Expressing how you really feel can lift the emotional burden
15 April 2026
Why it helps to not always carry everything alone
Sometimes we’re used to shutting down. Not expressing our true feelings often feels safer.
Sometimes it comes from old experiences or our own upbringing to keep ourselves contained.
Sometimes it even comes from religion or our culture, which makes us believe we always have to be friendly and kind.
And ideally, if you’re truly balanced, I believe every person is friendly and kind deep within.
However, reality can look different.
People and situations can trigger us and truly make us angry.
For a long time I used to believe it’s not okay to be angry.
I learned to suppress my anger. I learned to process it on my own.
I would sometimes smile at the exact person who made me angry and later process it on my own.
It’s left me with a lot of internal burden without being aware of it.
Until I could no longer bear it.
I felt exhausted without knowing why I felt exhausted.
I had heavy internal conflicts no one on the outside would ever know I had.
It’s a part I kept to myself.
On the outside, I may have appeared calm.
Deep within me, I was overwhelmed by a storm of anger I could barely process.
Until one day, I could no longer bear it.
I came to a woman who is a psychic, which means she can read energies, and she highlighted this to me.
She said, "Laura, you’re emotionally exhausted. You swallowed so many emotions.“
For the first time I felt so shocked. I wasn’t even aware I was doing it.
Until I spotted the pattern of rarely communicating how I rarely felt.
Vulnerability can be scary. It’s still something I’m learning or at least improving.
Being vulnerable means you express what you truly feel.
It’s like an open bonbon that you rather keep wrapped in safe paper.
Being vulnerable doesn’t mean to overshare your entire internal world with everyone.
It means opening up when you feel it’s too much for you to carry alone.
Some people have become so independent.
They navigate every emotion, every fear, and every challenge alone.
While this can work for a while and a certain internal work comes with your own internal processing, sometimes the burden gets too heavy. Especially when we try to appear strong or calm, deep down, we may sometimes feel insecure, confused, or even lost.
I remember when I first started to communicate more of how I truly feel.
It was with a mentor I had back then who helped me navigate my energies.
After a while, I couldn’t see the results I wished.
Instead of swallowing and processing my emotions internally,
I expressed it externally.
My fears, my concerns, my disappointments.
You cannot believe how relieving that was.
I allowed myself to communicate how I really felt.
You cannot believe what I got from that.
It made me learn that you don’t always have to carry your emotions alone.
When you feel lost, it’s ok to ask for help or express it. You don’t have to appear to be strong and have it all figured out all the time.
Especially when we’re expanding, no matter if personally or in our business, there can be times of confusion right before the next path is revealed.
I remember every time I went through a major internal shift, I felt a period of heavy confusion.
There’s such a relief in not pretending to be someone you’re not.
And if you’re going through a hard time, the easiest way is to connect with others.
At times, you may wish to keep to yourself.
Other times, the burden feels too much. Then you know what? Don’t hold back.
Say it.
Even if people don’t reciprocrate your feelings or think you’re dumb,
1) By letting it out, you free yourself from emotional burden.
2) You'd be surprised how people will listen and start relating to you. Now when someone knows how you really feel, they can be more supportive.
3) Emotional breakdowns are nothing to be scared of. They’re part of the human journey. Anger, disappointment, and frustration have taught me more than joy ever has. They become a true barrier if you either stay stuck in those emotional roller coasters or start to act emotionally.
4) The connection deepens through vulnerability. I remember when people would suddenly open up on how they really feel or what they struggle with. Suddenly, you connect to someone on a deeper level. It’s not so much about small talk and talking about the shallow stuff; you get to know someone much better.
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