered where I could travel. To my mind, it didn’t make that much sense, but I realised my heart knew why.

What does this have to do with manifestation you may say? A lot if you ask me.

It reminds us to spend our moments consciously. To follow our intuition. To be kind. To be open-minded. To encounter as beings as part of you. The more you move into a state of being like that, the more miracles and opportunities will unfold. I could have gone to XY because someone else found it nice but I wouldn't have made the same experiences.

3 tips for depression or heavy mood swings

Fri, 18 Oct 2024 09:16:10 GMT

Feeling depressed, moody or suffering from burn-out?

Here are three tips if you are dealing with depression, low moments, or a phase in your life where things don’t feel well.

1) Remind yourself that you’re not living forever. One day you’ll die. Make the most out of life! What are you waiting for? You can sit here depressed or do something fun in your life. You may say it's not possible, but look at children. Most children don't often think as much as we do as adults! They just do it! They play in the sand, they jump in puddles - they experience a certain form of aliveness by being in the present moment! They don't care what others think or if it's the "right" or "wrong" thing to do. They just do it for the fun of it! Nothing is forever, not even depression.

2) It’s a choice. How you feel and the way you think are choices. Yes, it’s hard to understand. Trust me, many people, including myself, have gone through phases and challenges in their lives that felt tough both emotionally and mentally – so you’re not alone. The only person that can get you out of it is yourself! It depends on what you make out of it. Be overwhelmed by it, or look closer. What has caused it?

3) Even a so called “negative” experience or “illness” can help you find who you truly are. Remember what brings you joy. It can help you to connect yourself deeper and become aware of your internal world. Most people are busy with the "external world", but true healing starts within. The more we master our internal world, the more our external world starts to shift.

Inner balance is key. The more we move into inner balance, the more our whole system starts to calm down. When we bring ourselves into an inner state of balance and harmony, we can heal any mental disorder or temporary challenge.

Are there any right or wrong manifestation techniques?

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 09:10:13 GMT

Stressing about finding the "right" technique?

Some people are currently curious which method or technique is the best.

I’ve come to realise over the past years that there is no right or wrong technique, there is only the technique that serves you best at this moment in time. That can be different for each one of us. It depends on your level of consciousness, too.

Whatever technique feels good for you is the right one for you. I had a time in my life, I was doing a lot of affirmations and it was helping to calm my mind and establish a positive mindset. Later, when I raised my consciousness, I found that affirmations do have certain limitations and it requires more than affirmations to create a life in true abundance. Yet, do I believe that affirmations are wrong? No, they are not. They helped me get to the next step.

Sometimes one technique helps you have certain realizations or release certain limitations before you can move to the next phase of your life.

Why I am mentioning this is to encourage you not to worry too much about the right or wrong technique. There is no right or wrong. The more we think in terms of right or wrong or whether it will work for us or not, the more we are in the energy of doubt. That’s the least we need when manifesting our desires.

Sometimes a certain technique may serve you for a while in order to have some more realisations. From my current observation, there are people with many different levels of consciousness and as a result, there are different methods and techniques to suit different needs and preferences.

I also had a time I was worried about finding the right technique and exactly that search kept me from living the life I truly wanted. Why? Because I didn’t trust myself enough. Therefore, my advice is to always trust your inner voice what feels good for you . What feels good for you, is the right technique for you, but not necessarily the right technique for someone else.

And yet, it’s fine to question certain beliefs and ways of doing things. Sometimes we outgrow certain methods and techniques and even teachers and mentors, and that is fine.

A lot of people are currently reactivating new soul gifts, talents or learning to trust their intuition. It’s a very exciting time and process. Listening to the feeling or inner voice was the most important thing on my journey. It guides you towards the next step that is required for you. The process itself can look different to each single one of us. There is always more than one way to get where we want to be. I

If you are unsure, you can always try out different techniques and see what works best for you.

So, relax. You're doing fine.

Why taking time ‘alone’ is not a bad thing

Thu, 08 Aug 2024 09:25:39 GMT

How 'alone time' can help you recharge your batteries

Sometimes, in a world that is full of noise, stimuli and advertisement, taking time alone can be a wonderful opportunity to take a break from everyday life.

To take time to slow down. Relax. Recharge.

It’s also a great opportunity to connect with yourself.

To spend some time to re-evaluate what’s truly important and what no longer aligns in your life.

Taking time alone is not selfish or weird; it’s an act of self-love and self-respect.

Suddenly you realize how all the stress disappears once you calm your mind.

Taking time alone doesn’t necessarily mean you have to travel far, unless you feel guided to. Taking time alone can be a couple of minutes alone in your home, in nature, or somewhere that makes you feel good.

Some people may argue that they don’t have time or they have other duties or children, yet it’s our job to fill our cups first.

How else can we serve others if our cups are empty? It’s not necessarily about whether we have time, but rather what and who do we make time for?

Taking time alone doesn’t mean you feel lonely.

You simply enjoy your own company. The better you know yourself, the better you can interact with the world around you.

From my observation, especially “introverts” often feel the desire to spend some time alone. Some people are generally very sensitive to loud noise or other people’s emotions and like to spend some time alone.

Here are some inspirations on how to spend time alone.

1) Read a book

2) Take a bath

3) Go to nature or the wood

4) Take a quiet seat in your home and simply close your eyes and focus on your breathing

5) Drive to a lake and/or go for a walk

6) Journal

7) Explore a new part of a town by walking and observe the environment

In a busy and noisy world, it’s extremely important to spend time for ourselves and recharge. The more we recharge ourselves and become aware of our internal world, the less likely we are to fall into stress, burnout or depression.

The importance of trying

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 09:55:25 GMT

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One thing I came to realise was the importance of trying. Especially towards our dreams and heart's desires.

I noticed in my life that there is often an underlying fear of failing. It is not so obvious at first.

But behind distractions, excuses and stories are often fears.

And in our society a lot is based on success. But success is relative. There are people that define success by financial gain and there are people that define success by the amount of impact they make in the world.

And others don’t even try because they are so scared of failing. Yet, failing is nothing bad. We simply have not learned how to handle failures or we see it as “weak” or “unsuccessful”.

Yet, failures can be wonderful teachers. Failures can teach us a lot of lessons. They can teach us about our own limitations.

Looking back so far, I learned the most out of my failures. And sometimes I am so grateful that things didn’t work out. Because they were not meant for me and something much better came along.

And other times, I simply learned my lesson. And I was even grateful the mistake or failure happened or I couldn’t have understood it any better way. Even if those moments were uncomfortable, they turned out to be a gift much later.

So if you have nudge or play with the thought of trying something new - go for it!

Don’t let fear of failure hold you back.

You can never know how things turn out if you don’t try them.

I was scared of trying a lot of times. Until I just gave it a go. It takes courage and some people don’t understand you or think you are out of your mind. Until I realised that’s the best thing to do… Being out of your mind. Literally lol The more you are in your mind, the more overthinking can occur. The less you are in your mind, the more you simply give it a try.

And after a while, you take things and opinions of others less seriously.

Keep trying!

The importance of finding out what you want and taking action

Wed, 15 May 2024 06:39:17 GMT

Why taking action is necessary to get your manifestations going

When I started out my transformational journey, I just knew what I did not want. I did not want to be stuck in a dead end 9-5 job, I did not want to be in that same routine, I did not want to live in that city anymore. But knowing what I want and what my desires were - that was the big question!

I really had to confront myself with that.

But looking back I found, knowing what you do not want can be a first step. Because looking at each single point what you do not want can help you turn it around. I just did not see it back then. Not wanting a 9-5 job means I want to work in a very flexible and convenient way which most likely is only possible when you are self-employed or doing something that aligns with that. Not wanting to live in that city means I most likely want to move.

And that is where it becomes tricky.

Whenever there is change arising, there is most likely also fear and doubt arising. We may say “well that job is not that bad” or “what if it does not work out”. And I remember when I waited for too long. Not knowing what I was waiting for. Maybe I was hoping that a miracle would unfold. But that was quite naive.

I started to do a lot of meditation back then and it definitely helped me to calm my mind but it did not change my everyday life.

So I learned that becoming aware what you do not want and then figure out what you do want as a result, as well as quieting the mind through meditation are all wonderful tools. But I was lacking the most important piece. And that piece was the key why things were not changing in my life.

I was not taking action. And I only learned this later after months of desperation and sadness. Of course I also had positive moments but also a lot of frustration and despair. And I want to pass it on to you in case you are at a similar point in your life.

We are the Creator of our own life. What we are experiencing in our current reality is a reflection of our thoughts, emotions and beliefs we have deep inside. And from those thoughts, emotions and actions we say and act a certain way.

So if we want to change something in our current reality that does no longer align or does not fulfil us, we need to change the way we think, feel, belief, speak and act about it. Venting is fine, it is part of life, but if we only vent and complain and we do it for too long, nothing will happen. It will become even worse and even more difficult to get out of it.

So, the trick I found is to take action. Even if it is just a little step. Even if you just write an idea in your journal, or even if you read and article on how to tackle doubts. Only when we take action even the smallest steps by just reading or listening to something can help.

But most often that is where the fear, doubt, resistance or procrastination will kick in. Where most people stop. Where they give up on dreams and prefer their comfort zone.

If I had preferred my comfort zone, I would still be stuck in an unfulfilled 9-5 everyday life.

So I got teachers and mentors who went before me, I learned from then and then found my own way and I made it my mission to help others now.

Action is really a secret recipe here. It goes beyond visualisation and meditation. Although that can be helpful too at the beginning. When we just visualise without taking action in a new direction, most likely the abundant life is not going to come.

Perfectionism can hold you back from your dream life

Fri, 03 May 2024 10:46:13 GMT

Take the first steps no matter how "imperfect" it feels

If I learned one thing, it is this: You gotta let go of perfectionism.

I was a perfectionist. So much that I would spend days, weeks and months to plan before I start. And guess what? That kept me away from my dream life and even my manifestations.

I remember one night when I fell back into the trap of perfectionism and I just tried to post something on social media. It was not perfect but I just gave it a try. Something inside of me wanted to express herself. And I’m not joking. That night I had so many new insights and ideas. I was even drawn to an online course called "marketing for your soul business" and I was blown away. That was the moment I learned so much. And yes my post was not “ideal” but I kept it there. I allowed myself the “imperfection” and instead of seeing the imperfection, I see the improvement and evolution of myself. And that baffled me.

It was the first time I saw how much I have grown rather than condemning myself how shit that old posts were. And who knows. My soul clients might face exactly that situation too and they are looking for the solutions that I was looking for as well. And so we constantly help and support each other in our growth and journey. Look, I was drawn to that marketing course, it was exactly what my soul guided me to and it was beyond what I thought I would learn and need. I had taken marketing courses before but none came close to this one. It blew my mind. And it really brought me further. The next day I could finally get going. With many new insights, learning lessons, ideas and perspectives.

So I encourage you to just start, start imperfectly. I realised from my life, if we don’t start and wait for the perfect moment or in my case, the until I figured out the perfect strategy, we may never get there. So I saw it as a process. A process of growth. And growth doesn’t happen overnight. I mean it can. But overall it’s a process. Success consists of many little steps. Steps that bring us new insights and we can adjust and take a next step. But without taking some steps, we may not see what’s in front of us. And I realised we do not need to see all the stairs and the whole way that's in front of us, we just need to see and take the next step. And trust. Trust that we are guided.

Behind perfectionism is often fear. And fear stems from the mind. So we gotta learn to deal with it. Look at it. It’s not enough to say “well it’s just because im a perfectionist. I’m just the way I am” well if you’re happy the way you are then that’s fine indeed. But if you’re looking for change and transformation, it’s a sentence to get rid of. And rather turn it into “I can see that I have this pattern of perfectionism. What’s behind it, why do I have it? How can I release it?” That's how I approached perfectionism. And nowadays I am proud that I am far better in allowing myself to be imperfectly perfect. To see it as a creation process where I can learn and grow.

There’s nothing fixed. We can change everything as soon as we decide to do so and yet it takes courage. But I know you’re courageous or you wouldn’t have been drawn to this blog article. There’s no coincidence in this universe.

So in case you're dealing with perfectionism, I encourage you to ask yourself the same question. Because otherwise you can hold yourself back from your own manifestation or dream life and always wondering why it doesnt work. And that might be one of the reasons.

Why resisting change can make it tougher

Thu, 02 May 2024 13:35:25 GMT

Listening to your intuition will improve your daily life

I remember those times when I just knew change was on the horizon. Those times when you just know it is time to let go of something old.

And I had those times several times… The more I got into spiritual healing and manifestation, the more I knew I had to let go of things.

And I noticed I had a couple of habits or patterns that were no longer serving me. And I could also feel I should change my eating preferences. And I adjusted it. That worked for a while… until I fell back into my pattern again and on top of that, I had to deal with a lot of self-sabotage. Basically, this kept me from moving forward, from leading my business and best life. It kept me stuck in the same old reality and full of self-doubt.

It was one Sunday morning I was having lunch and I had my intuition tell me what to eat today, it was a feeling. But I was out eating with other people who bought some food and I could already feel this is not the food I should eat.

But it turns out I was actually too scared of being judged for becoming weird and I did not listen to my intuition.

Safe to say that Sunday I woke up with a bit of a headache already and so when your body does not feel entirely good, eating something the body tells you not to eat… well you may guess it… that can go downwards…

And so I had that food I did not want to decline and ended up being so sick this whole Sunday, I ended up in bed not knowing how to move or do anything, even stomach pain.

I then heard I am going through upgrades. And if you are familiar with spirituality, you may know what that means. Whenever we are having upgrades, higher vibrational energies coming in, or new gifts or DNA are activated, it means we have to make room for something new. We have to give up old patterns and aspects of ourselves that no longer align.

And I exactly knew what it was, but did not listen to my intuition.

And I noticed that this is exactly what can happen if you do not listen to the intuition. The challenges seem extra tough!

I really had to sit with various emotions and figuring out what co-created that experience and I suddenly had major insights! And in that moment, I remembered I felt drawn to doing inner work before and giving up old patterns which I usually do a lot, but neglected those past 2 weeks. In other words, I just fell back to old patterns that I had outgrown or I could not keep if I wanted to move into the next stage of my life. Change is tough isn’t it.

But after that experience I learned this. Always trust your intuition. Whenever we are in the healing process and vibrating at a higher frequency and then do not listen to intuition, everything manifests more quickly. And if we hold onto old patterns, the consequences of those actions may hit us hard, at least that’s what happened to me on that Sunday and a couple of times before.

So that Sunday, I had to take a day off, did a bath and just relaxed in bed, I could not do anything, I was kind of forced to stay in bed and I did not eat anything for 20 hours as I had no appetite whatsoever which was not that common for me.

But I had to admit to myself that I ignored many little signs before and now I was forced to do it that day. So that is my advice to people. Always trust those little signs, because otherwise it may hit much harder. I experienced it various times where a challenge brings us to a point, we are kind of forced to act. And that is even more uncomfortable than following those little signs before.

I had so many insights on signs that I had ignored and patterns and actions that no longer aligned. Some of them I had not even realised them before e.g. the fear of judgement or the fear of saying no.

So again, if we do not listen to soul signs, then at least most likely we learn them through challenges or tough experiences. And I guess if we do not learn them through those challenges, then life constantly seems like a battle. But it is a battle within ourselves. Something we attach to. Something we do not want to let go of. Something we do not want to see.

Our intuition just wants the best for us, to let go. To release. To move onto a higher path.

But it is us who takes the decision. Every decision we take has certain consequences.

So, it is time to choose wisely. To take action wisely. Do we act out of the mind or out of intuition?

In any way, take care of yourself, your body, your mind, your soul.

The importance of shadow work

Mon, 29 Apr 2024 07:28:05 GMT

How inner shadow work can help you transform into the best version of yourself

I remember when my life was not really working out at some point which means my job no longer satisfied me, the apartment / city I lived in did no longer excite me and I could feel something needed to change.

Change can always seem scary at first.

But when I learned that the real transformation happens from within, I started with the inner work.

And I noticed why so few people so far do the inner work.

Because it is dark. Uncomfortable. And sometimes even ugly. And I do not mean it in a bad or disrespectful way. Nor do I say I am a bad person or did bad things. Not at all. I may have hurt people in the past, I guess it was more unconsciously. We all do, I guess. No one is perfect and neither am I.

But there came a time when I went through shadow work and when I really became aware of character traits, habits and patterns I no longer wanted to embody. And that takes courage.

It means taking over responsibility for everything we are, do and say. There is no longer anyone to be blamed outside of us.

And that is the messy and the peaceful part at once. Messy because you realise your life the way you used to live no longer aligns. You are unsure about the future yet to figure out how it shall all work out. You just realise so many things that no longer align. Even the place you used to work or live may no longer excite you and hobbies may change. And I noticed there can sometimes be a feeling of nostalgia for the “old days” thinking it was not that bad despite complaining pretty much back then.

And it made me realise that 1)nothing is permanent, all is ever changing 2)we see things through rose tinted glasses. We see things as better than they were back then. Which made me realise to not complain too much or not take things too seriously. There was a time I took my job far too seriously. I was not really satisfied, I would engage in it far too much, only to realise later that it did not even bring me fulfilment.

The peaceful part is that we finally become aware. Once we become aware we can start changing it.

The peaceful part also includes a certain excitement and longing for inner peace and happiness and a knowingness that we are coming closer to what really fulfils us.

And once we release a lot of stuff during shadow work and fill ourselves with love and peace, especially the next days I find can feel so freeing. And that is when we notice something may have shifted and it was worth it.

The most obvious is when you scroll through an old image. Not that I would do that often, as it brings me back to my old self I no longer desire to be. But as a memory it can be nice to go through. And one thing became obvious to me. I suddenly saw an older version of me that was no longer the one I was today.

There was this insecure version, this quiet one, the people pleaser, the Mrs. Nice saying yes to everything at the detriment of her own joy and peace.

And there comes a time we are really amazed about what inner work can do for you. How much we can transform. And how self-transformation is the only thing that is important.

Because interests and hobbies may change, we may no longer desire the same things we used to, but inner work can always be seen and felt.

When we feel differently, when we feel more at peace and know much better what we truly enjoy. That is when it becomes much more pleasurable.

And I personally believe inner work never truly stops. There is no beginning and no end to love and wisdom. We can always grow into higher and higher versions of ourselves, challenge ourselves, grow further and evolve. Evolution is necessary and Planet Earth is now at the point of one of the biggest evolutions in history.

So now it is time to shed all layers, ideas, concepts and limiting beliefs we had about us, but also about each other and the world. There is no separation between us other than in our minds.

So many walls were built in our hearts and in our outside reality. So many wars and fights which stem from the concept that we are separate and that there is something like hierarchy, where there is better ones and worse ones. Only when you find out the truth that there is no hierarchy in the whole universe and it’s all one, it really starts to baffle you.

And step by step, you can put the pieces of puzzle together and finally things start to make more sense, but only when you see them through the heart. For the mind it will always be a mystery. A catastrophe and sometimes and apocalypse. But the soul understands the massive growth that can be behind it.

And one thing I realised is the most important of all. Choose love, joy and kindness. It’s all that counts. You leave this planet without a car, a designer bag or a bank account. You leave this earth with plenty of experiences, blessings and/or learning lessons.

So always follow your heart.

Following yourself rather than another trend or person is the ultimate freedom

Fri, 26 Apr 2024 07:52:09 GMT

How following yourself can guide you towards your best life

I remember a few years ago, I got a bit tired of my old life. Running after jobs, money, houses, the perfect trends, facial creams and being influenced by another one to buy the latest stuff. I’m not saying it is good or bad. But it was just not what I longed for anymore. It’s more like when you grow up and you realise that trousers are a bit too short and you have outgrown them or you don’t like the style you once loved and now you wish to experience another pair of jeans.

And with this desire or tiredness ,I realised I shifted my perspective and consciousness. In truth we are all souls with unique gifts, talents and characteristics and what I observed in my life, social media can easily program us to follow others rather than ourselves. To wear this certain thing, to try this cream, to eat this burger. And a lot of us follow. It does have its charms and beauty, I was so drawn to it too until I realised it was exactly what kept me away from living my best life. Instead of rediscovering my uniqueness and becoming the best version of myself, it reminded me more of the function I used for word documents ‘copy and paste’. It keeps you in a program. Like a cage of not being yourself but rather look and be like another one which is impossible and not what life was meant to be, if you ask me.

Everyone is unique. Unique in experiences, backgrounds and talents. What is good for you, what may work and serve you may not be good for me. It does not mean I am better or worse than you or you are better or worse than me - it’s just a different expression which makes us unique and really shining. So I really asked myself: if no one advertised that cream, trousers, whatever snack, what would I wear or buy? I recently looked up an app and of course this is what a lot of people highlighted before but sometimes it needs a while to sink in (some things we do need to hear a couple of times in order to wake up and become aware of it) I was so shocked what’s in some of the creams and facial products that are advertised. Having a direct influence on hormones. We think “well it is just a cream, it cannot be that bad, what's the point now” (at least in my ‘sleepy state’ I thought that too) but here is the thing: if we fully want to step into our full potential where we live our hearts desires, I realised we have to take responsibility for our own actions.

We cannot change someone else’s behaviour but we can change ours. And imagine just 50 people started and then 100, 500, 1000, 5000… we create a world full of natural beauty. Future generations will look in awe like we look in history books and say “wow what amazing work they did” we will turn around this world of destruction to a world of co creating our own reality and stepping into our full power full of content, joy, love, beauty. Just by being ourselves! How many times did you hide or not do something because you were scared of what others think of you, to not fit in, not feel good enough. These types of thinking was what I was tired of.

How do we start? How do we step into our full potential? By making a decision ! That’s the first step. Deciding we wish to step into our potential and take responsibility. Become more aware of how we act and what we do. Without judgment or self-condemnation. Even if one million people disagree or you may say "well what impact shall I have"? Well someone gotta start. I decided I wanted to be someone the best version of me and someone who makes a difference, in the sense to make this world a better place and to feel good. It’s never too late or early.

So I did a decision. And then just started with self-awareness. Regarding my shopping style, I became aware of how I would act if I needed no attention by others. I asked myself. Would I really buy it if there was just me? I realised for most advertised products, I would not give a damn, not because they are not good, but because they have no real meaning to me or do not really appeal to me. I chose a cream I really liked and which worked for my skin and it has a good impact for the world.

And I noticed that transformation starts with becoming conscious, making an effort, even if it’s not perfect, in truth nothing and no one is perfect , there will always be people who will not like it or have another opinion. We can always adjust and align if we think what we did does not serve us anymore.

We do not have to wait until someone from the government finally takes a decision or the CEO of a fashion company or anyone else outside of us. We are responsible for our own life, if we like to believe it or not.

When we try out and find what’s good for us, we feel so good - this feeling to be who you truly are, to be aligned with within yourself instead of constantly looking for happiness and advise outside of yourself is so empowering. Give it a try if you feel called to.

I later started to learn a lot about transformation and raising our energy vibes and put together content, information and tips in a 21 day program to help others that are open for it do the same and provide some guidance along the way.

The benefit of finding your own way in order to have success

Fri, 19 Apr 2024 06:27:34 GMT

Why I find it hard to follow someone else’s strategy

I tried out a lot of things when I started out and without a doubt, those were great strategies and formulas, they worked for those people, but most often, I realised they did not really work for me. The strategy that made another one successful, did not make me successful.

I felt frustrated, doubting myself, thinking I was too stupid for this. After a couple of failures, I took a course on following your intuition and when I learned to gradually follow my intuition, I learned this: There is no strategy or formula that works for everyone. We all have different life experiences, thinking patterns, subconscious patterns and emotions to name a few. While it may be very helpful to get inspiration from another about what they do and how they do it, we ultimately have to feel deep within if it is something that would work for us too.

We have all the answers within. We have the answers within what strategies work exclusively for us. We just do not know it, nor not believe we have those answers or do not know how to access it.

The best example I find is with diets. So many people struggle with this or fall back to the so called yo-yo effect. Because weight has also to do with what we believe about ourselves and the world. And what we believe about ourselves, is our job to work on, another one cannot solve that for us. They can only show us tools that worked for them. If it resonates with you, you may try those techniques out for you. Because for example, it can happen that a lot of times we eat emotionally. So there is most likely emotions to be released first. Or limiting beliefs. If I hold that believe that food makes me fat, I can participate in the best diet formula, the universe responses to our subconscious mind, not our desires and what we learn merely with our conscious mind.

It’s only when there is that determination “yea now I change and take action it”. And follow what feels good to me. Because life should always feel easy and fun. It’s a misconception that life is meant to be hard. There can be challenges for us to grow from, but there is nothing that is presented to us that we cannot solve at this stage.

Here is my tip:

So I encourage people to trust your feelings. If you think of something or want to try out a strategy, how does it make you feel? That’s an indicator of which direction to go. It may take practise because we are not used to listening to our feelings and if we do, there often comes the mind telling us why it’s not possible, not the right time, that we cannot make money with this or whatever reason.

So ultimately, it’s the trust back in ourselves, our worth, our capabilities that can make us achieve any goal or dream we like.

That was what finally worked for me.

Why it takes more than visualising

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 07:37:50 GMT

Why focusing on your energy vibration can help you create a life you truly love

I know we may have heard it all. The way to manifesting is to visualise your dream life, the circumstances we wish to create. I did a lot of that and often it did not manifest just by visualising. Is visualisation helpful? Definitely! But in my life I found it depended on the situation and stage of manifestation. Just visualising without taking further action won't get us to our dreams.

I remember when I visualised something and it did materialise. However, a year later when I did that again, it did not manifest at all this time.

Why did it not manifest?

To cut a long story short.

Firstly, visualising is just one component. If you want to make a cake, you might need a couple of ingredients not just one to create the cake you like. I visualised every outcome and step and ended up full of expectations rather than let it unfold. I did not take a lot of action on the impulses nor did I ask myself what behaviour I needed to get there.

Secondly, I was visualising based on my ego mind’s desires, not my soul desires.

Is there a difference? Oh hell, a big one.

The ego mind’s desires is based on rationality. It is based on our limited self, based on limited perspectives and ideas and more often than not a trauma-based reaction.

E.g. if I deep down do not feel good or worthy enough, I might have that wish to manifest 200.000€. Am I saying it is bad to visualise 200.000€? Not at all. But I want to have them to feel better. And that is the big difference. I want to have an external circumstance e.g. money to feel better and compensate a feeling within me which ironically is based on an illusion. On something I am not.

Ego desires are full of expectations and control. We expect a certain outcome and control the things around us in order to feel safe and happy. But the soul or universe does not work like that. Because when we currently do not feel happy internally, we are not in the energy vibration to attract that sum of money in the first place. That happened to me why I could not manifest.

Soul desires are intuitive. Following the soul or the heart means trusting blindly. It is beyond expectation and control. What does it mean? If I have a feeling that I should not do it, I trust my soul blindly to not do it. Even if my mind gives me 100 reasons why it makes sense to do it e.g. a fear that I will not be able to survive, a fear I will hurt someone, a fear it will not work out. Etc, etc. So that is meant by controlling an outcome.

The soul is on a very high vibration quite naturally. Financial freedom and the soul vibrate at the same frequency.

If I embody and trust my soul, I will be guided towards financial freedom naturally without visualising something that might not even be meant for me. That I might only visualise because I am sad or frustrated and as a result in a lower vibrational state where I wish to compensate an inner state of lack with an outer object.

When we are in a lower vibrational state, we have different desires that match that frequency wavelength. E.g. if I tune into a radio station that is famous for playing Hip Hop music, that is the music I will get. Visualising to listen to piano music is just wishful thinking, not manifesting.

In order to listen to piano music, I have to change the frequency and vibration, as such hit another radio button. I cannot stay in that exact reality that I am in right now.

So while it can help at the beginning to visualise where you want to be, to visualise a life of your dreams, it is important to let go how you get there and how it exactly should look like and turn out. I had a vision that I wanted to embody my soul, I wanted to be financially free and feel happy.

That was my goal.

And only much later when my manifestations did not come true, I understood why. And that was the moment my intuition asked me to stop visualising.

Because I was yet on my way to change the radio frequency. I was still stuck in my traumas thinking I need money to be happy. But that limiting belief kept me in a lower vibration and in a reality where I cannot experience financial freedom, just the same way I cannot listen to piano music if I do not switch to a radio frequency where piano music is played.

Because the thing is this, money does not make you happy. Money is the result of embodying your soul. It is a frequency. And energy. Your energy. The energy and time you put into activities. The consciousness. How conscious are you? What decisions do you make? Do you make decisions out of your mind or your heart?

To cut a story short, it was the moment I realised, it is important to fully trust the soul.

To release control, expectation and visualising how your end goal should exactly play out.

It is about anchoring in the here and now and ask your soul: Soul what do you want to do now?

It is not about habit, structure per se, but about your highest excitement in each moment. Releasing what no longer serves. Getting rid of habits that do not make you feel good, but rather stuck. Becoming aware of your emotional reactions. Turning into a higher and higher version of yourself. Shedding everything that does not make you happy. That brings you in a naturally high vibrational state. It is the vibration of your soul, not your ego self.

It is the divine aspect of you that acts based on who you really are, based on love, unity, abundance, not the lower ego aspect that is based on fear, hate, separation, lack and hierarchy thinking.

And once you shed light on what no longer serves… and you go deep within and ask yourself, what are my true dreams? That is when the true answers can come. But they cannot come when we are in a state of emotional reaction, feeling completely sad, frustrated and angry. They come from a place of love. When we become still. When we calm the mind. When we release the expectation and control.

It’s the secret to creating a life you dream about. A life of financial abundance, of love and joy. Where all other life categories sort itself out. I stopped visualising how exactly something should turn out. I visualise how I would become a better version of myself each day and acted according to that. And that’s where the true growth happens. That’s where we can feel true joy, happiness and fulfilment. And at some point in the future, when we keep up the energies, financial abundance and all the material things will follow based on our energy vibration. In a moment where we just listen to our soul guiding us along the way.

But the journey towards inner happiness can feel uncomfortable. Because all those uncomfortable emotions and thoughts arise along the journey. We may encounter situations with people that make us angry, but in truth they make us a gift, they show us what limiting beliefs we still hold and did not see yet or did not want to see or look at.

What we do not realise, if we know how to handle emotional reactions in a way they serve us, we can gain the biggest soul growth and come a big step closer to our freedom.But as long as we keep ourselves small, react, get angry, we can visualise as much as we want, it is not going to happen because we are not a frequency match to what we want to have.

If you want to know how to raise your vibration, easy, fun and very practical daily tools, my 21 day course may help. Feel into yourself if it calls you. It is like a workbook just in form of a course. Each day we cover a chapter that is important. It includes around 3 pages with insights about the topic, practical tips and an impulse to act upon to practise it. Of course, this course just sets a foundation and requires you to work upon. But I used exactly those tools that brought me to my dreams and soul essence. Most likely we cannot build a life of our dreams in 21 days, but we can start. If you start right now and set a foundation or have tools, imagine where you could be in 3, 6, 9 or 12 or even 24 months? It is about the little steps each day.

What does it mean to “act consciously”?

Wed, 17 Apr 2024 12:51:50 GMT

Acting consciously can lead you to more happiness, joy and fulfillment

Many of us live their lifes unconsciously. They get up, go to work, pay their pills and go to sleep. That may be exaggerated but nevertheless, there are still a lot of people who never really doubt anything or ask themselves deeper questions about life.

They do what they are told to do because quite honestly, the majority of us was raised to follow the rules and live life a certain way so we assumed that this is the way it is. But nothing could be further away from the truth. Often we were conditioned to believe things that are not true at all. E.g. following a job we don’t like, the fact that life is hard, the fact that we have no power and control and are little to name a few.

Acting unconsciously means we believe we are victims to circumstances, situations and people. This victim consciousness leaves us in a low vibration.

Acting consciously means that everything you do, say or think is in full awareness. You are aware of it. E.g. today if you eat a pizza you might not think about why you eat it. You just eat it. When you eat consciously, you may wish to tune in with your feeling and your intuition before and ask yourself, do I really want to eat this pizza? Does it serve me? And even if you eat it observe how it makes you feel. Does it make you feel uplifted or rather tired and dull? And then you would ask yourself, why do I eat something that makes me feel tired and dull in the first place? You might want to take the conscious decision to stop eating pizza if it does not make you feel good. Just as an example. I am not saying to never eat pizza. It is your decision.

Every little action has a consequence, it is the principle of cause and effect. So when you act consciously, it means you consider the effect and in a way you can influence the effect it has and as a result you can form the reality you experience.

Becoming conscious is paramount to a happy life. Becoming conscious is vital to realising our inner desires and dreams. Otherwise, we might act in a way that is not serving us or leading us where we want to go as most of our decisions are so unconscious.

So you can start in your daily life. Ask yourself when you buy food orclothes. Do I really want to buy this? Do I really need this?

The more people become aware, the more conscious our actions get in our individual lifes and our individual choices have an impact on the collective too.

If we are honest with ourselves, not all things that we buy and consume are necessarily what we need or good for us. We may buy them because we heard they are "in", or another one consumes it. Not because we truly feel like buying it.

We end up cluttering our lifes with things we do not even need and stuffing our bodies with substances that might not even be good for us.

Becoming conscious has many benefits, it can lead you to a lot more happiness and accelerate your manifestations as you stay away from things and decisions that no longer serve you. It is in your hands.

If you want more tips like that, my 21 day course “Raise your vibes” consists of texts, very practical tips and easy journal impulses like this blog article in order to raise your vibes and lead a happy life.

When your life crumbles

Wed, 17 Apr 2024 06:20:46 GMT

When your life seems to fall apart and nothing fits anymore

Have you recently felt a change within and around you? Do you feel your current activities or even job that used to bring you joy no longer excites you? Do you feel confused or even anxious about the future? Don’t worry. I’ve got you.

Most likely you’re going through a spiritual awakening. And don’t worry. It’s not something woo-woo. It just means you’re waking up from a lot of illusions. What does it mean? The illusion to be someone you’re not or do something you don’t like. To feel trapped in a system. You suddenly realise you’re so much more than that. You’re not a victim, you are the creator of your reality.

When we experience a spiritual awakening it can be normal that our ‘old reality’ crumbles. Because we are ready to evolve. We are here to make experiences and learn from them. We are here to embody new aspects of ourselves and become a better version of ourselves each day.

We cannot do that by remaining the same each day. So see the crumbling as an invitation to embrace change. A newer or higher version of you is ready to be embodied. With every transformation comes a letting go of something old. But not everything has to change. Only the things that no longer align with who we really are and choose to be.

Most of our lives we live unconsciously. Only when we move into a state where we become conscious of our own actions and life that is when we can shift and later start experiencing much more joy.

So don’t be scared of change. If things are falling apart, maybe things are falling together for the first time. Maybe what’s yet to come is far better than you could imagine. So stay open and surrender to the flow of life. You’re safe. And you’re always guided and supported internally even if it does not always appear so.

Our human minds can be loud and be really doubtful about all of that. But it’s real. You’re not making it up, so try and enjoy the ride! The more lightly we take, the more we can move through it with ease.

Take time to calm your mind and center yourself in your heart space. The heart knows no fear, only the mind does.

I will talk more about shadow work and how to move through this in my next blog article.

Reasons that might hold your manifestations back from coming into your life

Mon, 15 Apr 2024 06:37:41 GMT

Tips to help you create the life of your dreams and manifest anything you desire

I remember once when I tried out a lot and my manifestation just did not turn out to come true. And frustration kicked in after a while as I was doing exactly what I was told to do and it still did not manifest. I tried to visualise, feel a bit of gratitude and say positive affirmations but it was not working. And there came frustration after a while. Why was it not working for me?

And then I noticed a couple of things. One of the biggest breakthroughs was, it can be various reasons, but I will cover 3 overall topics.

1)Blocks and fears

We may have blocks and fears that will hinder abundance and ideas coming to us.

They can come from past experiences, ancestral patterns or past lifetimes. WhatI found out when things do not manifest, it does not mean you are just not meant to have an abundant life, but rather have blocks that hinder things like abundance from coming to you. And abundance is not limited to money, it can be an abundance of love, kindness, relationships, ideas, joy, peace.

2) We dream too small

I noticed I was in my corporate job dreaming about the next higher position that was waiting for me and a bigger apartment. Only to realise later, the universe had something far bigger planned for me. Becoming self-employed, exploring and embodying my soul talents and gifts and leading a fun life. Back then I would not even have known what my soul gifts and talents were, not sure if I had them at all as I was dealing with worthiness issues. And I had a limited perspective seeing things from the reality I was living back then. So the job promotion was my dream back in my old reality. My dreams were just very limited. But there is always other worlds and realities waiting for you to be discovered that you may not yet imagine.

3) Rising our energy vibration is key

Rising our energy vibration is key. Once we do the inner work and look at what we hold within and question our thoughts, actions and beliefs, our vibration will automatically rise. But we have to do the inner work.

Once I raised my vibration and did the inner work, new ideas were coming in that blew my mind. They were far greater than what I could have visualised. And I noticed the most important thing for myself is to keep our vibes high and follow our highest passion in this moment. We achieve that by tuning into our feelings and intuition and also do the inner work. That will guide us towards our best and most abundant life – and I am honest – it is far better what I could have ever visualised.

But we gotta start. I remember I once sat there and listened to a meditation and a mentor talking about it. And that can be a great start but there comes a point where we also have to act. Listen and then act. And even if it is a small little step today.

Taking time for the inner work too. It will not all resolve itself from alone.

In case you need some tips and tricks, my 21 day course "Raise your vibes" is tailored to help people to understand how energy works, tools to practise each day and topics to pay attention to. I created that program as I would have loved to have something back then. Just tools what to pay attention to.

Sending your positive vibes.

Trust yourself and follow your intuition to manifest what you love

Sun, 14 Apr 2024 17:26:51 GMT

Trusting ourselves will lead us to our best life and accelerate the manifestation of our desires

It is really important to trust yourself.

Too often we are at a crossroad of taking an important decision in life and we are divided between two options. You may know that situation. You may have that inner feeling that something is off. Or that little voice telling you to do something. But then soon after the fear, doubt and worry kicks in.

Others may not agree or may even consider you crazy and you soon find yourself following your rationale mind.

Too often, we have one issue in common: We are often scared of failure, judgement or criticism. And it can be completely unconscious.

But following against our own true authentic self comes with certain consequences. We are much more likely to feel stressed, drained or dissatisfied. Because we are doing something against our feeling.

Our soul communicates through our feeling. And our soul can lead us to our highest path. A path where we thrive. Where we live our full potential. Where we can live a life of joy and abundance. Because that is our true essence.

By following the rationale mind, we often take decisions that are not always for our highest good. There is no good or bad decisions per se, it is all an experience, but some experiences may come with far greater pain and learning lessons.

Because there is some form of self-denial and lack of authenticity. And the truth is this. When we cannot trust ourselves, who else can we really trust? Even if we ask others for their opinions, there will always be a certain uncertainty after a while.

So how can we trust ourselves more?

Tune into our feelings more often throughout the day. What do I feel like doing now?
Get aware of moments we have that inner feeling but do not follow it. Why do we not follow it?
Start taking action based on your feeling with little things in daily life. Give it a try.

It is all about practising.

The more we trust ourselves, the more we are guided towards decisions, people and situations that really suit us. Because it is aligned with who we are deep inside.

The importance of quieting the mind

Sun, 14 Apr 2024 12:35:04 GMT

Quieting the mind will bring us more inner peace, clarity and accelerate the manifestation

We may all know that situation… that loud mind chatter! Those racing wild thoughts on some days. Days where we simply cannot feel any inner peace. We may not be sure what is going on but something feels off. And if you are like me, I used to feel so uncomfortable with that feeling not sure what was going on with me or wanting to get rid of that feeling but not sure how.

And as a result, I unconsciously distracted myself back then. I went to the fridge and had some food, decided to go shopping and buy something nice or opened a glass of wine to make me all feel better. And it did in that moment. It did bring some ease. And yet those feelings did re-appear in my life.

And there came a point I realised all those things I used to do served a purpose. They were fine. It is never about good or bad, right or wrong. But rather what serves me and what does not?

And there came a time I realised the things that used to help me no longer helped me. That glass of wine made me feel even worse. That shopping did not bring me true satisfaction anymore. That food made me feel worse than before. And that was the moment I had to find something else.

And I noticed I had to find the root cause and not just a cure for not feeling good.

And that is when I started going within. When I heard a lady talking about how she would meditate each day. And I tried the same. Here is my experiences.

At first, I noticed I could barely sit still for 10 minutes. My mind would suddenly tell me the window is open and I need to close it. So I jumped up and closed the window. Then I heard my phone bing, and I would open my eyes and have a sneak peak – it was my work colleague and bam I felt anger and over was the meditation!

Until I noticed those were all distractions by the mind too. So when I heard this is completely normal the mind does it, I went to the next level. I said to myself I would allow myself to give myself a couple of minutes without any distractions. I put my phone silent. I ensured the windows were closed – and even if they were open, I most likely would not die from it. And even if my mind had told me to get the clothes out of the washing machine, the washing could have waited another 10 minutes.

And that was the first realisation. How much we are controlled by our mind. How much we follow instruction with things we actually do not want to do in that moment. How much we prioritise other things. How I actually put the washing machine before myself. I made the washing machine more important in that moment than time with myself.

And I could observe that in others too later.

And where there is a loud mind, it is very hard to find inner peace, joy and also clarity.

Because there comes a point in our lifes where we have to take decisions. We take smaller decisions each day which have a consequence. E.g. if I eat something unhealthy, I may deal with the consequence of feeling unwell all day. So, all actions have a certain consequence we have to face. This is not in a bad way. But there came a point in my life I realised that the decisions I took were not for my highest good. For sure they provided learnings though. Until I noticed I am done with that. I no longer wanted that. I wanted to find more clarity.

And so there came a point I really had to find a regular practise to set aside time for meditation. And that ritual was like gold! Because I noticed it is all about dedication and practise.

If we practise meditation once, most likely our mind will go back to the same chatter the next day. It is not about doing it once and expecting it to be all sorted.

It is the same like with a profession. If you want to be a professional singer, you got to practise singing. And for sure you will make mistakes too.

So if we want to find more clarity and answers within or just experience more joy and happiness, we have to quieten the mind and take time to do so on a regular basis.

And I noticed that it is completely normal when you start meditating, most of us will not experience a quiet mind. We will become aware of how loud it is, of how many thoughts actually pass our system, how many emotions there are. And that can be so uncomfortable.

That's why I later created a 21 day challenge to really pass on my tools and techniques that I use in my everyday life to quieten the mind, raise my vibration and and create a life I desire. If you feel drawn to it, check it out.

Waiting for the perfect moment can cost you your dreams

Sat, 13 Apr 2024 09:45:30 GMT

Why waiting for the perfect moment might hold you back from more joy, happiness and living your best life

I've been there. And maybe you have too or are at the same point in your life right now. You are waiting for the perfect moment or circumstance to get ready, to change, to feel happy or whatever.

Even when we want to meditate we may say "I don't have time now, I first have to complete the work" or "Now the neighbour is doing gardening work, it's too loud for meditation". The list goes on.

The problem is the right moment will never come. Why? Because there is no real future. The future is determined by the way we are in the present moment, when we feel stressed now, we most likely feel stressed in the future. The reason why you don't feel you have time is that your mind most likely keeps telling you reasons to keep you busy. Why is this? There are many reasons.

One of the reasons is most likely we have limiting beliefs, concepts and ideas about ourselves and the world. E.g. we may think we have to work hard to become someone. But how about living and working joyfully, instead of working hard? You become what you believe in. If you unconsciously believe it's lazy to sit still and it is necessary to work hard, then those situations will be shown in your life.

A solution? Do it anyway! Take time for yourself, even if your mind tells you you are busy. Even if the neigbhour does construction or gardening work. Even if the dog barks. Mastery means we can become still despite what's going on around us. It's the art of calming our minds. And ironically, once we calm our minds, we realise that we postponed a lot of our true inner desires and dreams for things that keep us stressed or less fulfilled.

If you think now is not the right moment, you may want to do it anyway. Because this moment will never come again. Who knows what's in 2, 5 or 10 years' time? The more you take care of the now, the more fruitful the future will turn out. If you're postponing a project, a desire, why not start now? The reason that it pops up means you're ready! It's just your mind keeping you distracted with random thoughts.

From my experience, I can say as soon as I calmed the mind, I had a lot of time for things I enjoyed. That was the irony of it.

If you want more tips, you can join my 21 day program where you receive an impulse each day how to feel better, how to calm your mind or become aware of things that my pull your energy down. It is a mix of easy tools that help you in your everyday life.

The secret to creating a life we truly desire is this: We have to rise our energy vibration. It's like a radio. If you don't like the music, turn into another frequency.

Sending you positive vibes!

Why self-motivation can be counterproductive to your dreams

Tue, 20 Feb 2024 14:01:23 GMT

It is important to become aware of the intention behind self-motivation

I remember I once heard Sadghuru, a spiritual master from India, say that “to motivate yourself” is nonsense from the west.

And at first, it triggered me for some reason. At the same time, it invited me to look further and motivated me indeed to think about it and feel into it what it means. And for myself I concluded it has a valuable teaching and understanding and maybe it can help you too. Firstly, it depends on the situation or how you define it. Words can lead to misunderstandings easily.

I am not criticising others but rather looking deeply where we can improve including myself. Where we can enhance our understanding and perspectives. Here was what I was going through in my mind. If I constantly have to motivate myself it means I’m doing something I’m not passionate about. Our essence is joy, happiness, freedom, ease and flow.

What we are passionate and good at comes naturally. Imagine I love to paint, then I will always be passionate about painting. When there is a time when I do not feel passionate about painting, I do not do it. What’s the point of motivating myself into doing it? Who I do that for? Who do I prove myself?

It sparked a curiosity within me to look deeper in my life: Where do I need to push myself? And if I push or motivate myself, is it really what I want to do right now?

Because to be honest. There are two main reasons if I am not motivated to do something.

1) It’s not my highest passion and excitement what I do

2) There might be blocks or fears that prevent me from doing it right now

Instead of motivating and pushing myself I need to look into and heal or let that go what’s blocking me. We create a lot of push energy. Where we push ourselves and this may happen at the beginning when starting out with a new habit to a certain degree but when we push and push, it’s so exhausting, it causes stress and even burnout.

We might say we have bills to pay, children to feed and that is a fair point. But then we rather got to heal and look within what are my beliefs about money? My beliefs about a life mission? Why do I give my power away to an institution or company I do not like to work for? We think we do not have any power. We often feel like we are victims. But ironically, it’s the victim consciousness that keeps us stuck there. So many people as soon as they do the inner work and claim their power and do what they love, eventually they can even sort their finances out. Life sorts itself out eventually when you do the inner work.

And for myself for example I found that one of my talents for example is about about creative stuff. If I push myself to become an astronaut right now, and I motivate myself to study maths and physics because I might to do because it might bring me money and fame eventually, is it not a constant struggle leaving to unfulfillment? Because it’s not who I am and what comes naturally to me as my talents and interests.

So, if you struggle with motivation right now, maybe the questions I asked myself can help you look deeper what is behind that the same way I did.

Two journal impulses for you about self-motivation

1) Does it really excite you from the heart what you do?

2) Is there just any blocks e.g. fear, resistance.

Then instead of motivating and pushing ourselves, it can be more serving to sit with it and look within.

I noticed it’s all about the intention behind it. Do we motivate ourselves because we hate what we do? Or motivate to become the best version and get up 15 min earlier. In the first case, the motivation is not really serving. It’s rather pushing against our own desires. It is our desires that lead us to our dreams and goals. If we do not do what we love, how shall we even come closer to our dreams and goals?