Silence as a pathway for clarity and inspiration

In a world full of doingness, we often forget one thing: To be. But it’s the silence that brings us clarity, solutions and inspiration. However, a lot of people have a hard time sitting in silence. In a world, that’s so full of doingness, we forget to be.

I remember one day, I came across a woman who had an injury on her leg. It meant to put up the leg for 2 weeks.

She was angry. She was on holiday. She was used to doing a lot. She had a lot of plans.

Just the thought of lying and resting felt dreadful.

That made me reflect.

It made me reflect on how much we are focused on doing, instead of just being. 

So some people may have a hard time with just being with themselves, taking a day off, and just sitting there and being still.

I tried it out one afternoon to sit still.

I was inspired by Sadhguru. He once shared that precious exercise of just sitting there in stillness without your phone and observing your thoughts and emotions for a day. He added, ‘You have to become aware of your own madness.”

While that sounds harsh, it’s true.

Sometimes we suffer from our own thoughts and emotions.

Our mind constantly sends us from one place to the next, from one activity to the next, so that something as natural as resting feels hard.

And why? Because when you start to sit in stillness, your mind most likely will give you a thousand reasons why you can’t. Or why that neighbor is terrible, or why your boss was in a bad mood. Or why Gina broke up with her husband. Or why you can’t achieve your dreams yet. There are a thousand thoughts and more often than we think, not always thoughts that serve us.

And yet it’s those thoughts that co-create our reality. What you think about, you become.

One day, I made an interesting observation. I had worked a lot for my business, and I still thought I hadn’t done enough. Only when a woman told me, “You’re exhausted. Take a break.” I realized what a distorted way of looking at things I had.

In my perception, I hadn’t even worked or accomplished enough, whereas she felt I had worked too much. You see how sometimes we can’t really see things about ourselves? That’s why I truly believe it’s precious to have other people around. They can observe and tell us things from their perspective that we may not be able to see.

And so I would just sit there and allow my thoughts to run wild.

I had to practice that for days to just sit still.

It’s become one of my favorite exercises.

You see, even in some spiritual communities they make you believe you have to do a guided meditation. You have to visualize. You have to breathe to 5. You see, all that is linked to a certain activity and doingness again.

But on that day, I allowed myself to be. I just breathed the way that felt most natural to me. I didn’t care if it was too fast or too slow. I didn’t care about a specific breathing technique.

I just sat there, centering in the heart and feeling all black in front of me.

But it’s not black as in sadness. It’s stillness. It’s the nothingness.

And that reminded me of our essence. We are pure energy beings. We co-create physical matter from the nothingness. I’ve heard some call it the “zero point.” In the nothingness there is everything.

And when you allow your thoughts to calm down, there comes peace.

There is no need for striving hard. For working hard. Peace is as natural as breathing.

You can’t strive for peace. It’s a natural state of being that arises once you dare to no longer pay attention to any thoughts.

And every time, I come out of the meditation that I call the “no thought meditation,” I feel more rested. I feel more inspired. I feel more alive. Not from doing a lot, but from doing nothing.

I learned the most important lesson in my life. Inspiration doesn’t come from doing more; it comes from being more. Clarity doesn’t come from worrying more; it comes from being more. Solutions don’t arise from thinking more; they come from being more.

Because suddenly out of the “nothingness” there is the “everything.”

It’s the dichotomy that some spiritual gurus have talked about in the past.

You realize that the inspiration you search for isn’t found in a book but within yourself.

You realize the clarity you crave isn’t found in another energy reading, but within yourself.

You realize the solutions you crave arise when you choose not to believe your thoughts. Because then you often don’t need solutions anymore. You heal the pattern that caused the problem to arise in the first place. When you no longer believe your thoughts and emotions, a lot of problems will disappear.

Just like when there are no clouds in the sky, there will be no rain. In other words, no drama without dramatic thoughts. No problems without problematic thoughts.

Then there comes a point of allowance. You can allow everything to be exactly as it is.

And then there is like magic happening. You move back to the natural flow of life. Effortlessy. Without striving hard. Without doing more. Without working hard. Without trying so much. Just by allowing yourself to be more and taking more time to sit in stillness.

Enjoy your own presence. That has solved half of my problems without doing anything.

Afterwards you realize if you still carry those thoughts with you, then it’s a conscious choice. But then you can’t blame anyone else. Then you want the problems. You have fun with the problems. Because you now realize you create the problems yourself.