From the corporate job to a more spiritual heart-aligned life

10 August 2025

How being normal and fitting society's expectations can hinder your potentials

I remember when I was a teenager, maybe 15 years old, I was first interested in spirituality.

Back then, it wasn’t “normal.” You could hear things like “You’re too young.” Or “You can do something like that when you’re older.”

And for a while I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn’t normal.

But what I’ve learned is your craziness becomes your uniqueness one day.

At first you really think you’re not normal, but then again, you ask yourself, what’s being normal in the first place?

Being normal is being someone that often follows society's expectations.

Get an education, get a job, get a car, get a house, get kids.

If you’re not adhering to those society expectations, you’re often considered not “normal."

And it’s obvious.

That’s what most people know.

“Not normal” simply means you’re not doing what society generally knows or expects you to do.

But here’s a curious observation: A lot of people following those exact footsteps of getting an education, getting a car, a house and kids increasingly suffer from burnout or a feeling of emptiness. Isn’t that interesting?

In a time where the world is full of possibilities, the number of burnouts is increasing too?

When I was younger and I was drawn to spirituality, I was never really interested in any particular spiritual practises. I just felt there was more to life than what the human eye could see. I was curious to learn more about myself and the world. Soon after I joined spiritual communities, I realized how many struggles they had themselves. How many ideas and concepts they held that didn’t align with me personally.

It didn’t align with me back then to eat vegan. It didn’t align with me to do yoga or travel to India or meditate all day long. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but it simply wasn’t my personal idea of how I wished to lead life. However, deep down in my heart, I just knew I came here for more. I just couldn’t name it or didn’t know what it was. I always felt drawn to writing and while I could perceive some ideas and visions of what I really felt like doing in life, they all sounded too crazy for my own mind.

So indeed, I followed society’s expectations and went into education instead. I turned my back on spirituality. And for a couple of years, I would often act against my inner desires without realizing it.

I thought I needed to get the money, the house and the job to be happy and live the life I love.

Boy, was I wrong.

Soon after I entered the corporate world, I felt how much competition there was. How much rivalry. How much jealousy. No one would talk about it.

It’s not just competition in your own team but amongst companies. Amongst your competitors. Doing a competitor analysis was once part of my daily tasks.

Until one day, this all didn’t feel aligned anymore.

It was not something obvious, but deep in my heart, it felt so useless.

To cut the story short, this time I made myself a promise. I would no longer ignore the whisper of my heart. I would no longer ignore my feeling that was telling me that the path I was on didn’t feel like my path.

There was a bit of confusion. The spiritual communities didn’t entirely feel aligned. The corporate world didn’t either. I just wanted to create a life on my terms. I didn’t want to follow any pre-existing ideas of how to live life. I wanted to live with more purpose and passion just the way I am.

Back then, little did I know what I could do instead. I always admired others who had a passion like painting or acting and now they became painters or actors. I thought I had no gifts or talents like that.

Boy, was I wrong.

As soon as I discovered more about myself, for the very first time I discovered gifts and aspects I didn’t even know I had. And soon I noticed how there’s an infinite amount of possibilities and potentials within each single one of us. I was amazed.

Why we can’t see those potentials is because they’re dormant. We often don’t nurture our dreams and desires enough. It’s a bit like a flower. If you don’t nurture the seeds regularly, no flower can grow.

I was at a point where I was no longer satisfied with the status quo.

I started to follow my heart.

At the beginning I was scared. I was scared of what other people would think of me. I was scared if it wasn’t working out. I was scared I would fail so hard and have to go back to my old job.

But one day, you learn to embrace those fears and at some stage, you learn to turn the page. You’re now more scared of going back to your old job than being scared of doing your own thing.

And there comes a point where the outer opinions of people become less and less important to you.

Not because you don’t care, but you realize it’s your life, not theirs.

You’re not here to make others happy; you’re here to experience more of yourself.

The most important thing is to follow your heart.

Then everything that is meant for you will come to you.

It comes from a place of inner alignment. Not from a place of pushing or fighting for a goal.

That was the miracle I saw. In the corporate world it all felt like hard work and pushing all the time.

When you follow the heart, it’s the other way round. You can’t really push or fight for a goal. If you do, then most likely, something is not truly aligned otherwise you wouldn’t have to push. It doesn’t mean there aren’t any challenges.

But pushing often happens in the mind. The mind makes us believe we have to make certain things happen. But sometimes it’s just an image we have. Like some people may have the image of achieving a certain job title “to be someone” or to have made it. But who defines that? Those images are created in your own human mind, not in the heart.

And now that we have those ideas in the human mind, we think we have to achieve certain things. We start pushing, hustling.

Once you spot the ideas and limiting concepts in your mind, you realize what a natural flow there is when you allow your heart to take over instead.

There is a power about the heart. It’s like a technology. It’s where AI can never get.

AI is fed by humans. But your heart is greater than you can currently think.

It’s beyond all your limitations, where everything you long for is possible. Where everything you long for is already within you. Yes, it sounds surreal. But once you tap into the energy of your heart, you understand what I’m talking about.

And so I made it my mission to follow my heart. To let my heart guide me in my business, in my daily decisions, in my relationships, in my health, basically in any aspect of my life.

Not only did it bring me so much more joy, healing and a sense of purpose, but also it feels much more aligned with who I am.

Is it always easy? Oh no. I’ve gone through moments of pure frustration and despair. But those moments helped me to shed a little more of the ideas I created in my mind.

Sometimes, it’s very hard because you go against the norms that are known in society.

People would give you odd looks, “Are you crazy, you give up your safe job? You give up the security?”

And as Sadhguru once put it so nicely in a video, “Security is what you have on your grave.” Then indeed, nothing can happen anymore.

If you want security, you don’t want life.

You will usually settle for less. You will usually be too scared to take risks. You will usually be too scared of going against the norm. Because that’s security. You feel secure in your body when you don’t stick out. When you do as you were told to do.

When you want security, you often want comfort.

But you don’t grow in comfortable situations. You grow when you’re challenged.

The biggest learning lessons in my life didn’t appear when I felt comfortable.

They happened when I was either so uncomfortable or in the middle of a challenge or even a painful situation. It doesn’t mean pain is necessary to grow. But sometimes I realized I wouldn’t have changed otherwise. The pain becomes bigger when we’re unwilling to adapt, change or transform.

When the heart screams “Yes” and our mind goes “No” or vice versa.

When we do things and say yes to tasks and people when deep down the heart screams “no”.

You have to choose who you trust.

Do you choose life or security? Do you choose your heart or your mind to guide you?

Do you choose to do it like everyone else does and most likely follow society's expectations, or do you do what feels most aligned with your heart even though it may go against all expectations?

You choose.

Sometimes people say they don’t have any other choice and my younger self thought the same. Today I am convinced we all have a choice. Not choosing is also a choice.

10 August 2025 by Laura Becker
7 August 2025
Sometimes life crumbles. It can come so unexpectedly. Everything may seem so smooth. We go on with our daily life. But suddenly something shakes us. A disease, a layoff, or even a sudden death of a loved one. Or even something like burnout or a job rejection. What often happens is we condemn them. We judge them. We judge those experiences. We sometimes may even make our own self-worth dependent on it. Now we feel like we’ve done something wrong, or we feel like a failure. Especially when you can’t find a new job or you’re laid off while your colleague is not. It can hurt. However, that’s just one perspective about it. The real reason behind those challenges often remains hidden. Unknown to the logical human mind. Sometimes behind those challenges can be a conscious awakening. What does that mean? Let’s be honest. We don’t change in our comfort zone. It’s too comfortable. However, when a major life event or challenge appears, we start questioning ourselves and life. And while it can appear like a challenging phase, it’s a gift in disguise. It can lead us to a lot of realizations, learning lessons, and deeper truths about ourselves and life. And really, that’s what we’re here for. If there was nothing to experience or realize, it would be boring. As much as we say we’d like to have it all figured out, it would be the same to say we would like to play with open cards in a game. Yes, it would be easy, but also we wouldn’t need to play if everyone had their cards open. Our souls sometimes love a challenge, even if for our human it can appear so unfair or not enjoyable at all. I was once denied a job position. If I hadn’t been denied, I would have probably never gone self-employed. I would have never created my own blog. I always dreamed of having a blog, as I enjoyed writing and sharing my thoughts. But I always postponed that dream or didn’t even consider that dream for real. My mind gave me too many reasons why it wasn’t worth creating a blog. See how I was holding myself back from my dreams? So that job rejection, which felt awful back then, was a gift in disguise. The special thing about a gift in disguise is that while you’re going through them, they can feel like hell. Only much later is the gift revealed. And the gift is often a redirection. You’re redirected onto a different path with new experiences and opportunities to grow. So here are 3 signs you might be going through a conscious awakening. Those are no generalizations, just some general guidance. A major challenge such as a disease or a job rejection A depressed phase as if nothing makes sense anymore and you don’t recognize your old self A deeper longing for the truth and wanting to spend more time alone than usual just doing nothing and sitting in a quiet space A conscious awakening is chosen by the soul, and in my experience, it’s determined by your own subconscious beliefs, trauma and limitations. What’s important is to allow the process to happen. Some people fight against change. They do everything to keep their current reality going. But if you want to move to a different reality where you may experience more joy, peace and fulfillment, you have to be willing to release old versions of yourself. That can feel like a dying. It can suck. But let’s remember with each dying aspect, there is a new version of us born. A lighter version. A version that has grown. Just like nature. What appears like autumn to us means death to the leaves of a tree. Nature has often been my teacher. You can learn a lot from trees. They go through the dying and rebirth process so naturally. They don’t fight as much as we humans. They simply allow it. If something is not how you expected it to be, follow the unexpected. Trust that life has a plan for you. Trust that there is a deeper message or even a different path waiting for you even if you can’t see what it is yet. That’s the magic of life. It comes in all shapes and forms. No life is perfect, so we've got to embrace the highs and the lows and trust that everything brings us the exact experience or lesson we need right now. So what is a conscious awakening, some may ask? Well, it’s becoming more conscious of who you are deep down and who you’re not. It’s becoming conscious of what the world is and what it is not. It’s about the deeper truth of who you are.
30 July 2025
Treating the symptoms versus healing the root cause: What is the difference? This morning, I came across a headline on social media about older baboons (monkey/cat-like creatures) that were killed in a zoo due to overcrowding in the zoo. There were a lot of animal activists trying to prevent it. No matter the deed, the outcome or what opinion someone might have about that incident, each one of us may have their unique intention and opinion. And without a doubt, no matter whether you see innocent people or innocent animals being killed for some shallow reason, it is a tragedy. It reflects something deeper about humanity. That something is so foul. And again, it’s not about searching for the bad guy. Or judging others for their bad behavior. It showed me how much humanity often tries to solve the symptoms instead of the root cause . In this case they’re trying to save the animals in the zoo (=the symptoms), but the real question that popped to my mind is, “Why do people still go to the zoo in the 21st century knowing that the animals suffer?” (=the root cause) Yes, it’s a pleasure, but if the pleasure is one-sided, it can cause harm and pain to everyone. Because after all, we remain one humanity. One world. And I noticed how humans tend to solve the symptoms so often, no matter if it’s with animals, relationships, finances or health. Isn’t it alarming? So today I want to provide some insights on how to heal the root cause instead of the symptoms. Have you noticed how we humans tend to solve the symptoms instead of the root cause? Here are some examples. A disease Humans often ask: What pills and therapy forms help? How can we do better therapy? Instead of asking: What caused me to feel ill or at dis-ease? A failed relationship Humans often ask: What can you do when living with a narcissist? What are techniques to calm a husband who is a narcissist? Instead of asking: Why do I choose to spend my time with this man in the first place? In a zoo with a killed animal Humans often ask: Why do they kill the animal? How can we prevent the zoo owners from killing old animals? Instead of asking: Why do we still go to the zoo knowing that it’s no good for animals? Mental health issues Humans often ask: What techniques and pills help against depression? Instead of asking: What causes me to feel depressed about myself and my life? What does life invite me to change? In finances Humans often ask: Why are our politicians and economy so bad? Instead of asking: What can I do or offer to the world that can make additional money? What skills do I need to build a side business instead of waiting for the politicians to decide on a new rule that will improve my situation? Healing the symptom is like an open wound that bleeds through again and again. It can cause a lot of pain and struggle, just like an open wound can. Healing the root cause is like a scar. You won’t necessarily forget about it. The experience shaped you in a way, but it will no longer bleed through. It will no longer cause pain. It ’s about a behavioral and attitude change. Healing the symptoms means you play the victim. You look for the guilty one on the outside. Healing the root cause means you become the Creator. You take responsibility for your own behaviour. Imagine if only half of the population would take responsibility for their own behavior. What would the world look like? It would look like a healed place. Because change doesn’t necessarily start in politics or in the economy. It starts in the heads and minds of each single human. Never feel small. You play a significant part in this world. And sometimes it also means that you don’t pursue hobbies for egoic reasons. In other terms, just for your pleasure when you know others suffer from you having pleasure. Such as going to the zoo. It means seeing the bigger picture: if someone else suffers, we all suffer, as we are all one humanity. We are not so separate after all.
28 July 2025
Ever asked yourself why good people turn ill? What’s the deeper message behind diseases? Are they really bad or could they just be our “ambassadors”? What’s the “soul perspective” behind diseases? Over the past years, I spent a lot of time on energy healing, the inner work and the root cause of diseases. I was always curious to learn more about it and I made some interesting observations so far. I always kept them to myself as living in a society that is full of judgment, I preferred keeping the truth to myself. Today, my intuition guided me to share some of my insights and observations which came as a complete surprise. I share them because I trust that they may help some of you out there too! Those are just based on my personal experiences and perceptions. Feel into your heart if some resonate with you and/or can shed some light on questions you may have. Why do “good people” become ill or even diseases such as cancer? Here are my observations: They’re not just this human. Many spent many lifetimes what we refer to as “previous life’” and not all previous life’s were so “good" For the soul nothing is ever good or bad. It’s an experience. The energy of that experience is different Being good is an illusion. It’s about being real and the true you not a mask of playing “good”. It can be a redirection or a reminder to look deeper For the soul, it’s not about money and fame. That’s just an experience. Not an end goal. It’s about growth. Sometimes growth happens the most through a disease How do you energetically heal diseases? Why do some heal and others don’t through energy work? You have to remove the plug ins from lower vibrational timelines. Everything is energy. Some people don’t believe in energy work and as a result, it’s not working for them. It’s not a question whether energy work helps, but whether the ill person is ready to release old patterns that bind them energetically. 3 things I see in ill people even people that go through illnesses such as a cancer From a soul perspective • The souls agreed to experiencing that disease. It’s not a vengeful man with a beard or “bad luck”. It’s chosen or created by the soul. That provides comfort that no one is ever a “victim”. Why would the soul choose that? Because it’s temporary. For an eternal soul, one lifetime passes in a blink of an eye. It’s just temporary. • They have resonance points to lower vibrational energies. It’s an opportunity to release it. • Just a personal observation: some of the ill people spent lifetimes in war or famine or similar “tough lifetimes” and store that trauma in their cells. Cells have brain memory and consciousness. E.g. if you use chemotherapy, you’re killing the cells (=the symptoms) but not the root cause (=the trauma that caused the disease in the first place). That’s why some humans get sick again because the souls want to heal the root cause Why do young people die e.g. of diseases? For the souls, they know no time and space. They are energy, they are eternal. To me remembering many previous life’s, it appears more like playing Monopoly. Whether you depart after 1 round or 10 rounds, it doesn’t have an impact. In other words: Whether you’re here for 1 year, 10 years or 100 years is a choice. The soul chooses when to leave. And sometimes the experience in one human lifetime was enough to move on, even for us humans we’d consider that “short”. For the soul it’s not about the years, it’s all about the moments. Moment by moment by moment by moment. Not all souls wish to heal a disease in this lifetime. They can always reincarnate. In the US, more and more young children say they’re the grandma. That’s not always the case and you can’t generalise here, but it’s not uncommon either. Reincarnation is real, but seen as odd for many in society. One weird thing from remembering my previous life In one of my previous lifetimes that I remember I died of something similar to cancer. I was so angry before I died. In the moment I died it felt like I was “waking up” realising “it was just a dream. An illusion” Sickness was an illusion. And I perceived other light beings around me. Trauma can be behind diseases One day I started writing a short story about my previous life as a nun Although I wasn’t even religious Religious trauma show itself -always looking for the answer outside of you. In a book, the sky. -the “good girl” syndrome. Always thinking you have to be a good human instead of just being real -struggling with money, men or different things. Charging money for healing or spiritual services feels bad. It’s not a generalisation nor second guessing. But if you have any of these behaviours, just know those beliefs can come from those lifetimes. You don’t need to remember those lifetimes but spot and release those beliefs. How you can help an ill person Often, we project fear onto that person. How you can really help them on a soul level although it’s not always easy • See the divinity in them. The complete soul playing a role. Just like a complete human playing a character role in Monopoly game. That can help them see their own divinity. • Trust that everything serves a higher purpose. Their soul is most likely just healing something. Even if you don’t understand what, provide comfort. Show compassion. The disease can be terrible, but the consequence (=the learning lesson can be absolutely healing. It can help the soul for future lifetimes.) • Understand energy. When you’re in the energy of calmness, trust and comfort it’s how another one can heal the easiest. It’s the energy they need to heal. As supposed to fear and doubt which will make them even more fearful. Energy doesn’t communicate through words only. You convey a feeling. Ever sat next to a calm and loving person? It calms you down, doesn’t it? Why can some remember previous life’s and others can’t? It’s not because some are chosen. It depends on your level of consciousness. Your consciousness = how much you can perceive. It’s similar to when you’re in a shopping mall. On the ground floor you may see the butcher, bakery and people running around. Everything may seem chaotic. On the 7th floor you see airplanes, the blue sky. Everything seems so calm. Who’s right? Both. That’s called perception. Yet, it’s all a choice. Just like you can visit other floors in a shopping mall, you can raise your consciousness. If you doubt any of those information or perceptions or you doubt previous lifes exist, that’s completely valid! Trust yourself and move on.
28 July 2025
A couple of years ago, I used to read the news each day in the morning. I heard someone say it’s eloquent and intelligent and it makes you smart. As I wanted to appear smart too or let’s say do it like the others, I did. Until one day, I questioned that belief. Is it really smart to read about all of the world’s issues? I mean, there’s a lot going on. From a cat having diarrhea to wars, fights, killings and stabbings. If we indulged in the news all day long, I’m sure it wouldn’t even be surprising if some of us became sad or even suicidal. I generally like to question things and asked myself again… is it really smart to read about all the problems in the world? All the wars? In other words, reading about so much that isn’t working? Wouldn’t it be much smarter to read about things that are working and apply more of them? Could it be that there are negative agendas behind the news just wanting to make you feel worried and fearful? No assumptions here, just a personal perception. One day, I heard a guy called Matias de Stefano say that in the past, people without social media were better off. They just had their own life and their own problems. They didn’t have to carry the problems of the world and the burden of the disasters. It made me reflect and actually it was a fair point. Without a doubt, disasters are horrible. Bushfires are horrible. Just picturing losing your home is terrible. Or whatever else it might be. I do have understanding and feel a lot of empathy for those people and trees. But let’s be honest here. We won’t make the world a better place by worrying even more. It only pulls down our own energy. The energy we could actually use instead to act on new projects and ideas that could prevent those incidents from happening in the future. And that made me rethink my choice or my decision of reading the news in the morning. And why I later stopped it. And here’s why. I once came across Neale Donald Walsh who shared an impulse to read the news and spot the words they use. How much negative language there is. How much drama. I was shocked when I really looked out for it consciously. Even words carry energy. We often absorb that energy often unconsciously which has an effect on how we feel. Sometimes the lines we read even shape beliefs or makes us fall into the energy of hate and judgment. Could there be negative agendas behind the news wanting to keep the world separated to keep the power? No assumptions here, just a personal perception. Even some people I came across that gave interviews suddenly apologised on social media arguing that they never said certain things the media published. Or the news either added something they asked not to include or they left out an important part of their message and it now conveyed a completely different message often in a negative sense. Isn’t that interesting again? Additionally, another interesting observation: I was once in Spain years back, and suddenly a family member called me feeling very nervous. “Where are you??? Are you ok??? Are you safe?” I was walking in downtown Madrid going like, “erm yes why shouldn’t I be ok?” They told me in the German news they said there were riots in Madrid. I was one street away and it was just so little I didn’t actually see or hear it. When I saw the German news they had used images that I later discovered in other news articles from riots in a completely different country 4 years ago. I was shocked. They didn’t even use accurate images. Again, do they have negative agendas to feed off our fear energy? No assumptions here again, just a personal perception. So, I observed every time I read the news and despite feeling empathy for what people are going through, I realised I cannot bear the burden of the world, so to speak. Nor do I wish to feed negative agendas with my energy. Here on the other side of the world I couldn’t do anything if a bushfire in Australia broke out, as an example. I can only send my empathy, hoping the people make the best out of it, find strength and most importantly, learn from it. Because let’s be honest. A lot of problems and issues in the world are man-made. The trees don’t start burning just like that. So when we raise awareness we could achieve much more than putting our energy into fear and worry. One day, I had a conversation with a lady I met who told me that she gave up reading the news a long time ago. At first I found that random. Almost strange. Isn’t it ignorant not to read the news or not to know what’s going on? I first thought. But then I realised in the past, people didn’t have access to social media either. They didn’t know what was going on on the other side of the world. That allowed them to take care of their own life and their own problems and challenges, which, in my view, is often enough. As I’m generally open to new things, I tried a news-free challenge for 2 weeks. No news for 2 weeks. Boy, even after the first three days I felt more calm. I felt more joyful not being exposed to those negative headlines right in the morning or evening. Instead, I’d focus on my breakfast, look out the window and thought, “Actually everything is good.” It made me realize we just suffer in our own minds and it can start right in the morning by absorbing negative headlines from the news. Now I deleted the news apps and chose to fill it with inspirational apps. And honestly, many months later, do I have the feeling I missed out on something? Not at all. I focus on things that nurture my life and, as such, my surroundings. Do I feel less smart suddenly? Not at all. I realised how many distorted beliefs and even negative energy you can absorb about countries, people and situations that, who knows, might not even be fully accurate all the time. And really, if something important is happening, other people will immediately tell me about it. If something important really happened, I’m sure I will get to know about it. If someone needs my help and I can help them, I would consider doing so, but I think it won’t help them just from me absorbing fear- and drama-based energy from reading inaccurate or exaggerated information provided in the general news. For me personally, a new luxury is to think for yourself and question things you do or even dare to question things that society tells you to do. Some people want to convince you of doing things a certain way. But if that was really "THE" way, would the world really be in the shape it is today? Who knows?
2 July 2025
First of all, I ’m not speaking of people spending time alone and longing to be with others. That might have different reasons. I’m speaking of the moment you feel like being alone by choice even if others would consider that weird. Already in my teenage years, I loved doing things on my own. I often loved walks on my own. I loved journalling on my own. I often loved travelling alone. People would give me odd looks and for a time I thought, well, maybe it’s me being weird. Yet, it sometimes just felt the “right” thing for me. I remember how I sometimes joined groups and I just felt drained. I felt I had less energy after being with certain people than being on my own. Drained by travel itineraries, drained by too many compromises and simply doing things just to please others. Now there has to be a balance and without a doubt compromises may be part of life, I don’t want to deny that. But yet here’s a question: if you always do what pleases others, will you truly feel happy in the long term? I believe it will come at a certain cost one day. Your own inner desires are not met. Or can fall by the sideway. That which you truly want and long for deep down. Don’t feel like visiting that temple your friend loves to visit? Why do you go then? Don’t feel like doing XYZ your partner loves when you prefer some alone time? Why do you do it then? Everything is our energy and has an effect on the reality we experience and in the long term also on our satisfaction. That’s why only years later I learned that solitude in any shape or form is not loneliness. It’s sometimes necessary to become aware of your own desires. To nurture your own dreams. To reflect on what’s important to you. While it’s nice to have companions, in the end the longest relationship you have is with yourself. You can never entirely rely on the other. What if they leave you? What if they die? What if they deceive you? It’s not to picture any worst-case scenarios but to stress the importance that your needs come first. It’s not selfish. And then it’s much easier to build a community around that. A community that supports your dreams, desires and reflections, not one where you constantly have to adapt at the cost of your own satisfaction. What I’m trying to say is, if you feel like travelling alone, it’s fine. Don’t let yourself be put down by other people’s weird looks. That was my biggest realisation. Solitude is not always loneliness. Reflection time is important. Connecting to yourself is substantial. From a peaceful mind and clear thoughts, you can take action more clearly and interact with people more peacefully. So it can have many benefits not just for your own life but also for the people around you. Other times it may be more fun to join a community than to do things on your own. I believe there is no right or wrong. The best thing is to do what feels “right” in the moment. Now years later, I do realize how I carry the first fruit from my time spent alone. In the way that I feel much more connected to myself and my intuition than before. I feel much more clear on who I am and what my desires are. I feel much more aware of what my strengths and also weaknesses are. It doesn’t mean I’m perfect or that there’s nothing more to learn, but I simply feel much more clarity and awareness than before. And that shows in the outer world e.g. through more balance and joy, new heart projects and a new sense of self. People may look at me and say, “wow she may be lucky.” But it’s not about being lucky. It’s years of inner alignment. It comes after spending moments of confusion and many more moments sitting with your own anger that you finally become clear on what you wish to tolerate and what you no longer wish to tolerate and say yes to. That’s why solitude has so many benefits for your life. It doesn’t necessarily mean to live off-grid and distance yourself from people. No. Just take time for yourself. I f you feel like you can’t make time for yourself for whatever reason be it work or children then simply notice. The kids and work are important but without your satisfaction no one entirely benefits. So if you’re satisfied the people around you will be. I’ve observed that there are quite a few people who would feel entirely insecure about doing something on their own. Now they’re confronted with themselves, their own internal world. Now it comes to trusting yourself and life. Many are not used to that. Most of us were raised trusting others. Be it a book, a teacher, a religious doctrine. Someone else tells us who we are and what we should do. We rarely learn to be on our own let alone think for ourselves. So sometimes spending time on your own can be a completely new experience for some. But it can bring you new insights and you may get to know new aspects about yourself you weren’t even aware of. If you haven’t spent time alone, give it a try. Grab a book or simply take some time to reflect or whatever feels comfortable to you. If you love spending time alone and feel guilty, stop the guilt. It’s fine. There’s nothing wrong with you. Always remember if others consider you weird it’s their beliefs they are projecting onto you, it doesn’t have to be yours.
1 July 2025
I’ve started journalling a long time ago. I first started with journaling about my day, my travels and later I started doing the “inner work” through journalling. Back then, little did I know what power it had and what a difference it made in my life. Here are 3 benefits I’ve discovered about journaling. Journalling has so many benefits but here are the most beneficial ones that can support you with following your dreams and help you manifest the life you truly desire, or simply feeling more balanced and joyful. 1)Become aware of your thoughts and emotions Journalling can help you become aware of what’s going on in your mind. Often, we have so many thoughts on our minds and a lot of them are not really serving. It can help you become aware of your thoughts and release them. Let’s be honest. In order to achieve our dreams and manifest our heart’s desires it’s important to align our internal world. Otherwise we may risk remaining in our old reality. At the beginning, I underestimated the power of my thoughts, only when I later became aware through my practice of journaling how many self-destructive thoughts I had, I was no longer surprised why I couldn't manifest at the beginning. 2)Connect with yourself A journaling practice can help you make time for yourself and you get to know yourself and your internal world better. Often, we are so busy with work and other stuff that we forget to make time for ourselves and connect with ourselves. Journalling is one way to simply relax, get your pen and paper out and allow yourself to connect with your own inner world and heart’s desires. 3)Access your subconscious mind There are a lot of things in our subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is so vast. It appears as vast as the ocean. Some people that start with manifestation or the inner work want to release everything all at once. And of course, it’s understandable. We’re tired of our old limitations. But the truth is this: Reprogramming the mind in one day is not impossible but for most of us, a regular practice can help achieve those dreams. Often achieving our dreams consists of multiple steps and actions, so with each step you may face new limitations. That’s how a regular journaling practice can help you move and navigate through those challenges. Are you a journalling lover too or became curious? All it takes is to get a pen and paper and let yourself be guided by your intuition. If you feel you need some journalling inspiration, I will share a lot of impulses in the next upcoming weeks. Stay tuned.
25 June 2025
Inner healing, healing of diseases, shadow work, deeper reason behind diseases
20 June 2025
A couple of years ago I left the corporate world. There was a little voice telling me “you gonna quit.” And so eventually, I did. Trusting my intuition was not always easy. At the beginning there was doubt, a bit of fear and worry if it was truly working out but deep down I knew another way was waiting for me. And so I learned a lot about the inner work, manifestation and living your purpose. As I went through it all myself. At the beginning, I had little idea what my purpose was or where it would take me. What I did was I followed my joy and passion. It took me to writing children books eventually. And adult comics. Never ever would I have imagined writing comic books. Yet, I discovered so many new aspects and potentials within me I didn’t know existed within. They were dormant. I mean I was in my old job. How should those dormant talents have come alive back then when you always do the same things? Today I write books. They combine wisdom and my interest about the cosmos together with a sense of humor and charm. I love writing. I always have. Writing comes so natural to me I don’t even have to think about it. I allow my heart to guide me. I believe there is a higher force within each one of us. There’s this feeling or little voice that we all have access to when we quiet the mind. It’s the voice that guides us. It’s the voice that lets us know when something is off. It’s often just a matter of listening. The world is in trouble. It’s full of judgment, competition, power games, wars. And I believe you can’t blame the politicians or ancestors. That’s the easy one. The harder one is this: it depends on us. If each one of us questions their beliefs and takes responsibility for their actions the world would look differently. It’s the path to true sovereignty and inner freedom. The moment you choose yourself. The moment you choose not to follow or blame others but the moment you take charge of your life. The moment you choose to opt for more, to discover more and to be curious about more rather than just surviving, paying the bills. So I encourage people to discover their own purpose and gifts. Do more of what you love. And for now, if you feel drawn to, today I'm launching my first children's book about the big bear. If you feel drawn to a cute children's story that is totally touching for adults too, check it out. If not, I encourage you to follow your interest and joy this weekend. What is something that lights you up? Whether it's writing, drawing, fishing, swimming, do it. You never know where this hobby, passion or field of interest can take you one day. If you became curious, check it out. It's called "Friendship knows no boundaries"
14 June 2025
Dealing with strong emotions such as rage, anger, jealousy, hate or fear? Emotions are like waves in the sea. You can drown in them. They can pull you down. They can overwhelm you. Just like when all is calm and a rough wave sweeps over, it won’t be the same. So you gotta learn to embrace emotions. Face them. As uncomfortable as they might seem. And then there may come a time you decide you no longer want to swim there. And that’s the same with your life. There comes a moment you may decide you no longer want to feel that way. And just like you need to change a different bay, you got to change your thoughts, beliefs and concepts that made you feel that way. Because it’s your choice. You always have the choice to swim wherever. In your life you have the choice. If you are constantly angry, sad, disappointed, you can decide to change it. Change your thoughts, change your actions. But that’s what feels uncomfortable. Change is always uncomfortable. It’s much easier to blame the waves then take responsibility for how you react. Change starts within. You can sit by the ocean and complain how high the tides are. Or you can change the setting. That’s my advice. Don’t wait for an external event to get better. Don’t wait for the perfect moment (to feel ready), it may never come. Change the setting. Switch direction. If one does not turn out the way you wish, there is another way waiting for you. Don’t push through for the sake of it. But in case you’re encountering a big wave don’t condemn it. Because everything you experience teaches you something. It may teach you more resilience. Be open and ask yourself what it’s teaching you. Sometimes the wave aka emotion is so rough, you may get hurt. Yes, it can be hurtful. It can feel frustrating. It can feel awful. Yet, don’t dwell in pain or regret for too long. Remember, you cannot change what happened but you can always learn from the experiences. The learning lesson turns into wisdom. Wisdom allows you to take different decisions next time. Don’t make the mistake again and again. Don’t repeat old things again and again, not that there are real mistakes anyway, but once you get swapped away by a wave and you hit a rock, you wouldn’t do or bathe there again, would you? If you got hurt once, don’t do exactly the same thing again. And if there are no waves, appreciate it. Be grateful because nothing is for granted in life. If you’re facing ups and downs frequently, then learn to ride the waves like a surfer, use the lows to pull yourself up. And have fun along the ride. Lows may suck but remember this life is not forever. It’s not about achieving anything but enjoying the ride. Only when we experience the lows, we can appreciate the highs. In the end, its all just an experience. Stop judging the waves into good or bad rather see it as one ocean with different shapes and forms that allow you to have different experiences. And don’t judge other surfers because remember we are all in the same ocean. See the world as if it was one just like the sea is one. Some parts of the sea are darker, others lighter, some are rough, some are soft but it’s all one. In the world there’s different humans too but together we are one. Imagine the small wave would start war against the big wave. It would be absolutely crazy. Don’t start war or heavy fights against another for you’re only fighting against a part of yourself. Just like there are small waves, big waves, foamy waves, there can be different forms of existence. That makes the sea diverse. Don’t prove, impress or please another if you want to live in peace. Would a big wave prove its worth to a small wave? I don’t think so. It explores its own capability and beauty. Allow yourself to be unique. Allow yourself to be you! Don’t be fooled by time just because something seems like it’s 5 years ago. Time is relative. You may have changed and become a different version just like a big wave may turn into a calm wave but it’s still part of the big ocean. You are never separate and it’s still the ocean. Time is not moving but you’re moving through time. Enjoy each moment as this life is not forever. Make the most out of it. Explore new territory. Try new possibilities. Have the courage to chase your dreams and your deepest desires. For that’s your soul communicating with you trying to make new experiences together with you in a human form.
13 May 2025
Maybe you know the feeling too…. You’re on your way to work, checking social media... waiting for food, checking social media… waiting for a friend, checking social media... Not sure what to do next, checking social media… if you’re bored, checking social media… I was no different. I was checking social media right after getting up and right before sleeping. I wasn’t always the one producing content but absorbing content. O ne day, I had an astonishing oberservation. Social media can drain your energy to an extent it can impact your mood, often unconsciously. How? Not everything that’s shared on social media is positive. People would focus on the positive stuff, but it doesn’t mean it’s the truth. Yet, energy only knows the truth. If you’re feeling terrible and put on a smile on and say something nice to be liked, the underlying energy is your bad mood that comes along with it. It’s so subtle, you may not recognise it. It’s like when there’s fresh water and the water tap is calcified, your water may not be so fresh. But it’s not visible at first. And that was exactly what I could observe or feel with social media. People that I followed drained me, not all, but some random ones that appeared. Sometimes it made me become judgmental or other times I suffered with someone. Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to have empathy but there came a point where it drained my energy to an extent it wasn't really bringing me further or contributing to my joy throughout the day. Mentally, I felt less clear. One night, I tuned into my intuition and my intuition told me to have a social media break for the next three days. It came as a surprise. And as I always follow my intuition I did so. I signed off for 3 days. And boy it wasn’t easy. And yet it was astonishing. Instead in the night before going to bed I wouldn’t check social media, I would spend half an hour dreaming of my future. Focusing on what really matters. Getting engaged with my desires. In the morning, I didn’t start with social media but I would focus on my day. I would focus on gratitude. D uring the day, I focused on myself, my emotions, my mood and what made me feel good. I was far less judgmental and drained within 2 days already. And I became clear that following random strangers and following strangers on their parties, anniversaries, dramas and all sorts of things (don’t get me wrong they do sound nice) drained my energy. I was so focused on other people and sometimes I found myself feeling bad. I started to compare myself completely unconsciously. I started to judge. I started to absorb their energies. And guess what? Now I was in the energy of judgment and comparison. When you're in those energies, guess what, no good can result. Worst of all, it's how I continued my day. When I gave up my social media consumption for 3 days unless I felt guided to share something, I felt so much more alive. So much lighter. So much more centered. I felt no need to engage in random stranger’s dramas and stories. In my opinion, we all crave for attention and love. And sometimes people go on social media to find the attention they cannot find within themselves. And that’s where energy vampirism can appear. I know it sounds harsh but it’s not really as harsh as the word implies. What I mean by energy vampirism is when you don’t feel loveable or cannot accept yourself deep down and hoping for acceptance and approval outside of you. A nd that’s why we can feel weak. The path to true power and a joyful life is when you’re centred in your own energy first. When you know yourself first and don’t have to strive for attention or approval by others. Some people even ask strangers what colour of their house or car or dress they should choose. By all means, this has become an interesting world where people would ensure their followers approve. And I ask myself what for? We don’t live in their house. They don’t live in mine. It only has to be appreciated by me. If we’re constantly concerned what others think of us and ensure we choose what they would choose we are like slaves to external circumstances. And on the other hand, when you consume content, it can leave you focus on other people’s lives, not your own. Some people become sad or disappointed when a stranger doesn’t respond. How odd is that? I come to remind you, just like I reminded myself, you’re not here to be liked and appreciated by others or even have a say in other people’s lives. You came here to create and live your own life the way you want in the first place. How many people can truly say they created a life they love and that truly fulfills them? Not many. And so the social media detox can help you become clear on your own life, habits, emotions and how you wish to spend your days. This life is not forever, do you want to look back one day realising you watched other people live their life on social media while you could have made much more out of yourself? I leave that up to you. If you felt inspired by this story, give it a try. Sign off for 3 days or whatever feels good to you and focus on yourself and your life and your dreams and I’m sure you’ll be surprised. That’s true self love. Self love doesn’t mean to polish your nails or talk about it. It means taking time to nourish yourself even if no one out there approves or likes it. They don’t have to. That’s the deeper meaning of self-love. And btw, You know what’s much better than watching people on holiday? Creating a life that can make you feel like you’re on holiday. Or Going on a real holiday yourself. Let’s not mix up the digital world with the real world. What does that have to do with manifesting? Oh , a lot if you ask me. We don’t create what we wish for, we create what we are an energetic match to. So if you’re constantly in the energy of judgment, worry, or absorbing other crazy energies, that’s what our reality becomes like Without a doubt social media can encourage and inspire too, this is just a reminder to become aware. Become more Aware of your energy and what you spend your time on. It has an impact on your life in tremendous ways.
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