Trust yourself and follow your intuition to manifest what you love
Laura Becker • 14 April 2024
Trusting ourselves will lead us to our best life and accelerate the manifestation of our desires
It is really important to trust yourself.
Too often we are at a crossroad of taking an important decision in life and we are divided between two options. You may know that situation. You may have that inner feeling that something is off. Or that little voice telling you to do something. But then soon after the fear, doubt and worry kicks in.
Others may not agree or may even consider you crazy and you soon find yourself following your rationale mind.
Too often, we have one issue in common: We are often scared of failure, judgement or criticism. And it can be completely unconscious.
But following against our own true authentic self comes with certain consequences. We are much more likely to feel stressed, drained or dissatisfied. Because we are doing something against our feeling.
Our soul communicates through our feeling. And our soul can lead us to our highest path. A path where we thrive. Where we live our full potential. Where we can live a life of joy and abundance. Because that is our true essence.
By following the rationale mind, we often take decisions that are not always for our highest good. There is no good or bad decisions per se, it is all an experience, but some experiences may come with far greater pain and learning lessons.
Because there is some form of self-denial and lack of authenticity. And the truth is this. When we cannot trust ourselves, who else can we really trust? Even if we ask others for their opinions, there will always be a certain uncertainty after a while.
So how can we trust ourselves more?
- Tune into our feelings more often throughout the day. What do I feel like doing now?
- Get aware of moments we have that inner feeling but do not follow it. Why do we not follow it?
- Start taking action based on your feeling with little things in daily life. Give it a try.
It is all about practising.
The more we trust ourselves, the more we are guided towards decisions, people and situations that really suit us. Because it is aligned with who we are deep inside.
Maybe you’ve experienced it yourself. As a kid, you’re told to behave. What shall others think of you? In your teenage years, you’re supposed to choose a good job. You got to look good on the outside, right? By your 30s, you're supposed to have 2 kids, a dog, and a house. That’s often portrayed as the ideal family image. Or it's simply your mother's dream for you or what society expects you to do. Otherwise, people frequently ask, What's wrong with her/him? But what about your deep inner heart's desires? It’s reached a level where many people are just busy living up to other people’s expectations and fitting into an ideal image. Society is suggesting to us, “This makes you happy. The truth I came to understand is that there is no general satisfaction recipe, even if society wants you to believe it. Now let’s look a bit deeper. Why are we often so concerned about fitting into society, trying to fulfill certain expectations? One of the reasons could be because we’re social animals. We’re social creatures. Most of us fear being excluded. We fear being ridiculed. We fear being treated like an outsider. It’s not actually that we are an outsider or that we are a failure. It’s rather the feeling or the odd looks people may give us. It’s a feeling that can leave you feeling like you’re not okay. We’re not fearing the condition as much as we’re scared of the feeling. Let’s say you’ve failed. Well, the condition is not ideal, but the feeling it leaves you with. The feeling of feeling like a failure, for example. But let’s put things into perspective. In the old days, many people didn’t have much choice. They more or less had to behave. They had to do things like they were told to do. Yet, what about our inner desires and dreams? What do we intend to do with our lives in terms of career, family, etc.? For example, in your 20s or 30s, many people may assume you will start a family. There can be nagging questions from others that can make you believe that you need a child now. But deep in your heart, you don’t really feel like having a child. What happens? You’re making society proud or your mother proud, but deep down within you something doesn’t feel right. And of course, there might be highs. There might be moments of pure joy and so people tell themselves to not make such a big fuss out of it, but what many don’t realize is there’s an increasing void deep within, often very much silenced in the background. Why? Because deep down you’re not living your own deepest dreams, you’re adhering to society's standards, living to someone else’s happiness formula, or trying to fit in or even pretending to look happy. There is such a strive for happiness in this society that most feel disappointed when they just can’t feel happy. Now, what does happiness truly mean? It’s individual. For some, it’s a dream to have 2 kids and a dog. For others, this idea alone would sound like a pure nightmare. They love the freedom. For some, it’s a dream to live in a cottage in Norway far away from the crowds. For others, this idea alone would scare them. They love the big city life of New York. For some, it’s a dream to make progress in their career in the corporate world. For others, this idea alone would be a nightmare. They enjoy their creativity and their freedom to work whenever they want. And you know what? It’s all okay. There is no right or wrong. It’s a preference. However, the challenging part? We often judge and are judged for our choices. You don't have to live up to anyone's standards or expectations. And why? There isn’t a one-size-fits-all happiness formula. This is a trap. I call it the trap of fitting into society. You’re not here to fit into society. But… you’re not here to fit into society. You’re here to discover more of your true self. Be more of who you truly are, not who someone else expects you to be. If you currently feel you’re out of place or you don’t fit into society’s image or expectation, don’t worry. Most people who might not agree with you or give you odd looks are often trapped in their limitations. It's often not because they are bad, but rather because they don’t know it any other way. For them, that’s how you shall live life. Often, there is a general assumption to get a job, get married, and get kids. But the rising number of cases of depression, burnout, and fatigue is alarming. The reasons might stem from something deeper that we may have often ignored. There's often the constant need to fit into society instead of being yourself. And then there may be your insecurities. E.g., if you choose or don’t feel like having children, will you regret that decision one day? What if you’re alone when you’re old? If you go self-employed, will it all work out? If you dare to move to a different apartment that doesn’t excite you, will you be happy in the new one and find new friends? Those are all valid reasons to consider. No one else can decide that for you. However, this is your life. You should live it to your expectations. All that matters is what you feel like doing. It's not important what another one thinks is best for you. And in society we see the consequences of that. Being in a job that another one expects you to be in can more and more result in burn out or depression than doing something you truly love. We’re observing more and more “difficult children.” At least that was what I heard from several teachers. Children have changed. And let’s be honest. If parents don’t have time to care for them or feed them healthy food, how shall they develop well? When we don’t take the devotion to care for their mental and emotional development, how shall children learn it? Many young people don’t always have the mental and emotional clarity to navigate the daily challenges with ease. I mean, it’s tough, so how shall they even teach someone else about it? Yet, there is no right or wrong. It’s simply an observation. Then there's guilt, regret, and all sorts of emotions, which often come down to one main root cause. Many people don't live up to their expectations. They don't allow themselves to live their dreams or on their terms. It’s so subconscious that you often might not even realize it at first. Yet, it can one day have an impact on your satisfaction levels. You could say, in the early days, people lived like that, too? Yes, totally. But times are changing. There is a different kind of life today. We’re faced with different challenges. And so we can dare to change. We can dare to re-evaluate some of our choices, and each time we’re about to make a decision, we can ask ourselves the simple, yet tough question: Is this my dream? Is this what I really want deep in my heart, or did I pick up that dream, expectation, or desire from society? It can prevent you from a lot of heartbreak. It can hinder you from feeling drained and empty later in life. The more you live in alignment with who you are, the more balance you will most likely experience. Balance is not necessarily when outside conditions are perfect, but when you feel at ease with who you are. And the belief a child could make you happy, or a new job could increase your satisfaction, often leaves many people drained along the way. Happiness means you feel aligned to yourself. Happiness is an internal state of being that has nothing to do with someone else to start with. Believing something on the outside can make you happy often leaves us trapped years later when we realize, “Shit, why do we still not feel happy? Why does happiness not last?” And then we have to become aware that this life is not just about happiness. It’s about growth. Every challenge shapes us. They bring out the best and sometimes the worst in us, which both speak for growth. It’s often our judgment that makes it challenging. So that’s a reminder to connect with yourself more. And most importantly, let’s not judge other people so much. Let each person choose for themselves. We are only ever responsible for our lives, not for the life of another. That’s their business. And for the ones who feel they don’t fit in, don’t worry. There is nothing wrong with you. You are always in the right place at the right time. Dare to live on your terms. That’s the biggest gift you can give yourself and the world, even if others won’t agree with you. They don’t have to. You have to agree with yourself because there can be nothing more dissatisfying deep down than living to another one’s expectation or dreams. There can be nothing more courageous and satisfying in this society than daring to live on your terms.
It’s not hard per se. But what makes it challenging is how many limitations in any shape or form often arise in your journey. How many crossroads you come across, How often, just when you think you’ve figured something out, does a new portal, like a new door or sometimes a new dimension, open up, and it feels like you know nothing so far? Yet, it all serves a greater purpose. I call it the game of life. Because in the end it’s a game. Even the state of ‘forgetfulness’ is a game. Even the state of ‘frustration’ is a game. And yet, it appears real. While you play chess, you could say it’s a game, but while you play, the game is real. So it is with life. And so here are a couple of reasons why the spiritual journey often feels lonely. In my perspective, souls choose to have an individualized experience to experience greater levels of who they are. They know they are one all together, but they experience the idea of separation to really know what oneness feels like. They choose an individualized experience to have different energy experiences to learn, remember, grow, and evolve. In other words, they embark on the game voluntarily, and they forget voluntarily. It’s part of their mission. Now when w e embark on a deep level of forgetfulness, there comes a time we shed layer for layer to erase that, which brings confusion. Not necessarily to the soul who knows how to navigate this, but to the human mind. It’s completely new. The mind has no idea what’s going on. And we often react with confusion, worry, and even fear. This is a normal process, but there comes a time when we’re so deeply frustrated we look out for help. Which is quite normal, and getting a spiritual mentor can help navigate the ups and downs. It can help the process of remembrance more and more. However, sometimes we call out for help out of desperation. We may sometimes think no one out there gets us. And this is just a reminder that you’re always your own healer, teacher, and consoler. You came here with a mission. To forget and to remember again. You came here as an individualized soul that is so powerful it can transcend universes. Your own universe. So never underestimate your own power. Never give your power away. Never think another one, even a master, is more powerful than you. Because they are not. And that’s what they kept teaching us. "What I can do, you can do and more," one of them was supposed to say. So if you’re going through a phase that feels lonely and dark, remember it’s just your own distortions. You are always connected. Always held. Always one with all that is. When you’re lonely, sometimes the best thing to do is ask your spirit guides and call for help. Those beings are there for you; they are with you in each moment. They can assist you in ways that sometimes an external mentor can’t help you. Not because mentors are bad. But we all go through our own individual journey, and this earth and human life can sometimes bring certain limitations and challenges for many of us. Not that the earth is limited, but most of us are all growing. That’s what I do. I connect internally. That’s what I call 'intuition.' The benefit? There’s no jealousy, no comparison, no shame, and no challenge too big. They’re your biggest supporters. And best of all, their help is for free. Light beings don’t even expect money or a thank you. Their guidance is so accurate that it blows your mind. Their love is so overwhelming that it purifies your heart. Their support is so almighty that it leaves your mind eventually calmed down. It’s nourishing. Nurturing. Loving. These beings are just waiting for you to connect with them. They don’t intervene. Why? Because there’s free will. And they respect your free will. Imagine we play chess. You play a character, and you feel miserable. Your mother or sister wouldn’t intervene in the game unless you asked her. Then she can have a look and go like, “Turn right.” Not from a place of desperation or that you can make mistakes. But as a recommendation on how to navigate this game with more ease. Someone with a broad perspective can see things with more objectivity. And that’s what you can do too when you feel lonely and dark. See your life like a game. With more objectivity. Observe your character called human. And then choose anew how you wish to continue. With fear or with love? With shame or with confidence? With gratitude or with hate? That’s a choice no one can take away from you. Because you play. Not because you have to but because you choose to. And if some days feel dark and frustrating, it can be part of human life. Because let’s be honest. Imagine we all had it figured out in a game after one round; what would be the sense of playing? It would be boring. So your limitations keep up the game in a way. And when you’re tired, you can give up further limitations. Step by step. Then it will feel more like someone taking off the eye blinders. You wake up more and more to your true nature that you are: an unlimited divine being in a temporary human experience. That’s what I want to help people with. Not tell them what to do, but help them reconnect with themselves, with their own intuition, remember a bit deeper what this life is all about, and activate your own self-healing or teaching powers.
Have you noticed how fast this time runs? How fast a week passes by. How fast a month passes by. How fast a year passes by. There’s a famous saying that goes “The days are long but the years are short.” It makes me become melancholic. Melancholic enough to re-evaluate what I focus my energy on and my time with. Melancholic enough to be more selective. Too often, we simply live day by day unconsciously. We get up, go to work, go home, eat, and go to bed. A lot are repeating this pattern day by day. There is nothing wrong with it as long as it makes you feel good. But more and more people realize that this feels more like a hamster wheel. A hamster wheel of habit, boredom and sometimes fatigue. There’s a longing. A longing for more freedom. A longing to spend time with what we really love. Again, there’s often the next question people ask themselves. “What do I really love?” A lot of people were conditioned to believe they have to choose a stable job in an office. A lot of people were conditioned to believe they have to adapt and behave. A lot of people were conditioned to believe they are limited. But is this really true or is this merely a belief? Anyway, as I’m sitting here in Bali, enjoying a moment by the beach and trying to slow down, I realize even more how precious this moment is. To just be here. To just sit. To just have a quiet moment with yourself. Not having to do anything. Not having to achieve anything. Not having to prove anything. Not having to acquire anything. Just be in this moment. And I realize it’s enough. We sometimes make life incredibly complicated. We overcomplicate things. We overanalyze. W overthink. It brings us out of the natural flow. In this world that is full of stimulation, competition and trying to overachieve, it’s paramount to slow down. To evaluate what is really important. To ask ourselves: Is this really me? Because this life is not forever. One day we may be full of regret having spent years with overanalysing, overthinking or even competing. Here in this quiet moment I realize, there’s nothing to analyze. Nothing to think about. Nothing to compete with. When you observe the ocean, you can learn a lot from the waves. The waves just go with the flow. They rise and they fall so naturally they don’t even have to think or try hard. Nor compete with other waves. They are simply an expression of the ocean. Not more and not less. They are not separate from the other waves, merely a different expression. One wave is not better than the other, as in the end, they’re all just water. Could it be the same for us humans? In the end, we’re all just energy. Having a human experience. Spending moment by moment which someone once called time. What is time anyway? Some argue time doesn’t even exist. Who knows. May each one define time in their own way. The most important question, however, is, what do you spend your time on?
This world makes you believe it’s not ok not to be ok. It makes you believe you always have to try and be positive and happy. And yes, of course, positive thoughts create positive outcomes. However, sometimes it’s ok not to be ok. It’s ok to feel unwell. It’s ok to feel sad. It’s ok to feel angry. This is part of the human experience. Allow yourself to experience the human life in its full spectrum without judging the highs nor the lows. The more we embrace all of this, the more we ride the different waves with more ease. Especially today, more and more people are interested in personal development, mindset and spirituality, yet there’s an increasing misconception. Spirituality doesn’t mean you have to feel happy all the time. It means embracing your shadows as well. As the word implies, shadows often bring deep emotions to the surface. Emotions we usually don’t want to deal with. Topics we usually don’t want to look at. However, those uncomfortable emotions and topics are part of our growth. That’s why next time you feel bad for feeling bad, don’t. Allow it. Know there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s part of the human experience and the growth process. There’s an even greater benefit to it. Just like after the rain, the air is so much fresher. The grass is so much greener. The same applies to our life. After a low, it feels so much lighter. So much fresher. Our mind is so much clearer. But only when we dare to feel it all instead of escaping or hiding our true feelings while trying to pretend to feel happy all the time. If you try to feel happy while suppressing your true feelings, you remain on the surface level. The more growth and potential we want to activate, the deeper we have to heal and feel. Sometimes before we can see the sun, we’ll have to move through the rain. Just like when you’re on an airplane. Sounds a little cliché, but it's so true. So remember. It’s ok not to feel ok at times.
As the days and years pass, I realize social media has made me more anti-social. I remember the times I used to pick up the phone and call a friend with no phones or apps available. It felt more carefree. We played. We had fun. We told each other secrets. We had no need to show it to the world or prove ourselves to others. Today, each moment is recorded. People smile for the camera. Often for a platform that has made us become more lonely and anti-social as a society than ever before. We suffer from our own loneliness and the constant need for attention and self-approval. Yet, in the old tribes, people lived in communities. Even the old people today still gather in some pubs and play cards. It’s necessary for our well-being. And here I am, reflecting “Heck, who have I become? What are my values?” And I notice now being in my 30s (and I'm sure it doesn't even matter what age you are) it’s considered quite weird to connect. People have family, are married or everyone kind of feels more stressed about their days. All while at the same time you see each day how people upload images on social media pretending to lead the perfect life’s putting a mask on or portraying just their best moment of the week, or putting a smile on just for the camera to get attention, not as a reflection of their true inner self. It’s the connection and authenticity that truly matter though. The moments and days where you long to spend them with like-minded people in real life, not watching their perfect and well-crafted stories on social media. It’s not necessarily about dating and flirting either. Heck, with the years, priorities shift and what used to be fun is no longer as fun. You crave for something more meaningful. Something more real, rather than superficial. Someone who’s at the same wavelength as you are, accepting you for who you truly are beyond the money, status, attention and the perfect life that social media often portrays. And so over the past few weeks, I noticed it’s in my hands. So I went to the forest and after a long time I truly connected with Mother Earth again. I felt, I sensed, I observed. I didn’t even feel the need to take an image. I left my phone in my car to engage with life. To be fully present. And after a while, the energy came back. I felt more alive. I felt calmer. I felt more balanced. After a simple visit in the forest without a phone. Nature spirits are great companions, too. Many of us would think only humans are the “real deal” and those are "just trees" but nature spirits carry so much wisdom. They survived storms, experienced wars in some areas of the world and still stand there deeply rooted within themselves. They don’t move or travel as us humans do and yet they are alive. That’s when you get to know the real world. Not on social media but when you finally choose to engage with life again. And so here I am today, taking my dog out for a walk leaving the phone in my car. How freeing not to hold or look at my phone all the time. You start to move differently. Observe differently. You get more attentive. Give it a try if you feel the pull, just for one day or one activity.
When I went through a so called spiritual awakening (although I believe there is not just one, as it's an ongoing process), I first had many misconceptions about spirituality. In this article, I want to summarize the main misconceptions and beliefs from my personal view. Spirituality doesn't mean anything concrete, it depends on what you make out of it and what it means for you. Having misconceptions about spirituality can hinder you from activating your inner gifts and step into your full potential. Sometimes it can even hold us back from manifesting. So gaining clarification helped me accelerate my inner growth journey. Those points are not a generalization but are intended to serve as a source of inspiration only based on my personal experiences. 1) Spirituality doesn’t mean you have to do Reiki and yoga unless that’s your preference. When I started out I thought I had to do Reiki or yoga. I forced myself into Yoga classes. Ironically, I was a very inflexible person, often leaving me more stressed after the yoga session than before. Those position names alone were far too complicated for me to remember. The downward dog, the fighter… all I knew so far was the little and big spoon - jokes aside! What I'm saying is, it's more than doing a pose. It's about exploring who you are. 2) Spirituality doesn’t necessarily mean you have to go to an ashram or travel to a sacred site or land. It doesn’t mean you have to do something special. Spirituality means you embody more of your spirit. In other words, you are more of your true self. That can be applied in daily life. Sometimes people escape on a retreat in a foreign country only to return and fall back into their old reality. There has to be a balance. There is no escape possible. You need to face your current reality. 3) Spirituality doesn’t necessarily mean you have to wear special pants or be vegan. Obviously the more you release, the less you actually need. And the more you usually have a preference for healthy food. But it’s not forced or a prerequisite, it’s a natural feeling. A natural pull to feel drawn towards healthy food, not like “I need to be vegan now in order to be spiritual.” Trust me, I’ve observed people who really struggled with this because they trust another one more than themselves. I remember one day when I felt very ungrounded, my intuition told me to eat a fish. I was shocked, but that was the moment I realized you need to eat the food you feel drawn towards, not what a “spiritual guru" or "teacher” tells you to do. 4) Spirituality doesn’t necessarily mean you have to channel Archangel Michael or ET’s. It means embodying more of who you truly are. If you don’t know yourself or your own soul, how shall you even make friends with other beings? Of course they always support you, but if you focus on yourself, you’ll eventually meet other beings quite naturally without forcing the connection. Too often, people channel their eg o, not Archangel Michael, especially when channeling is based on expectation. 5) Spirituality is not limited to being clairvoyant. I used to admire channelers who could see a lot. All I could see at the beginning was black. I thought I wasn’t spiritual enough. Then I discovered my own gifts, or at least my own ways of how to perceive my intuition. Even at the beginning of my journey, I couldn’t see images, it was more of a feeling. A voice. And I noticed that it's as beautiful. Never compare your gifts. Later, you can discover and activate more inner gifts. 6) Spirituality doesn’t mean you have to say yes to everyone and always be kind and loveable. Honestly, if you feel like telling the other one he’s an arsehole, then do it. It can be healing to be your true self. It’s not about being good. It’s about being real in the moment. And no, I’m not advocating acting like an arsehole, but if you always try to be nice and good, you’re most likely acting out of your limiting patterns, also known as a people pleaser. You're most likely not your true self when you say yes to everyone and everything even if it doesn't feel aligned. 7) Spirituality doesn’t mean you have to meditate all day long unless you want to. I sometimes don’t meditate a lot throughout my day, but I know how to shift my energy. On other days, I keep a meditative practice for hours. So you see, it depends on you, your mood and your energy levels. In other words, you can still have a "regular" or worldly life. 8) You don’t necessarily have to give up your material life and run around naked nor live in the bush. ...unless that’s your preference. Spirituality and a material life can go hand in hand. How and why? You’re here to remember more of who you are and you’re more than welcome to create the life you desire. That means you create things you like or that support you. There’s nothing wrong with it. A mobile phone is as spiritual as a pen and as a yoga course. Everything is spiritual. Everything started with a thought, a vision and is created with your life force energy. You most likely may opt for a more sustainable life, caring for other humans, animals and nature too, but it doesn’t mean you have to give up your material life just to be "more spriritual". 9) Spirituality doesn’t mean you’ll never have challenges again. In my experience, I have more challenges than ever before. But the challenges are of a different quality. It’s not the challenge of fighting with a client or co-worker over a useless topic. It’s rather about overcoming a fear or limitation. Why is it often so hard? Because you can no longer blame another one. You realize it’s you. Your limitation. You have to take over responsibility for that. But you know, if you overcome that challenge, it will take you to the next level of growth which, quite frankly, is a beautiful process. 10) Spirituality is not all about love and light. Some people make you believe it’s all about love and light. Erm, no. It’s about balancing polarity. There is light and darkness. If you always claim to be light, you may provoke the darkness to feel attacked and experience it a lot stronger, wondering why you can’t make your life work. 11) Spirituality doesn’t mean you have to have complicated healing methods. Yes, sometimes, if there are addictive patterns or any deep limitations, we may have to dive deeper, but if I’m honest based on my personal experiences: Sometimes all it takes is a clear decision. You can choose how you wish to feel in the next moment and what you wish to do or which action you would take without practicing a difficult healing technique. It’s about awareness. 12) Spirituality doesn’t mean you have it all figured out, or you’ll never get ill again, or you have all the answers. No. It’s a continuous journey of self-exploration. There are no real limits, so there aren’t limits to our consciousness levels. We can always expand. Sometimes it can happen that you have new realizations that override your previous way of seeing the world. 13) Spirituality doesn’t mean we all have the same answers and experiences. I used to believe that there is just one answer until I realised there isn’t. There are so many perspectives. What truly counts is your own experience, not that of another one. Imagine someone living in Pakistan would say something different about Planet Earth than someone living in the Maldives or someone living in Germany. Our experiences are different, and so are opinions and truths. There isn’t one truth. There are many facets. In the end, it’s not about leaving old concepts and putting yourself in a new box. It’s about being more of who you truly are in each moment, being the best or most joyful self that you can be. Not how someone else expects you to be. 14) Spirituality doesn't mean you have to take over another one's truths or beliefs No. It means you allow yourself to explore your own truth. That's why true spirituality cannot only be taught. Teachings for me have always served as a source of inspiration and orientation, like someone guiding you towards a certain direction, but it has to be explored and practiced. You can end up having your own truth or beliefs even if those differ from other people. 15)Spirituality doens't mean you're better or worse than anyone else It's more like a radio. It's a different experience. You're simply taking a different route. Not better or not worse than anyone else. Does some of the points resonate with you? What does spirituality mean to you and what doesn't?
I remember the day when my intuition told me that I was quitting my job soon. They told me another path was waiting and I'm not going back to the corporate world. I was shocked. Could I trust that voice? I had always been intuitive, but that was a whole new level. It was about my job, my security (I thought back then). It's not just trusting your feeling about something. It can be fairly easy to trust your intuition when it comes to "minor" things, but when it comes to "big life decisions," it's a whole different level. I had studied for several years. I I thought my path was in the corporate world until they told me again. Nope. And the oddest thing was when I ignored that sign and started looking for a new job, nothing felt aligned. Nothing truly excited me. It always felt like compromising. Safe to say I made a lot of mistakes at the beginning. But all those turned into valuable learning lessons. However, I ended up finding my passion. Something that truly lit me up. It was writing! I never thought I could ever turn my hobby into a business. I never thought I could have fun while working. I never thought I could look forward to Mondays. And no, not everything is perfect. I went through massive challenges, but they all felt worth it. It's not the same challenges as back in the corporate world, where you're arguing over a useless topic. It's rather about embracing my challenges and about my inner fears, limitations and subconscious beliefs I didn't even know were within myself. Those were the challenges I was suddenly confronted with for the first time in my life. I had no idea how to approach them. I just felt like, "Omg, I can't do it." Until I learned about energy, my intuition and my internal world. I wish someone had given me a roadmap. Almost like a step-by-step guide to know what to pay attention to. Just like a pilot getting a rough idea on how to fly. It doesn't mean you can fly straight away, but if you know the theory, the practical part is a lot easier. If you don't know the theory, you're lost in the dark! I mean, basically you could fly anyway, but with a roadmap it's so much easier. You know roughly what to expect or what to pay attention to. And that's dear to my heart - to pass on what I learned and failed at in 3 years so that you can have a much smoother start if you feel like your life is shifting, too. If you feel the same soul nudge or intuitive feeling that tells you another path is waiting for you but you're unsure how to shift or what to do next. It doesn't mean you have to change your life straight away. It doesn't mean you have to leave your relationships or quit your job just yet, no! There are many approaches, but in the end, it comes down to this: understanding yourself, your passion, how much you can trust yourself, what's going on in your internal world, and your energetic state. That determines what you're going to experience. What makes my work different? I show you a step-by-step guide on what to pay attention to. You can apply it to any life circumstance, no matter where you are, if you're just starting out or already in the process. This approach works for any situation. I still use it to shift into new versions of myself and accomplish new dreams. Because in the end it's the same principle. It's a bit like driving a car or listening to the radio. Once you know, "Oh, that's a dead road," you know to turn quickly instead of driving against the wall for years. Or the same with a radio. You know how to switch the frequency in no time, like, "Oh boom, I don't like this song. I change the frequency to get another song." That's what you can do. You know how to shift your reality, your energy, and as a result, your life! Isn't that cool? You are no longer a victim to outer circumstances; you become your own co-creator. You create your own realities. And if you find yourself in a difficult situation, you know how to switch it rather than staying stuck with it. The truth about life is this: We don't always get what we imagined, but we always get what we're an energetic match to. And if we don't like something, instead of condemning it, we can go like, "Oh something made me magnetize it, but now I will switch it. I no longer choose it." It's the same principle. So instead of thinking of "red roses" all the time, which doesn't exist. Life is not just about happy moments. Life is about embracing everything. Navigating through the highs and lows. Without giving too much attention to either one. We become like a surfer that enjoys the ride. That flows with the wave, and as soon as we learn to flow with the wave, rather than being overwhelmed by it, we learn to enjoy the process. We know that both the ups and the lows teach us a lot! I've learned to never condemn the lows or the challenges, for they teach me a lot! The highs could never teach me that. But if you know how to navigate and shift it, imagine how much you can grow. How much you can go for your wildest dreams because no challenge can hold you back. Because with each challenge you grow and you become one step closer to who you truly are, to your dreams, and to your wildest inner soul desires. You are suddenly living a reality that's far greater than you initially thought it could be when you were first scared to quit your 9-5 or your old job in the first place. Suddenly you become grateful you had enough courage to listen to that quiet feeling. Even if other people considered you crazy. Or your own mind considered you crazy. And then you suddenly know. You just know that you know. That all has a deeper purpose even if you can barely grasp it at the beginning. And so, I ask you. Are you ready? Are you courageous? Let me be honest. There are people out there who don't want to change. And that's okay. Everyone moves at their individual pace. There is free will. But I tell you honestly. There's a famous sentence that goes, "Life begins outside of your comfort zone." At the beginning, when I used to hear that phrase, I used to roll my eyes. But now, 3 years forward, I can honestly say it's true. It holds a certain truth. It doesn't mean you have to bungee jump or do some crazy shit. No. It's not about crazy or dangerous. It's rather about having the courage to do things differently. To approach them differently. To have the courage to go for that idea or passion even if you have no idea where it will take you yet. But that's what life is all about, isn't it? Do you really think life was supposed to be struggling, staying in a dull job each day, and just getting by? I don't think so. Life is what you make out of it. It's a choice. So all I can say from my own journey is this: Choose wisely. 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In a world full of doingness, we often forget one thing: To be. But it’s the silence that brings us clarity, solutions and inspiration. However, a lot of people have a hard time sitting in silence. In a world, that’s so full of doingness, we forget to be. I remember one day, I came across a woman who had an injury on her leg. It meant to put up the leg for 2 weeks. She was angry. She was on holiday. She was used to doing a lot. She had a lot of plans. Just the thought of lying and resting felt dreadful. That made me reflect. It made me reflect on how much we are focused on doing, instead of just being. So some people may have a hard time with just being with themselves, taking a day off, and just sitting there and being still. I tried it out one afternoon to sit still. I was inspired by Sadhguru. He once shared that precious exercise of just sitting there in stillness without your phone and observing your thoughts and emotions for a day. He added, ‘You have to become aware of your own madness.” While that sounds harsh, it’s true. Sometimes we suffer from our own thoughts and emotions. Our mind constantly sends us from one place to the next, from one activity to the next, so that something as natural as resting feels hard. And why? Because when you start to sit in stillness, your mind most likely will give you a thousand reasons why you can’t. Or why that neighbor is terrible, or why your boss was in a bad mood. Or why Gina broke up with her husband. Or why you can’t achieve your dreams yet. There are a thousand thoughts and more often than we think, not always thoughts that serve us. And yet it’s those thoughts that co-create our reality. What you think about, you become. One day, I made an interesting observation. I had worked a lot for my business, and I still thought I hadn’t done enough. Only when a woman told me, “You’re exhausted. Take a break.” I realized what a distorted way of looking at things I had. In my perception, I hadn’t even worked or accomplished enough, whereas she felt I had worked too much. You see how sometimes we can’t really see things about ourselves? That’s why I truly believe it’s precious to have other people around. They can observe and tell us things from their perspective that we may not be able to see. And so I would just sit there and allow my thoughts to run wild. I had to practice that for days to just sit still. It’s become one of my favorite exercises. You see, even in some spiritual communities they make you believe you have to do a guided meditation. You have to visualize. You have to breathe to 5. You see, all that is linked to a certain activity and doingness again. But on that day, I allowed myself to be. I just breathed the way that felt most natural to me. I didn’t care if it was too fast or too slow. I didn’t care about a specific breathing technique. I just sat there, centering in the heart and feeling all black in front of me. But it’s not black as in sadness. It’s stillness. It’s the nothingness. And that reminded me of our essence. We are pure energy beings. We co-create physical matter from the nothingness. I’ve heard some call it the “zero point.” I n the nothingness there is everything. And when you allow your thoughts to calm down, there comes peace. There is no need for striving hard. For working hard. Peace is as natural as breathing. You can’t strive for peace. It’s a natural state of being that arises once you dare to no longer pay attention to any thoughts. And every time, I come out of the meditation that I call the “no thought meditation,” I feel more rested. I feel more inspired. I feel more alive. Not from doing a lot, but from doing nothing. I learned the most important lesson in my life. Inspiration doesn’t come from doing more; it comes from being more. Clarity doesn’t come from worrying more; it comes from being more. Solutions don’t arise from thinking more; they come from being more. Because suddenly out of the “nothingness” there is the “everything.” It’s the dichotomy that some spiritual gurus have talked about in the past. You realize that the inspiration you search for isn’t found in a book but within yourself. You realize the clarity you crave isn’t found in another energy reading, but within yourself. You realize the solutions you crave arise when you choose not to believe your thoughts. Because then you often don’t need solutions anymore. You heal the pattern that caused the problem to arise in the first place. When you no longer believe your thoughts and emotions, a lot of problems will disappear. Just like when there are no clouds in the sky, there will be no rain. In other words, no drama without dramatic thoughts. No problems without problematic thoughts. Then there comes a point of allowance. You can allow everything to be exactly as it is. And then there is like magic happening. You move back to the natural flow of life. Effortlessy. Without striving hard. Without doing more. Without working hard. Without trying so much. Just by allowing yourself to be more and taking more time to sit in stillness. Enjoy your own presence. That has solved half of my problems without doing anything. Afterwards you realize if you still carry those thoughts with you, then it’s a conscious choice. But then you can’t blame anyone else. Then you want the problems. You have fun with the problems. Because you now realize you create the problems yourself.
There is an increasing number of health problems, diseases and illnesses. The number is increasing. No matter if it’s viruses, cancer or mental health issues, the numbers are on the rise worldwide. That can be quite alarming. Although in today’s world, we have access to different technologies and healing methods like never before, there is something beneath the surface that’s hard to ignore. A disease is more than just a disease. To our human mind that often thinks in logical terms, it’s a disease. So, we’ve learned to treat the symptoms and get some pills to function as soon as possible. But ever wondered what’s behind a disease on a deeper level? E.g. out of a spiritual perspective? There can be all kinds of reasons. What’s important to understand is that we don’t just have a physical body. We have a mental body, an emotional body, an energetic body, an etheric body. They are not all visible to the human eye and that’s why we start doubting it. But healing on an energetic level can accelerate our healing journey in ways we may never consider or even imagine possible with the human mind. One very curious observation about humanity is we doubt alternative healing methods such as energy healing but we don’t doubt the existence of a radio. Interesting, isn’t it? Basically, the radio consists of electricity. It’s energy, too. You can’t see the electricity but you can hear the song on the radio. Each radio sender has a different frequency. That frequency determines which radio sender you listen to. You wouldn’t doubt that, would you? You exactly know if you don’t like some sort of music when you’re on your way to work in the morning, you’ll switch the sender. There’s no doubt about that. What if inner healing worked the same? What if a disease means you’re plugged into a reality that has certain characteristics and as a result, you get to experience certain events? Now some people would argue a disease is mean and unfair. And without a doubt, it can be life changing and nerve-wracking and can be filled with emotional ups and downs. But seeing a disease the same way we see a radio, would you say a music sender that plays very loud and inconvenient music is mean and unfair? No, it’s an experience. If you don’t like that experience or type of music, you’ll switch the sender. So often it’s just our mind calling that disease mean and unfair. On a deeper level, nothing is mean or unfair. It’s simply an experience. When you start to identify with it all, that’s often where the true suffering starts. So sometimes it’s not about condemning the disease, it’s about opening up to new perspectives. New perspectives can actually accelerate or even facilitate your healing journey. Instead of calling the disease mean and unfair you could be asking: Why am I experiencing it? What is it co-creating deep down? What’s my energy like? What’s going on in my internal world? Those could be some questions to ask to become curious. The same way we would ask ourselves why we listen to that sender on a specific radio realising we’re plugged into a certain frequency. When we change our frequency from within, we start vibrating at a different level. The same as a radio. The result? We change our outer reality. Because our outer reality is not so real after all. It’s a reflection of the inside reality. Here lies the great potential and opportunity. To heal from the inside out. It doesn’t mean that classical healing methods are bad. Not at all. There are so many different healing methods. However, we often just treat the symptoms, not the root cause. So, this is an invitation to look a bit deeper, to not just treat the symptoms but get closer to the root cause. It would be the same for a radio. If you don’t like a music sender, you can turn down the volume, you can attack it with your hands, you can yell at it and you may not listen to it for a while but that’s not really solving the problem, is it? That’s what we sometimes do with diseases. We take pills and undergo surgeries that kill our cells or where we’re even more likely to experience heavy side effects. Not really true healing. But we often ignore the fact, which by the way, is also known to scientists, that everything is energy. Even our cells vibrate. Our cells react to energy and different vibration levels. This is not a healing promise. It simply serves as some sort of inspiration to open up to new perspectives on healing. In the end, everyone has to find their own healing journey and what feels best to them. If you're interested in learning more how you can shift your reality and tune into another energy and get some practical inspiration for your daily life, check out my Masterclass: Co-create the life of your dreams. You'll learn how to shift your energy and become an energetic match towards your dreams or desired outcome.
I remember when I was a teenager, maybe 15 years old, I was first interested in spirituality. Back then, it wasn’t “normal.” You could hear things like “You’re too young.” Or “You can do something like that when you’re older.” And for a while I thought there was something wrong with me. Maybe I wasn’t normal. But what I’ve learned is your craziness becomes your uniqueness one day. At first you really think you’re not normal, but then again, you ask yourself, what’s being normal in the first place? Being normal is being someone that often follows society's expectations. Get an education, get a job, get a car, get a house, get kids. If you’re not adhering to those society expectations, you’re often considered not “normal." And it’s obvious. That’s what most people know. “Not normal” simply means you’re not doing what society generally knows or expects you to do. But here’s a curious observation: A lot of people following those exact footsteps of getting an education, getting a car, a house and kids increasingly suffer from burnout or a feeling of emptiness. Isn’t that interesting? In a time where the world is full of possibilities, the number of burnouts is increasing too? When I was younger and I was drawn to spirituality, I was never really interested in any particular spiritual practises. I just felt there was more to life than what the human eye could see. I was curious to learn more about myself and the world. Soon after I joined spiritual communities, I realized how many struggles they had themselves. How many ideas and concepts they held that didn’t align with me personally. It didn’t align with me back then to eat vegan. It didn’t align with me to do yoga or travel to India or meditate all day long. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but it simply wasn’t my personal idea of how I wished to lead life. However, deep down in my heart, I just knew I came here for more. I just couldn’t name it or didn’t know what it was. I always felt drawn to writing and while I could perceive some ideas and visions of what I really felt like doing in life, they all sounded too crazy for my own mind. So indeed, I followed society’s expectations and went into education instead. I turned my back on spirituality. And for a couple of years, I would often act against my inner desires without realizing it. I thought I needed to get the money, the house and the job to be happy and live the life I love. Boy, was I wrong. Soon after I entered the corporate world, I felt how much competition there was. How much rivalry. How much jealousy. No one would talk about it. It’s not just competition in your own team but amongst companies. Amongst your competitors. Doing a competitor analysis was once part of my daily tasks. Until one day, this all didn’t feel aligned anymore. It was not something obvious, but deep in my heart, it felt so useless. To cut the story short, this time I made myself a promise. I would no longer ignore the whisper of my heart. I would no longer ignore my feeling that was telling me that the path I was on didn’t feel like my path. There was a bit of confusion. The spiritual communities didn’t entirely feel aligned. The corporate world didn’t either. I just wanted to create a life on my terms. I didn’t want to follow any pre-existing ideas of how to live life. I wanted to live with more purpose and passion just the way I am. Back then, little did I know what I could do instead. I always admired others who had a passion like painting or acting and now they became painters or actors. I thought I had no gifts or talents like that. Boy, was I wrong. As soon as I discovered more about myself, for the very first time I discovered gifts and aspects I didn’t even know I had. And soon I noticed how there’s an infinite amount of possibilities and potentials within each single one of us. I was amazed. Why we can’t see those potentials is because they’re dormant. We often don’t nurture our dreams and desires enough. It’s a bit like a flower. If you don’t nurture the seeds regularly, no flower can grow. I was at a point where I was no longer satisfied with the status quo. I started to follow my heart. At the beginning I was scared. I was scared of what other people would think of me. I was scared if it wasn’t working out. I was scared I would fail so hard and have to go back to my old job. But one day, you learn to embrace those fears and at some stage, you learn to turn the page. You’re now more scared of going back to your old job than being scared of doing your own thing. And there comes a point where the outer opinions of people become less and less important to you. Not because you don’t care, but you realize it’s your life, not theirs. You’re not here to make others happy; you’re here to experience more of yourself. The most important thing is to follow your heart. Then everything that is meant for you will come to you. It comes from a place of inner alignment. Not from a place of pushing or fighting for a goal. That was the miracle I saw. In the corporate world it all felt like hard work and pushing all the time. When you follow the heart, it’s the other way round. You can’t really push or fight for a goal. If you do, then most likely, something is not truly aligned otherwise you wouldn’t have to push. It doesn’t mean there aren’t any challenges. But pushing often happens in the mind. The mind makes us believe we have to make certain things happen. But sometimes it’s just an image we have. Like some people may have the image of achieving a certain job title “to be someone” or to have made it. But who defines that? Those images are created in your own human mind, not in the heart. And now that we have those ideas in the human mind, we think we have to achieve certain things. We start pushing, hustling. Once you spot the ideas and limiting concepts in your mind, you realize what a natural flow there is when you allow your heart to take over instead. There is a power about the heart. It’s like a technology. It’s where AI can never get. AI is fed by humans. But your heart is greater than you can currently think. It’s beyond all your limitations, where everything you long for is possible. Where everything you long for is already within you. Yes, it sounds surreal. But once you tap into the energy of your heart, you understand what I’m talking about. And so I made it my mission to follow my heart. To let my heart guide me in my business, in my daily decisions, in my relationships, in my health, basically in any aspect of my life. Not only did it bring me so much more joy, healing and a sense of purpose, but also it feels much more aligned with who I am. Is it always easy? Oh no. I’ve gone through moments of pure frustration and despair. But those moments helped me to shed a little more of the ideas I created in my mind. Sometimes, it’s very hard because you go against the norms that are known in society. People would give you odd looks, “Are you crazy, you give up your safe job? You give up the security?” And as Sadhguru once put it so nicely in a video, “Security is what you have on your grave.” Then indeed, nothing can happen anymore. If you want security, you don’t want life. You will usually settle for less. You will usually be too scared to take risks. You will usually be too scared of going against the norm. Because that’s security. You feel secure in your body when you don’t stick out. When you do as you were told to do. When you want security, you often want comfort. But you don’t grow in comfortable situations. You grow when you’re challenged. The biggest learning lessons in my life didn’t appear when I felt comfortable. They happened when I was either so uncomfortable or in the middle of a challenge or even a painful situation. It doesn’t mean pain is necessary to grow. But sometimes I realized I wouldn’t have changed otherwise. The pain becomes bigger when we’re unwilling to adapt, change or transform. When the heart screams “Yes” and our mind goes “No” or vice versa. When we do things and say yes to tasks and people when deep down the heart screams “no”. You have to choose who you trust. Do you choose life or security? Do you choose your heart or your mind to guide you? Do you choose to do it like everyone else does and most likely follow society's expectations, or do you do what feels most aligned with your heart even though it may go against all expectations? You choose. Sometimes people say they don’t have any other choice and my younger self thought the same. Today I am convinced we all have a choice. Not choosing is also a choice. 10 August 2025 by Laura Becker