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Where’s home? Ever asked yourself that question? So did I. More than once. Recently I returned from a two-month stay in Southeast Asia. While it initially took me some time to adjust to the new environment, you kind of get used to the new culture, different ways of being, and their daily life. When I came back to what I refer to as my hometown, as in my "birthplace" where I grew up, it felt random. Yes, there was a sense of home of course. It felt familiar. And yet, you realize you’re not the old version of yourself. That can feel stressing. And there are two major possibilities that often happen. You either fall into the old traps or you feel like you need to move again or at least change something. You feel you can’t continue your life the way you did before you left it. This is mainly because you’re not the same version of yourself, you often feel the need of adjusting on the outside. What I realized in particular was how old clothes or even furniture no longer aligned. But it didn’t feel like a happy moment. Letting go of old versions of yourself feels like dying. You leave some old part of you behind. And while that moment can be disturbing or even challenging, you see how it has to happen. It’s part of life. You need to make room for the new. The only constant is change. I personally find this is an ongoing process. Not a one-time event. We undergo continuous changes, and with certain changes, the past cannot accompany us. In fact it binds us. It keeps us trapped in a way. Therefore, I have discovered that the only effective approach is to embrace the sadness. Allow the grief. Grieving old versions of ourselves can be a real thing. I remember when I was a young kid and I grieved that I outgrew my favorite trousers. It felt heartbreaking. And after you allow that sadness and give honor to your path and all your past selves that led you to where you are today, you come to a point where you find gratitude and a new lightness. Even if the path is not yet clear. Even if you have no idea where to head next, you know most likely you can’t continue the same way you always have. It just no longer feels aligned. I feel it doesn’t only happen in our individual lives but collectively too. Cultures and towns are changing, which requires adjustment. There’s a different time and different opportunities, but the old is gone. You can feel it in the air as if the ancestors' spirits echo. So after living or spending time abroad, you suddenly ask yourself, "Where's home?” When you move abroad, you're a foreigner in that new country. But after a longer stay abroad, you now even feel like a stranger in your home country. As much as many of us like travelling and spending time abroad, there can come a time you feel like settling down. But for people traveling and exploring the world, this can be frightening. Not because of staying in one particular place, but rather, to be confronted with the question: where is my home now ? I believe there’s not a right or wrong way when it comes to settling down or thinking about it. There’s only the way that works for you. And as with all in life, you sometimes have to try what works for you in particular. That can be different for each single one of us. What I’ve found for myself is this. Home is in the heart When you feel good with yourself, no matter where you go, you carry that warmth. You know how to be comfy even if your body temporarily feels uncomfy in the new environment. In the moment I wonder, "Where's my home?" without having a direct answer. I center within myself. I ground myself even deeper. Feeling the energy of a place Secondly, what I feel makes you come closer to the answer to that question is to perceive the energy of a place. Places carry energy too. That’s why some places feel light and others feel heavy. Some feel inspirational; others feel dull. So the atmosphere of an apartment can have a great impact on how you feel. Engage with the surrounding Thirdly, home is what you make out of it. It’s the people that make a place special. If you engage in life, initiate something, or open yourself up, your home takes on a new meaning. Stay where it feels good right now, it doesn't have to be forever Fourthly, it’s good to embrace a place as your home without feeling this has to be your forever place. This takes out the pressure. There can be such pressure of making the right or wrong decisions. Sometimes we’re pulled towards places, and they’re exactly where we need to be or what can teach us valuable lessons. Let your heart choose where it takes you next In times of social media and AI, there’s an increasing amount of loneliness arising. People mingle less. They meet less. There’s less art. While AI can have a lot of benefits for making our lives easier, it’s important not to lose our connection to ourselves. Not to lose the creativity. This is what shapes us. It’s not Alexa answering questions; it’s asking our heart the question: what feels good next? The more heart-aligned we are, the more we feel drawn to places, activities, and people that can give us a sense of belonging. Remind yourself you're a temporary visitor Yet, "Where's home?” sometimes remains almost a mystical question. Because on a deeper level, we’re here on Planet Earth temporarily. It’s not our true home. Some souls originate from other star systems or, in the end, from the ether. The nonphysical. That’s why on some days when I feel confused and ask myself, "Where's home?” I remind myself it’s deep in my heart. I’m reminded that I’m a temporary visitor, and instead of being sad or going into over-doubt, I try to remind myself to make the most out of the moment as long as I’m here. Planet Earth is my temporary home now. There’s something beautiful dissolving underneath. The attachment to a specific culture, identity, or place. You realize you’re neither this nor that. On a larger scale this helps you detach a little more from the strong human role and connect a little more to the soul that isn’t bound to a specific place or identity. Allow yourself to experience different versions of yourself Lastly, I remind myself of why I’m here. To experience different versions and identities of myself. I came here for the experience. And so I don’t have to stay the same all my life. It’s ok to let go of past versions. Even if sometimes it feels easier, sometimes it feels more hurtful. I always imagine how trees go through the same dying process each autumn. They drop their leaves. It made me become aware of how nature is so used to the dying process and letting go of the old. Only we humans sometimes hold on to so many things: old memories, old identities, old structures. Imagine nature would resist change the way a lot of humans do; we wouldn’t even have food. Focus on being more, not just doing more Being home reminds me to focus on being more instead of doing more. What people used to call “fear of missing out," referring to a phenomenon to engage in the latest trend, now has slowly turned into an emerging concept of “the joy of missing out." The question of being home reminds us it’s not always about exciting highs and moments that fill you with immense adrenaline; it can be a calm evening at home filled with nice music and candles knowing you're exactly at the right time at the right place. So if you’re currently also going through a period where you ask yourself, "Where's home?” Allow yourself to access deeper layers of yourself. While the grieving and dying process can be hurtful, most likely this process brings you to new realizations or a shift in the way you do, think, and perceive things. Every time I feel off in a place, I make myself become aware that it’s a perfect moment to anchor deeper. To connect a little deeper to my soul instead of my human identity. One day, this whole life fades in the blink of an eye, and all there is is the memory. So let’s fill it with rich experiences and memories and appreciate that each year has its memories. Did you ever experience déjà vu in another country? Like you felt you had been there before? That’s not random. There can be past life connections. I share more about how traveling made me remember my past lives in various countries. And that can contribute to the fact that you may feel so inspirational in some countries and so dull in other towns. Stay tuned.

Today I want to give you a deeper perspective on the deeper meaning behind diseases and how you can rewire your subconscious mind to kind of heal the root cause of diseases. What's happening these days is that a lot of people, when they are faced with a disease or they get a diagnosis, get into fear and panic. And this is a normal reaction. And what is happening on planet Earth is that a lot of people are treating the symptoms. And they're just looking at one main question: How can I get rid of the disease? And they treat the symptoms, which is not a bad thing, obviously. But a lot of people miss the deeper meaning, what it actually caused. They miss the valuable question: What caused the disease? If you kind of miss the deeper meaning, there are many different things that can happen. There’s a higher likelihood that the disease will return a couple of years later or that you may develop another disease because it can shift to another organ or body part if it is not eliminated subconsciously. Sometimes, you face the consequences of a surgery that left you unhappy, and you're dealing with the consequences if it went wrong or resulted in a lower quality of life. Many people are unhappy with their surgery or treatment. That's why I want to share what I have learned during my journey with diseases, especially for those like me who are seeking deeper answers. A disease is not bad luck. It's basically your body talking to you. Your body is signaling that something is at dis-ease, not at ease. And today I want to show you that from an energetic perspective. We have to understand that everything in this universe works in energy. This is not esoteric, it's physics. Understanding this concept can help you a lot when dealing with diseases. So from my personal understanding, diseases only exist in a certain level of consciousness, on a certain energy vibration. Let's say your reality is a bit like a radio sender or a TV sender. You know, when you switch on the TV, you watch a special movie, or you're presented a reality. It doesn't mean that this is the only reality, the only movie, but you are tuned into the frequency right now. If you don't like what you're seeing, you need to switch the sender to have another experience, let’s say, watch a different movie. Like let's say you want to watch a comedy, which means you want to have more fun in life or you want to experience health. That's why the true healing is not treating the symptoms but the root cause. It’s linked to energy. You need to look at what caused it. And it's usually old patterns. It's something like trauma. It's low energy. It's some inner stuff you haven't processed. And that keeps you in that reality, in that vibration where diseases are possible. If you switch your energy to a higher vibration, let's say you rewire your subconscious mind and you kind of neutralize the trauma and the emotions from within, and you move into a state of joy and following your heart and reconnecting with yourself, well, guess what? Your body or your cells, which are the transmitters for consciousness, adjust to your new vibration, and they can actually kind of recover more quickly. And this is what happens when you sometimes see people who heal overnight, and it seems like a miracle. But in truth, they might have such a deep energetic shift, like something like an identity shift, or where they release something, that suddenly when they release this old pain and trauma, the body kind of recovers so quickly that the symptoms fade. And this phenomenon is the kind of thing I would not even say it's magic; it’s the result of shifting energies within you. Sometimes when you shed old trauma or emotions, it can feel very dark. It's not that you feel good. It can feel like you're moving through hell internally. But that is the true healing or how you can actually really treat the root cause. Because if you treat the root cause, then you might even get the surgery to have that thing removed. It doesn't matter, or at least it doesn't mean you can't get surgery. But if you know the root cause, at least it doesn't come back because it's kind of neutralized. The lesson is learned. Otherwise, if you only treat the symptoms without addressing the underlying energetic patterns that led to your experience, you may still have energetic resonance points, as everything operates on energy. So later, this trauma kind of haunts you like, you know, it's not gone. This is because the subconscious mind works a bit like a computer. If you have some old beliefs, it's just like some old files on a computer. You might not see them. You might forget about these old files. You might not think about the past or go like, "Oh, I have emotional trauma.” That's not how it works. It's not conscious, but it's running in the background, so to speak. And this can cause you to repeat the experience and the lessons. Sometimes you see people that after a couple of months, they have another disease, or let's say they first had problems with their legs, and then they treated the symptoms. And then later they have problems with the heart because the trauma or the deeper meaning was not healed. You know what I mean? That's why it's really important, or what I personally see as a big opportunity for humanity, to look a bit deeper and to go into energetic healing, which doesn't mean you can never make use of school medicine. Of course you can. But to really treat the root cause of the disease, look a bit deeper and become curious about what your body is trying to teach you. Because otherwise, if you just treat the symptoms and then you go back to your old reality, please be aware that your old reality where you are right now brought you to that disease. So obviously you cannot go back in there because you risk having another disease, you know? So you need to change. Remember that example that I mentioned with the radio or the TV? You need to kind of shift the sender. In other words, you need to shift your energy from within so that in the future it might not happen again. And when you do that, you can actually experience the true healing from within. That’s the kind of beauty about it. And also sometimes what's unknown to society, which is kind of kept secret, because obviously some entities have interests that are not in the best interest of society. There are some people on Planet Earth who make a lot of money from surgery, pills, and that kind of stuff. And you know what? Changing your energy from within is free. Like, you have to imagine that it's free. You can do this right here and right now. You can start right here and right now. And you basically, if you know some of the tools, you don't even need someone outside. You don't even need to spend thousands of Euros. You know what I mean? Like, this is why sometimes it's not known to the masses. I’m aware some people are doubting energy work. Some people might say that it's not working and it's all made up. However, it is important to note that science has confirmed that everything in this universe is made up of energy. So it's not even esoteric. It's physics. It's already proved by science. And secondly, people can't see electricity. You can't see electricity. So you can't basically see electricity, which gives you a picture on your TV, but you're not doubting it because you see the image on TV. And that's what I always say. You don't have to believe me or believe anyone. You just try it out. Try changing your energy and observe how your external circumstances actually change. Because that's the only way you can know. Like, a lot of people don't believe it, or some believe it and others don't. But believing is not knowing. How can you truly know if something works for you? You need to try it out and see the results for yourself. And as soon as you have like first successes, you realize, oh, this is kind of interesting. And that's why I always say don't believe in anything like that. Just try it out. If you're currently going through a disease, learn to change your energy from within and just see what happens. This is not a guarantee to heal your disease straight away, although nothing is impossible. When you change your energy from within, you feel and see things differently than when you're in complete fear or just treating the symptoms. And that's a message I wanted to share and just raise some awareness that there are in fact other possibilities.

Have you ever asked yourself the question, why do so many good people turn ill? Maybe you are affected personally, or you know someone who was affected, and you were kind of lost for answers. I spent years trying to understand the subconscious mind and reconnecting with the intuition and was really curious to find out the deeper meaning of life. Today, I want to share some of the things I've come to understand over the years about diseases and what my spirit guides told me about that, and I want to share them with you to invite you to see a disease from a different angle than it is maybe commonly known on Planet Earth. Firstly, what my spirit guides shared with me and what I came to understand is that good people, like us, need to understand that we are more than just our human selves. We are more than just our human selves Many of us here today have spent many lifetimes. We also refer to these as previous lives. And not all previous lives were so good. It doesn't mean we're bad. It's not judgment. But everything comes back. And sometimes a disease is a consequence of past actions or energies that still linger in our subconscious mind. The second point I came to understand, and I was told by my spirit guides: For the soul nothing is good or bad. For example, we as humans might label certain experiences as "good" or "bad." It's usually our mind judging, "Oh, this experience is good and this is bad." But for the soul, there is no good or bad. It's an experience. And a disease is simply a different experience. It's similar to choosing to watch a horror movie instead of a comedy; you wouldn't label the person watching the horror movie as bad. You know what I mean? The person is simply going through a different experience. If you omit the judgment of good and bad, well, guess what? All that remains is an experience. The third thing I came to realize is that being good is an illusion. Being "good" is an illusion Actually, when we refer to "good people," I was also part of that group. Good people are often people pleasers. They are not always themselves. They are not always their true selves. They often play a role. They put on a mask. They smile; even deep down, they might feel miserable. And that's sometimes the consequence of playing good. What is being good in the first place? It's so subjective. To on e person, this is good. To the other person, it's not good; it's impossible to have a general idea of what is good. So the real question is not about good people; it's about being real . And the answer is what the disease can show you, like where you're not real, where you're not your true self. And so the experience can be a very, very big learning lesson for these people. The fourth point I came to understand is this: For the soul, it's not always about what we define as good experiences and happiness. Some people ask, "Oh, why does a higher force allow something bad to happen?" And such moments are when we understand the larger picture that it's just an experience and the soul is here f or the experience and for growth. Sometimes, growth doesn't occur in your comfort zone, especially when you repeatedly engage in the same activities, stick to your habits, or remain in the same job. You know what I mean? It happens when something, when you most likely ignore the signs or you fear change or you're not listening to your heart or whatever it is. And sometimes a disease has to wake you up. It has to shake you. And so the disease can actually become a wake-up call. I f you see it from those perspectives, suddenly you don't say, "Oh, why does that good person have a disease?" Y ou don't just see the human being. You see the soul playing a role. Imagine we play chess. You know, I'm Laura. When I play chess, I choose like to play a character in a chess game. Imagine for the soul, the human is more like a chess game character. It' s a temporary experience you make, and you're here for the experience, for the growth; you're learning something, and you might release some old beliefs, and a disease can help you have new insights, new perspectives, or that person, even if it's such a bad position to be in, they can actually have such a deep realization on a soul level that you say, like, the consequence of moving through that disease can bring them so much growth that when they get out of there, it becomes so beautiful. Now some people might say, "Oh, but if you die," and that's the next point: For the soul, there's no real death. It's somewhat analogous to playing a game; for instance, in chess, your character may be eliminated. But you're still there. You are no longer actively participating in the game, but this does not directly affect who you are on a deeper level. You know what I mean? So most likely the person, this is based on free, if they choose to reincarnate or have a future life, well, guess what? That life most likely is going to be much easier, because they have had realizations right now. Other people may have had similar realizations in their previous lives. And now they have had their realizations, which allows them to approach life with a new perspective and greater understanding of themselves and others. And that helps you understand that from a deeper perspective. It doesn't mean to not have compassion for people who are going through a sickness. I think it's very beautiful to have compassion and offer some help. But this is to understand that on a deeper level, The soul kind of chooses that, or it agrees to the experience of having a disease. It agress to the experience in order to have some deeper realizations, or to grow, to expand, or to release something old. There can be so many different reasons. But it shows that while it might be so hard to lose someone or observe a person suffering tempoarily, however, the consequence of that, the growth they're going through on a soul level can be massive. And that's why they agree to it from my personal understanding because, you know, you have to imagine that souls are eternal. When I speak of soul, I mean, like, it's energy. Energy can't die; it can only transcend. It can only change forms, and energy is eternal, so the human incarnation is just like when you play chess. It's like, "Oh, you spend like an evening playing chess out of a whole lifetime." So for a soul, it's just like a small bit of existence, you know, to have this temporary human experience. And so for the souls who cannot really suffer, t hey can only experience suffering through the human experience or the human being . It's not that hazardous. We perceive "bad" or "good" through our human experience, often through our limited mind. But when we see it through our hearts, we realize it's just a temporary experience. And then we can look at it from a different perspective and realize that The disease is not punishment. It can be a gift in disguise. It can help the person grow. And that can be the toughest thing to understand for the mind who says, "Oh, b ut it's so terrible." But we have to understand. We experience duality here on Planet Earth. We experience light and darkness, health and disease. We experience opposites. And occasionally we move through diseases to really appreciate who we are. We appreciate health, which we maybe take for granted. And you see that on a larger scale, on a soul level, beyond the human existence, duality that does not even exist anymore. So right here, right now, we experience duality, we experience the opposites so we can experience or have different experiences and make us realize a lot of things, such as the value of unity and interconnectedness in our lives. This experience can be profound; it can trigger a deep awakening within you, revealing your true self beyond your human existence. Those perspectives are my personal views based on my current level of understanding. They serve as inspiration only. Take what resonates, leave what doesn't.

I am aware this is a very sensitive topic. Every journey is different so this serves as inspiration only for all who are seeking for deeper answers. This is not a generalisation that applies to all nor a general answer. It serves as inspiration for you to reflect deeper how it may apply to your own life or can help you enhance or even support your healing journey. I channel texts and write intuitive books. What does that mean? My spirit guides give me topics to talk about. I simply write down the topics as they are revealed to me. This week the topic was about diseases. I wrote down 10 points. I felt guided to share those points. In the past I didn’t always feel comfortable sharing the guidance from my intuition, as I am aware that those are highly sensitive topics. But this time I just trust that some of you may be reminded or can get some inspiration from it just like I did. I've also recorded this in a 30-minute session. There's a link to the recording at the end of this article if you prefer listening rather than reading. This is a 30-minute session focused on exploring the deeper meanings of a disease and its true spiritual message that came through. Connecting back to yourself. To your soul blueprint. To who you truly are. That was the key message I perceived in those intuitive messages. Please note my work doesn’t replace any medical treatment or consultation with a doctor. It rather provides insights on the root cause and the emotional as well as subconscious and spiritual messages, which can support your healing journey. As I spent years understanding, learning, and navigating the subconscious mind, I found great healing in it myself, and I'm learning each day. Everything I share comes directly through my intuition. This approach serves as inspiration to look at diseases from a different perspective. When I first did, the way I now deal with diseases has entirely changed. I no longer see them as a curse; I see them as a way to release and expand and explore deeper layers of myself. That’s what I invite you to do as well. Go within yourself and explore yourself and different facets. That is—if you ask me—where the true healing starts. I encourage people to activate their self-healing power from within and give them journal prompts to reflect upon so they can start rewiring their own subconscious minds. So far I have done a lot of self-reflection and journaling on different life categories, challenges, or disbalances that have appeared in my life, which brought me healing, clarity & balance. Here are the 10 deeper meanings The path you‘re currently on doesn‘t make you feel at ease When I say “the path“ doesn‘t mean it‘s wrong. But the thoughts, emotions and patterns don‘t reflect who you are. This is not judgment. This is your body speaking. Your body is signaling something to you. The body signals to you something is not in alignment. So healing a disease is not just treating symptoms. That can be one aspect and obvisouly is part of the healing journey. But what caused it? Either the path you‘re on is no longer exciting you. Or you‘re on a path that excites you but you have old thoughts and emotions that don‘t suit it. The disease teaches you to remember who you are Sometimes a disease reminds us who we are when we forget, especially during times when we get too busy with life and often overwhelmed by stress and struggle. A disease can teach you if you forgot who you truly are: A powerful energetic being co-creating worlds. Imagine yourself as a pure energy being. This is your unique soul blue print. Throughout lifetimes, you may have picked up beliefs, trauma or emotions that are not true. You consider them true. They overshadow your light, your original soul blueprint. Your body mirrors that. A disease can mirror your shadow aspects Sometimes a disease can show us shadow aspects, patterns, trauma and anything old. Things we hide. Things we suppress. Things we wish no one would note. Things we don‘t want to deal with. It can be our own emotions, our own dissatisfaction, our negative thinking patterns, our habits that are long outdated etc. It can sometimes be karmic. Many souls are not here for the first time. This is not punishment. It‘s the energetic law of resonance. Everything you send out you get back. So the clear message is, don't look away. Face your own shadows. Healing a disease can trigger a reality shift = an identity shift It‘s not that you have to become someone new or someone you‘re not, but that you become a little more of who you truly are. This journey can mean different things to different people: Maybe if you have a heavy past and deal with pain and regret, it may mean making a little more peace with the past. Turn regret and pain into wisdom. To others, i t can mean you finally move out of your daily dull routines and do more of what brings you joy. To others, it can mean you finally give up the pattern of being angry at the world all the time and start seeing the beauty that is all around you. If you focus on the ugly, you will find a lot of ugly things. If you focus on the beauty, you will find a lot of beauty. Remind yourself of who you truly are For a moment, close your eyes and focus on your breath: Ask yourself: Who am I beyond my disease, my roles, my identity, my thoughts, my worries, my fears, my doubts? Come back to your awareness and ask yourself: Who do I choose to be right now moving forward? That alone can be healing. Do this exercise for a longer time or repeat it each day and you‘ll be surprised how your perspectives can shift. Expand and don‘t make your worthiness dependent on it See the disease as an experience that makes you realize something, that makes you expand. Even if it‘s uncomfortable, every challenge can teach us valuable lessons. Don‘t identify with the disease in the sense of feeling like a miserable person. See it as a temporary experience. That‘s how you can move forward with more ease. Ask yourself: How does it expand my awareness? E.g. you are here reading or listening to those words. That can already expand your awareness. You become conscious. Even if the outside can feel dark, focus on the inside now. Focus on how you can get out of it as a stronger version of yourself. Focus on what can go well, not what could go wrong Focus on your healing. When you no longer see it as a signal your body gives you, not a curse, you no longer ignore the signal. You note it. You can take action towards it. Now support your body. Focus on what can go right. Focus on the healing and how your body is recovering well. Don‘t focus on all the things that can go wrong. It‘s not helping. The more you focus on what can go right, the more you can shift toward that path. Be gentle with yourself Yes, depending on the disease or its grade, it can evoke fear or other emotions. But it‘s exactly that moment to remind yourself to be gentle with yourself. To practice a little bit more compassion with yourself. Sometimes we‘re so harsh with ourselves. Become aware you shape your reality Become aware that you shape your reality. You see the world through your unique eyes. Sometimes it‘s time to change your perspective. To challenge how you see the world and yourself. Remind yourself what you already know deep down. You shape your reality. What you believe in becomes your reality. Go from “I can‘t“ to “I can“. Go from “It‘s impossible“ to “I believe there‘s a path.“ That doesn‘t mean the journey isn‘t always smooth. But you open the path to possibility. It doesn‘t mean to never have fear. But you no longer let fear rule your reality. Become aware of your interactions Especially during a disease, the interactions with others can be important. Some relationships nourish us, some don‘t. Surround yourself with people who uplift you. Build your own sunshine. Ask people for help if you need to. Ask for support. But remember that some people may also be overwhelmed. They may sometimes not know how to deal with it. So open communication can help. Imagine it would be the other way round. How would you most likely react? This is not a time to blame others for your disease. It‘s more about using it as an opportunity to create harmony within yourself and your relationships and make peace with any person from the past that still lingers in your subconscious mind.

I no longer live for Fridays; instead, I live for Mondays. Many people live for the weekends and holidays. I used to be one of them, not just that, obviously. Yes, occasionally I would treat myself, but often the reality was different. I was too tired to. When I came home from work. I needed to relax. I often didn’t feel in the mood to do something. I would unconsciously postpone tasks to the weekend. Later, I realized how much that behavior drained my life force energy and negatively impacted my quality of life. Today I shifted. I live for Mondays. What does it mean? It was not a radical shift. It was a gradual shift I had to become used to. I started by eating the breakfast I’d usually have on a Friday; I had it on Monday. At first I thought, like, who am I? I almost felt bad for treating myself on a Monday. Something that should be customary, to approach each day as if it is your best, felt uncomfortable to my former self. Then I started dressing like I’d dress on holidays. That doesn’t mean I wore my most extravagant dress. No. But I would wear the earrings; I’d usually think they’re too much for a Monday. But clearly, they’re not. They make me feel positive. Then I started putting on the perfume I’d usually wear on Friday. I remember a friend who once told me she’d have two perfumes. A cheaper one for every day and one for the weekend. While there’s no right or wrong and I completely understand this approach too, I started using the perfume I felt like wearing. Sometimes it was the one I’d usually wear on a Friday. I wore it on a Monday when I felt like it. It doesn’t mean you should force it. But it allows you to shift your identity from low self-worth to your actual worth. You deserve a good life and to treat yourself whenever you want—every day, without needing others' approval or without feeling bad for it. People like me who used to live for the weekend came to a point where life often didn't feel aligned. It can feel like something is missing. And yes, exactly that. Life itself was missing. The vibrancy. The aliveness. Aliveness doesn’t happen when you only allow yourself to be treated on the weekend. Then one day, even on the weekend, you become too tired or simply feel bad for treating yourself. You deserve it though. Since I allowed myself to treat Monday like my Fridays, my life upgraded. And that’s the true lesson I learned. Life just doesn’t happen on holidays. It’s not always the big things, the major life successes that count. It’s the little things in daily life that bring a lot of quality. It’s not always necessarily the big things that change a life; rather, it is often the small, consistent actions and moments that accumulate over time to create significant change. It’s the consistent little things in daily life. It’s a myth to change an entire life overnight. But if you change one habit or an inner attitude today, you’ll be surprised how much this little shift can already change in how you perceive and go through the days. Sometimes the biggest shifts are silent. They seem mundane, but they have a bigger effect than you may imagine. Sometimes the biggest wins are not the ones where people clap, but the silent contentment you feel on a Monday morning with your favorite perfume and your yummy breakfast, thinking it’s a Friday in your holiday. No, it’s Monday. It doesn’t matter what day it is. You deserve it whenever you feel like having it. It’s not because you may have nothing to do, but rather because you choose consciously to take time for that, as you know this will truly upgrade your daily life. Not just one day when you think you have more time to enjoy life; that moment may never come. Of course it doesn’t mean you always have to treat yourself in big ways, but when you feel like it, you unapologetically do. Why? Life is too short to postpone your happiness until Fridays, holidays, or events that may never materialize. You can’t expect sweet moments to come from living life by default day in and day out. You have to create those sweet moments. And if you’re thinking my life feels tough. Then that’s a sign to treat yourself even more.

Sometimes we’re used to shutting down. Not expressing our true feelings often feels safer. Sometimes it comes from old experiences or our own upbringing to keep ourselves contained. Sometimes it even comes from religion or our culture, which makes us believe we always have to be friendly and kind. And ideally, if you’re truly balanced, I believe every person is friendly and kind deep within. However, reality can look different. People and situations can trigger us and truly make us angry. For a long time I used to believe it’s not okay to be angry. I learned to suppress my anger. I learned to process it on my own. I would sometimes smile at the exact person who made me angry and later process it on my own. It’s left me with a lot of internal burden without being aware of it. Until I could no longer bear it. I felt exhausted without knowing why I felt exhausted. I had heavy internal conflicts no one on the outside would ever know I had. It’s a part I kept to myself. On the outside, I may have appeared calm. Deep within me, I was overwhelmed by a storm of anger I could barely process. Until one day, I could no longer bear it. I came to a woman who is a psychic, which means she can read energies, and she highlighted this to me. She said, "Laura, you’re emotionally exhausted. You swallowed so many emotions.“ For the first time I felt so shocked. I wasn’t even aware I was doing it. Until I spotted the pattern of rarely communicating how I rarely felt. Vulnerability can be scary. It’s still something I’m learning or at least improving. Being vulnerable means you express what you truly feel. It’s like an open bonbon that you rather keep wrapped in safe paper. Being vulnerable doesn’t mean to overshare your entire internal world with everyone. It means opening up when you feel it’s too much for you to carry alone. Some people have become so independent. They navigate every emotion, every fear, and every challenge alone. While this can work for a while and a certain internal work comes with your own internal processing, sometimes the burden gets too heavy. Especially when we try to appear strong or calm, deep down, we may sometimes feel insecure, confused, or even lost. I remember when I first started to communicate more of how I truly feel. It was with a mentor I had back then who helped me navigate my energies. After a while, I couldn’t see the results I wished. Instead of swallowing and processing my emotions internally, I expressed it externally. My fears, my concerns, my disappointments. You cannot believe how relieving that was. I allowed myself to communicate how I really felt. You cannot believe what I got from that. It made me learn that you don’t always have to carry your emotions alone. When you feel lost, it’s ok to ask for help or express it. You don’t have to appear to be strong and have it all figured out all the time. Especially when we’re expanding, no matter if personally or in our business, there can be times of confusion right before the next path is revealed. I remember every time I went through a major internal shift, I felt a period of heavy confusion. There’s such a relief in not pretending to be someone you’re not. And if you’re going through a hard time, the easiest way is to connect with others. At times, you may wish to keep to yourself. Other times, the burden feels too much. Then you know what? Don’t hold back. Say it. Even if people don’t reciprocrate your feelings or think you’re dumb, 1) By letting it out, you free yourself from emotional burden. 2) You'd be surprised how people will listen and start relating to you. Now when someone knows how you really feel, they can be more supportive. 3) Emotional breakdowns are nothing to be scared of. They’re part of the human journey. Anger, disappointment, and frustration have taught me more than joy ever has. They become a true barrier if you either stay stuck in those emotional roller coasters or start to act emotionally. 4) The connection deepens through vulnerability. I remember when people would suddenly open up on how they really feel or what they struggle with. Suddenly, you connect to someone on a deeper level. It’s not so much about small talk and talking about the shallow stuff; you get to know someone much better.

I was a people pleaser all my life. I rarely saw my true worth. And I’m still working on it. When I say seeing my true worth, I don’t mean that in an arrogant way. Because deep down, I feel so many people struggle with recognizing their true worth. How does it show up? In patterns. Saying yes when you mean to say no. Compromising at the expense of your joy. Accepting something you usually wouldn’t accept. How does it show up in real life? Saying yes to the job offer that underpays you and doesn’t appreciate the true value you bring by showing up Let me think about it. No. Saying yes to a man who leaves you confused and not wanting anything serious. But he wants to keep the contact with you. No. We fall in love with people’s potential. We think one day they may change. One day they may see my true value in my job. We love to see the potential, not the reality. Right now their behavior doesn’t show it. They underpay us or take advantage of our presence, which means they don’t see our value. Yes, people change. People change their behaviors, but what does it do to you? Imagine staying in a job for 2 years where you constantly have to prove yourself? That feels draining. It’s not flow. Chatting with a man whom you think may one day change his mind and eventually choose you? That feels nerve-wracking. If he isn’t sure about you in the first place. If you’re not his first option, justifying you’re the right one often results in moments of inner despair. I understand. People say, "What if I don’t find another job?" What if I don’t find another partner? I used to think in those terms, too. The truth is that's the fear speaking , not your true inner self, who knows the possibilities are vast. But new possibilities can’t reach us if we’re constantly underselling or acting out of fear. It doesn’t mean to never have fear again. But whenever fear arises, do not allow yourself to be ruled by it. The truth is this: saying no doesn’t mean we stay lonely forever or without a job. The contrary—even if it’s so bloody scary not knowing the next step or opportunity If we say no to the opportunities that don't feel aligned, the right ones can come faster. But in our mind, we love control. The idea of trusting the path is scary. It’s not for the faint-hearted. But that inner trust of not underselling yourself but rather sticking a little longer can open paths to possibilities you never considered possible. It requires more than just waiting for better days. It requires an identity shift. Not to ask, "Will there come another opportunity if I start no to this one??” To “I trust that new offers show up when I say no to this one. When I no longer sell myself under my worth." This is not arrogance. This is protecting your energy and your heart.

Human interactions can be challenging at times, no matter if they are in business, romantic relationships, family, or with strangers. Sometimes there are situations where people trigger, hurt, or disappoint us. We may not feel appreciated or entirely understood with our opinions. And there’s a general, often unconscious pattern that often plays out: Justifying. Fighting. Now we do not feel seen; we start a fight. Not because we want to start a fight, but we want to make our opinion clear. And in certain situations this approach can be the way forward. Honest communication about your feelings can take away misunderstandings. However, there’s a subtle difference when it makes sense to communicate openly and when it’s time for a much more powerful path. The path of moving away silently. There’s a real power in this approach. And this method only makes sense when we feel the relationship no longer makes sense. At times, we outgrow old situations and relationships with people. We feel something no longer matches. We hold on due to familiarity or politeness, or a fear of losing them. But here’s the point. If you don’t feel entirely understood, seen, or appreciated, or if you don’t share the same values and hobbies and feel like your identities have shifted, the question becomes omnipresent: do I want to keep that relationship up for the sake of it? I’m not speaking of running away from rough situations. I’m talking about relationships, encounters, or situations where we repeatedly feel less. In these situations, we often leave feeling unmotivated and drained, time after time. That doesn’t mean the person is bad, but simply their attitudes, communication style, or general preferences may differ. Life changes and so do we. What's behind the power of walking away silently? It happened to me once. I remember it was someone I knew and whose services I occasionally booked. Until my treatment as a customer or mentee felt misaligned. Although I appreciated the person. But with increasing discontent, I stopped justifying my needs. I simply walked away to where I could find someone who would meet my needs. The truth is the more we justify or beg for something, the more energy and time we put into that. And if it’s something where you don’t feel understood, that can take tons of effort. That night something powerful within me shifted almost like a new perspective opened up. If they fail to meet my needs, appreciate my perspective, or are willing to meet me halfway, they don’t deserve my time and energy. I want someone who I resonate with. Suddenly I no longer tried to fight for making something happen, which I had been trying for the past 3 times. I raised my standards of what I’m willing to accept and moved away silently, recognizing that I deserve relationships that align with my values and expectations. For the first time I realized I usually see the potential in people instead of the reality of who they are. If their behavior doesn't match the values or what they promise continuously, why waste time and energy to make it clear to them? The power of walking away silently from relationships that no longer align with the path forward makes you break subconscious cycles. 1) The need to be right: sometimes the desire is so unconscious. We want to be right. And so we justify. Right. Prove that our opinion counts. But it’s useless. When you no longer wish to be right, you make space for the things that feel right for you. And those things come effortlessly. You don’t have to fight for them. 2) There is a need to be seen and accepted. Sometimes we argue or express our opinions because we desire to be acknowledged and valued. We may unconsciously crave someone's validation. But in that moment when you remind yourself to give yourself that validation and see your worth instead of begging for it from another one, something shifts within you. You rise from within. 3) Clinging to old people without reason. The old feels familiar. You know about people and services. Places you know. Situations you know. They all feel familiar. Familiarity means safety. But the familiar events are not necessarily where the growth happens. It’s not really that those familiar partnerships always make you feel good or help you grow. Sometimes misaligned relationships or partnerships of any kind need to fall away so the new ones can appear. And when you have a strange feeling about them, that can be a sign. If you no longer try to attach to the old for the sake of it, you let go. You allow to fall away what needs to fall away. What’s meant for you will stay. And people who were never meant for you can’t stay. If you allow what needs to fall away without attaching, controlling, or forcing anything for its sake, something powerful shifts deep inside. You realize you don’t have to be dependent on anyone. You realize how much you hold on because it’s familiar or you got used to it. That’s the moment when you ask yourself, do I really want to nurture this business or person or relationship anymore? If this person doesn’t meet my needs or no longer aligns with my values, do I really need to put my time, effort, and energy into writing that particular email or having that specific conversation? You breathe in for a moment, and in your mind you close the door behind you, and you just walk away silently. That’s a true power. No energy. No effort. No time. Instead, you trust that the universe will align you with new people, opportunities, and situations that match your values and your new identity. You are no longer in a place where you have to endlessly fight to feel seen. This is not an attack on someone for doing things in a particular way. You allow them to be who they are, and you choose to walk away. That’s how you make space for the new. You no longer move in endless cycles and karmic patterns; you are finally on a path of expansion. That can feel as exciting as it is creepy, as you may have no idea where you’re headed, but trusting in a new door opening can be far more aligned than constantly revisiting the old. You no longer try to change someone else or make them change their minds or attitudes; you choose who you allow to interact with. You upgrade yourself by no longer begging for the things you wish for, which leads to darkness again and again.