The importance of finding out what you want and taking action

I really had to confront myself with that.

But looking back I found, knowing what you do not want can be a first step. Because looking at each single point what you do not want can help you turn it around. I just did not see it back then. Not wanting a 9-5 job means I want to work in a very flexible and convenient way which most likely is only possible when you are self-employed or doing something that aligns with that. Not wanting to live in that city means I most likely want to move.

And that is where it becomes tricky.

Whenever there is change arising, there is most likely also fear and doubt arising. We may say “well that job is not that bad” or “what if it does not work out”. And I remember when I waited for too long. Not knowing what I was waiting for. Maybe I was hoping that a miracle would unfold. But that was quite naive.

I started to do a lot of meditation back then and it definitely helped me to calm my mind but it did not change my everyday life.

So I learned that becoming aware what you do not want and then figure out what you do want as a result, as well as quieting the mind through meditation are all wonderful tools. But I was lacking the most important piece. And that piece was the key why things were not changing in my life.

I was not taking action. And I only learned this later after months of desperation and sadness. Of course I also had positive moments but also a lot of frustration and despair. And I want to pass it on to you in case you are at a similar point in your life. 

We are the Creator of our own life. What we are experiencing in our current reality is a reflection of our thoughts, emotions and beliefs we have deep inside. And from those thoughts, emotions and actions we say and act a certain way. 

So if we want to change something in our current reality that does no longer align or does not fulfil us, we need to change the way we think, feel, belief, speak and act about it. Venting is fine, it is part of life, but if we only vent and complain and we do it for too long, nothing will happen. It will become even worse and even more difficult to get out of it.

So, the trick I found is to take action. Even if it is just a little step. Even if you just write an idea in your journal, or even if you read and article on how to tackle doubts. Only when we take action even the smallest steps by just reading or listening to something can help.

But most often that is where the fear, doubt, resistance or procrastination will kick in. Where most people stop. Where they give up on dreams and prefer their comfort zone.

If I had preferred my comfort zone, I would still be stuck in an unfulfilled 9-5 everyday life.

So I got teachers and mentors who went before me, I learned from then and then found my own way and I made it my mission to help others now.

Action is really a secret recipe here. It goes beyond visualisation and meditation. Although that can be helpful too at the beginning. When we just visualise without taking action in a new direction, most likely the abundant life is not going to come.